What do you tell some one who lost thier Spouce when they now feel hopeless?

Question

There is this person who lost spouce a few years ago and they havent found a new one. They feel soo depressed and I cant seem to get them to fell better. This person is very depressed. Can some one give me insight into what I could say to make them feel better.
Emailing me wouldnt be a bad idea, just in case they are trolling this forum.

Thanks in advance

Answer 1

I don't tell them anything. I listen to them instead. There isn't any easy and quick answer to give them, nor is there a solution that works for everyone. All you can do is be there for them, and make sure they are aware of this.

Answer 2

First,) do what you can to improve their diet, paying especial attention to the "B" vitamins. Second) more exercise probably will help- could you encourage that? Third. this time of your many people suffer from SAD (SEASONAL AFFECTIVE DISORDER ) due to lack of sunlight. I don't suppose learning a little about it would hurt any depressed person, so I will post this, with best wishes. There are a few other things, --sleep disorders, dehydration, thyroid imbalance come to mind.-- I've no doubt missed a few. If you can find a competent physician, it might be a good idea to consult. Blessings.

Answer 3

It takes time to heal from this sort of thing, I have a friend with a family whom lost their spouse five years ago now and all I can say is be there for your friend even if it is just hanging out being there to talk or reading a news paper (get what I am saying) The holidays are always hard on my friend beings that his b-day was right around this time of year (kinda a double whammy). It saddens me to hear about your friend, may they have peace and good will.

Answer 4

I have learned to practice the "ministry of presence."

I find it hard to have the right words to say at difficult times; especially for people I really care about. I find it easier to just be honest about that and say, "I won't even pretend to know what to say right now or to know how you feel. I just want you to know that I am here for you. Let me know what you need and I will do my best to make it happen."

Sometimes just being there to love your friend through a troubled time is the best thing you can do for them.

You don't have to say the right thing. Just be there.

A Christian band , Casting Crowns, has a song titled "Love Them Like Jesus". Listen to it if you would like. It explains this answer in song.

Answer 5

I really don't think that you can say anything to make your friend feel better. He/She has to go through their own grieving process. For some people the healing is slower than for others. Your friend should probably talk to a councelor or a pastor to help them deal with their feelings. My Dad passed away 5 and a 1/2 months ago and it has been very hard on My Mom and myself, but we talk about him all of the time. My Mom talks to her pastor as well. Talking about him helps both of us and knowing that he's with our Lord watching over our family is comforting.

Answer 6

In a case like this, the best thing you can do is let them know you are there for him/her. There is no way to make a depressed person happy -- they have to do that themselves. It is up to all of us to support our friends and loved ones as best as we are able to, but don't expect to be able to just make someone happy, as it just doesn't work that way.

Answer 7

There's honestly nothing you can do but be their friend. They have to deal with this trauma (probably the most immense trauma they will ever have) in their own way. However, you can take them to movies, play cards, etc if they feel up to it. Anything to keep them from being alone all the time. You are very sweet to be concerned. :)

Answer 8

2.45] And seek assistance through patience and prayer, and most surely it is a hard thing except for the humble ones,

Answer 9

Sigh. maybe the people bugging them about their single lonly status is what is depressing them.