Women: Why do we go for assholes? What type of guy do you go for most?

Question

What type of guy do you go for most?

The confident ones usually turn out to be jerks or cheaters.
And the nice ones... well I don't know i like bad guys but it always bites me in the ***.

Answer 1

Girlz just remember, it's not always that black/white. A guy is usually not either a nice guy or an ******. I know at different points in my life I've been considered both. I'll say this.

You know that guy we are in the beginning? The really sweet guy that opens your door, talks to you on the phone for hours, can't wait to be around you and hangs on every word you say? That's not an act. We're having just as much fun in that stage as you are. You think we eventually change back to our "real self". What about you? In the beginning, you laugh at our (guys) faults. We lose our keys, you think it's cute. We work late, you admire our work ethic. Somewhere along the line, you change on us. You're now irritated every time we forget or lose something (or lose track of time) You spend more time complaining about us than complimenting us. So what do we do? We go back to doing the things that made us happy before we met you. Because, well you're just not as fun as you used to be. And then you say that we aren't who we said we were in the beginning. Hmmm. Are you?

Answer 2

I go for the sweet guy with a confident personality, but usually they turn out to be assholes later on. I just wish they'd reveal who they are from the start it would save me a lot of time.

Answer 3

via fact extreme high quality adult men continually hang returned and permit the "assholes" get all the ladies, reason they havent have been given the balls to stand up for themselves or what they prefer and because maximum extreme high quality adult men are Nerds, women prefer a guy who is going to behave like a guy and not take a seat in front of his pc all day taking part in Suduko or watching enormous call trek or some sh*t, God forbid you acted like a guy and made the 1st pass until now the "assholes" have been given a raffle to, yet what might human beings say.......might you be no longer so extreme high quality anymore.....

Answer 4

When I was a teenager I was going for assholes, you're right. Probably because I wanted other people to think "SHE changed him" or "Bad guy falls in love". So it was all about my ego.

But then I grow up, saw me or anyone else can change a person (only guy's himself can change himself) AND I started go after deeper things. Assholes don't turn me on anymore, they just make ma laugh.

Answer 5

I dont understand why you go out with the so call bad guys then call them jerks but a guywho will treat you right you dont want nothing to do with them i feel the woman who do this have no selfworth thats sad cause your better then that

Answer 6

I don't know what to think anymore, to be quite honest. Which is somehow liberating. I am coming back to what is called "beginners mind" in Buddhism.

All people have their dark sides, which are bound to be revealed when we least expect it. I too have a thing for bad boys, but I am learning not to act on this attraction or to end it as soon as the guy reveals his "monster."

Sadly, I have found that the nice quiet guys have their inner "monsters," too. Loners are alone for a reason. Quiet people are often keeping secrets and at the very least have not learned how to communicate openly and honestly. Who knows what little (or big) surprises will be revealed down the line? One of my most recent "nice, quiet" guys has turned out to be basically a stalker--at least on the phone. Who knows what's next? Another guy I met recently appeared to be an intellectual and a freethinker--very politically aware--but as time rolled on it became clear that he also has a serious sexual addiction, so out of control, that until he wakes up he will hurt a lot of people and eventually wind up a lonely old man whose only outlet will be cyberporn and cybersex with other lonely cybersex addicts. A modern-day "Don Giovanni"...Sad...

I'm just trying to hang in there and not let it make me bitter or cynical. Someday, somewhere, I will meet the right one for me. Maybe it is unrealistic to expect perfection, but we can set limits. Let's just say there are "monsters," and there are "MONSTERS." Abuse, active addictions, cheating, lying, etc. are deal breakers. The rest, if harmless, is just the stuff that will come up in all of us when we fall in love. It's coming up to be released or healed. Love is transformative. I still believe in true love, in spite or in light of the jerks, trolls, players, pick up artists, and posers. These guys are just showing me what I don't want so that I can get clear on what I do want: a nice honest guy who is self-confident enough to approach me, who is sexy but not out of control, who communicates, who fights fairly, who is fun and yet responsible, who is openminded but also has integrity and good ethics, who wants to be with me and knows he wants to be with me. I don't think this is too much to ask for, and until I meet this person, I will just live my life to the fullest--teaching, writing, singing, performing, being with friends, being with myself in solitude. Life is good, in any case.

Answer 7

I hate a**holes. I was only attracted to one and when I found out what he was I quickly lost interest. I don't really have a "type" it has to be someone real and mature who acts like he has sense and knows how to treat a lady. He has to be his own person nota carbon copy of every other dude out there. Looks don't really matter neither does money or social status. He just has to himself.

Answer 8

When you meet a guy,you see everything that's good and neglect his flaws. Later,they start to be too obvious to ignore and that leads to a brake up.
Women usually pick the wrong ones,I know.
I like guys who are funny and know how to treat a lady,but those are really hard to find. So,when I meet a guy and I like him and we start to date,I find out wether he is manipulative or ignorant or rude and that's the end.
That's just me.
xxx

Answer 9

i have this problem. no matter how much i go for a guy i think would be amazing, they always do something really jerkish. that's the type of guy i go for i guess. I go for sweet ones, but it's always their fake facade.

Answer 10

I don't think we go for them, but sometimes that happens to be what we get. That does not mean, we can't get rid of them.