Boyfriend trouble..HELP!?
my bf is 20 im 13...14 in april.
Anyway the other night i was talking to his half sister who is also my best friend and she said the night before he called her dad. Her dad said he was as high as a kite it really made me mad. her mom is suspicious of us to and would rather have him do weed then do me.
im so confused.
i really like him but i want him to stop drinkin underage and illegal drugs.
what i say to him?
Im not going to brek up with him becuz he really likes me you can tell.
Anway when he knew i foud out about him being high he said he felt guilty.
im not to young to handle this.
2007-12-24 04:47:57 · 89 answers · asked by Nerd. 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ew.why is he so old?
pedofile.
2007-12-24 04:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 5 · 13⤊ 1⤋
How can you possibly think that your old enough to handle all this? Whether you believe it or not, the facts are this:
1. Your still too young to fully understand the dynamics of an adult relationship.
2. Your so called boyfriend is breaking the law. I don't care HOW close to 14 you are, he's just as close to 21.
3. Your PARENTS are horrible parents for even letting this happen.
Ten years from now you will lament all this crap and wonder WHERE the hell your childhood was. You'll be broke, divorced, a single mother and wondering to yourself what the hell happened.
2007-12-26 07:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 20 year old who dates a 13 year old is not right in the head. You're gonna do what you want until you learn from life experience anyway. But since you asked-I would say cut him off. Your brain and body are still developing. Give yourself a chance. Have fun with your friends and let yourself grow as a person. Concentrate on creating a beautiful you from the inside out. Make an appointment to talk with your school counselor-It's illegal for him to be messing with you, and you will feel better when you talk to someone about it. Good luck
2007-12-24 05:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by GirlofSummer 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He could get in trouble with the law for dealing with a girl under the legal age, in addition to the illegal drug use. Since you say you won't break up with him, I think all you can do is tell him you think he should stop getting high. Tell him how you really feel about what he is doing. You cannot change a person if they don't want to change. Is there some reason he feels driven to get high? Does he have a problem that he is trying to escape from? Ask him why he does the things that he does. All you can do is talk to him. The rest is up to him.
2007-12-24 04:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by DANGEROUS WHEN THREATENED 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from him and FAST. Do your parents know you are seeing a 20 yr old man? Seriously, there is a big problem here, and I know you can't see it because you are in the middle of it. But it points to a serious mental issue when a 20 yr old man is dating a 13 yr old girl. You think I am just some old dude who is coming down on you, but I'm not. I have seen this so many times and for your own sake really and honestly, you need to step away from this as soon as you can. Take a lesson well learned and move forward with your life. He has stolen your innocence, don't let him steal your future as well.
2007-12-24 04:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by CB 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol, say what you will, but he's 20, and you're 13 or 14, so I'll tell you right now, he's a creep. I don't care what you say, any dude that's 20 messing with a 14 yr old has serious problems, and he drinks and does drugs, and you don't want to break up with him? I know you think you're a big girl, and in lots of ways you probably are very mature for your age, but if you can't see that this guy is no good, then you're not yet grown up and fully mentally aware of what is right and wrong.. Good luck!
2007-12-24 04:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of this guy is wayy older than u. Seems to me hes only after one thing and it aint love. Hes rly sick to be a grown man dating a child!! u just turned into a teenager!! and forget that age is just a number crap. Hes an adult and ur a child! Second its illegal for u guys to be together. If the police find out u and him could get in alot of trouble. He cant do u cuz its a form of rape. Second U need to talk to him about his drinking and drug use. I mean do u rly want a 20 yr old bf who takes drugs? What if hes drunk and high one night and hurts u or pressures u to do something? He may love u and b nice when hes not high but ppl change when they get high and get drunk. U should say u feel uncomfterable around him when hes like that. if he loves u enough he will stop. If he doesnt he rly doesnt love u. He should b able to do anything 4 u. If he doesnt stop i would break up with him. u rly shouldnt be around that kind of person. but if u wanna date a drunk drugie go ahead. Use ur brain and do the right thing.
2007-12-24 04:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
You ARE too young to be with a 20 year old guy. Its NOT a good thing that he is 20 and immature.
Trust me, I thought I was a big kid too when i was in jr high and highschool, but looking back, any woman will agree that we were all naive and stubborn and thought we knew everything. And all of us that DIDN'T listen to the women that told US the same exact thing, really wish we did.
Good luck turbo, find a boy your age and don't be playin with the boys that are 20 dating a 13 year old and gettin stoned and drinking. He needs to grow up and let you be young.
There will be plenty of time for immature men when you are a woman. Right now you are a teenager, be one.
2007-12-24 04:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by ihti 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes you are too young. That guy sounds like a no good young girl life stealer that should go to jail.. I mean gross, would you want to date a pedophile? I blame it on the parents for not taking serious actions. If you stay with him, he will only waste your life and hold you down from what you want to do, I mean next thing you know you'll be a high school dropout and he will be complaining about how you don't spend enough time with him. AND THEN.. he will probably offer you a bunch of drugs and ****
2007-12-24 04:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by What the hall? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you may think you are not too young, but you are. You need to walk away from anyone who is self destructive. If he is that old and went after a 13 year old to begin with, that tells me right away he is too immature. Soooooooooooo many boys have claimed to feel guilty to only go right back to their bad behavior.
Remember - you cannot force anyone to change. You can only create an atmosphere that allows a person to want to change. He cannot REALLY respect a 13 year old's opinion at age 20, so you will never be able to even create an atmosphere.
Walk away quickly and get your life together. There are plenty of 16 year olds who can drive so you will not have to walk anywhere.
Where are YOUR parents in all this? They should be filing rape charges by now.
2007-12-24 04:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by infernoo1 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow I don't know where to start, but I'll start with the age difference. Though i don't know you, and I'm not trying to bullshit you but you being 13 and him being 20, thats a huge age difference. And it is illegal depending on your state laws.
And I believe you are too young to handle this, you may be mature for your age but he isn't. I think you should say goodbye to this guy and wait, finish up with school and wait for another guy to come around.
Now I'm not saying to abandoned him completely, one way you can help him with the whole underage drinking is tell him to stop and tell him to make a new years resolution, to stop drinking. Tell his mom you care about him and you want to put him into rehab.
Anyway have a safe and happy holidays!
2007-12-24 04:57:41 · answer #11 · answered by Alex M 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋