Is this against the Bible? if my friend who is a boy lives with me?

Question

He has family problems and his family is not going to pay for his college. He's really poor and the same age as me. He said he'll go wherever I go..when we're 18
I know it's bad if a boyfriend lives with you before marriage but for some reason I feel kind of bad if a friend who is a guy lives with me even though we're not getting married. Like is it a sin or what?
My friends always live together and they seem fine but they're girls.

oh ^_^ so it's fine then right?

AAHH!! i said we are not a couple did I?
I am not going to have sex with him!!

He is a Buddhist, he is trained very well not to lust
my uncle is a Buddhist monk so I do have that influence on me as well

good idea!! I'll get a 2 bedroom apartment yay :D thank you

Answer 1

its not against the Bible if your not doing anything bad with him. Its actually a good thing that you are doing - helping someone in need.

Answer 2

So many Christians get all up tight about premarital sex and shout loud and clear it is a sin to do so...let me assure you it is NOT a sin. The church likes to make people think it is for the simple reason it can make money for the church. Not as much today as it once did but still makes money.

God gave us sex to be enjoyed! And you don't have to be married to do so, and I can prove it if you read below.

Please read the information I have provided here and get a much better understanding of premarital sex...

http://www.libchrist.com/bible/premaritalsex.html

http://www.libchrist.com/bible/adultery.html

http://libchrist.com/bible/faithof.html

I don't want to bog you down but if you take the time to read this information I believe it will answer your questions and it is all Bible based. Can or will anyone else offer such resources other than spouting a few Bible verses...I too am very much a Christian believer...but I never accepted something just because a preacher said it was so. I investigated many sources to get at the truth.

Go ahead and live with your friend there is nothing wrong about it at all.

Answer 3

I know you may think this is possible, but here is some information I found helpful.

So-called platonic relationships (affectionate relationships between men and women into which the sexual element does not enter) are quite popular among youths. Claims 17-year-old Gregory: “It’s easier for me to talk to girls because they’re usually more sympathetic and sensitive.” Other youngsters argue that such friendships help them develop a more rounded-out personality.

The Bible urges young men to treat “younger women as sisters with all chasteness.” (1 Timothy 5:2) By applying this principle, it is indeed possible to enjoy clean, wholesome friendships with members of the opposite sex. The apostle Paul, for example, was a single man who enjoyed a number of friendships with Christian women. (See Romans 16:1, 3, 6, 12.) He wrote of two “women who have striven side by side with me in the good news.” (Philippians 4:3) Jesus Christ also enjoyed balanced, wholesome association with women. On numerous occasions, he enjoyed the hospitality and conversation of Martha and Mary.—Luke 10:38, 39; John 11:5.

Nevertheless, a “platonic” friendship is often little more than a thinly disguised romance or a way to get attention from someone of the opposite sex without commitment. And since feelings can easily change, there is a need for caution. Warned Dr. Marion Hilliard: “An easy companionship traveling at about ten miles an hour can shift without warning to a blinding passion going a hundred miles an hour.”

Sixteen-year-old Mike learned this when he became “friends” with a 14-year-old girl: “I quickly found out [that] two people cannot stay just friends when they keep seeing each other exclusively. Our relationship kept growing and growing. We soon had special feelings for each other, and we still do.” Since neither is old enough to marry, those feelings are a source of frustration.

Too much close association can have yet sadder consequences. One youth tried to comfort a female friend who confided in him about some of her problems. Before long, they were petting. The result? Troubled consciences and bad feelings between them. With others, sexual relations have resulted. A survey taken by Psychology Today revealed: “Almost half the respondents (49 percent) have had a friendship turn into a sexual relationship.” In fact, “nearly a third (31 percent) reported having had sexual intercourse with a friend in the past month.”

‘But I’m not attracted to my friend and would never get romantically involved with him [or her].’ Perhaps. But how might you feel in the future? Besides, “he that is trusting in his own heart is stupid.” (Proverbs 28:26) Our hearts can be treacherous, deceptive, blinding us to our true motives. And do you really know how your friend feels about you?

In his book The Friendship Factor, Alan Loy McGinnis advises: “Don’t trust yourself too far.” Take precautions, perhaps confining your association to properly supervised group activities. Avoid inappropriate displays of affection or being alone in romantic circumstances. When you are troubled, confide in parents and older persons rather than a youth of the opposite sex.

And what if, in spite of safeguards, unshared romantic feelings develop? “Speak truth,” and let the other person know where you stand. (Ephesians 4:25) If this does not settle matters, it might be best to keep your distance. “Shrewd is the one that has seen the calamity and proceeds to conceal himself.” (Proverbs 22:3) Or as the book The Friendship Factor puts it: “Bail out if necessary. Once in a while, no matter how much we try, a friendship with the opposite sex gets out of hand and we know where it is going to lead.” Then, it is time to “back away.

I hope that helps

Answer 4

No, sweet girl, it is against YOU! It defiles you. If you are Christian, your body is God's temple. Sex outside of marriage defiles you and God cannot look on sin. Is that what you really want? The ways of the world are not the ways of God. It's up to you to choose either the world or God.

For me, the choice is clear! God bless and Merry Christmas!

EDIT: You might not PLAN to have sex, but a man and woman living in close proximity with each other, is just asking for disaster. If you live with him, it WILL happen. You're human, after all!

Answer 5

Two issues: the first, obvious issue is the prospect of premarital sex....something you need to avoid.

The second is the living arrangements. If it is just you and he sharing an apartment, that's problematic. However, if he is living in your family home or you have other housemates and there are no co-ed sleeping arrangements, you should be fine.

Answer 6

In essense, no.

You do have to consider, though, that we aren't to put ourselves in a situation where there could be temptation.

If there is even a slight possibility of romantic involvement, then I would advise against it.

I myself, however, did have a guy friend live in my spare bedroom for about a month before I got married. His parents kicked him out, and he needed to save for a deposit on an apartment.

Just be honest with yourself before making the decision.

Answer 7

If you aren't sharing the same bed (carnal knowledge) the sin would be the appearence of evil. I am male, and I shared a house with a male friend, and I suppose some people disapproved, but we were doing nothing wrong. I haven't shared housing with a female friend, but percieve that that might be excessive temptation.

Answer 8

You are taking a risk out of compassion. Being in the same house unchaperoned allows the two of you to make mistakes that you would not have that opportunity to make otherwise. Wouldn't it be wiser to find accommodations for your friend that lowered the risk for both of you?

Answer 9

Hi am Neika and no its not a sin only if yell are havin sex, than thats where the sin comes in

Answer 10

Of course it is fine, just make sure he doesn't do anything to make you feel uncomfortable.