I know I am not alone; I have people who care for me. I guess I just make Christmas out to be this "perfect" day that is supposed to be filled with cheer and fun times. I have a small family. Usually it's just my mom, brother, dad, and me for Christmas. I usually get together with a few of my friends before Christmas. How do you cope with feeling alone/depressed during the holiday season?
2007-12-24 03:16:45 · 9 answers · asked by zelda 2 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I acknowledged a long time ago, that Christmas, Thanksgiving, whatever - were just ordinary days all dressed up. I also realized I needed to put my expectations in check and as long as I was employed, healthy, had friends and loved ones - nothing else really matters. Holidays are just like every other day, no REAL reason to feel blue.
Also, just know that you can control your depression - it doesn't have to control you ~ Happy Holidays!
2007-12-24 03:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what your saying...
Every year i look forward to the day and i love watching the lights come on at my local plaza and always so excited for them, this year is different. It seems sad and i feel depressed not even really looking forward to this christmas. Im kind of going through a hard time maybe something is standing in the way of your happiness this christmas? The world doesnt stop for anyone, even if its almost christmas time if you know what i mean. We need this xmas to come and go! Everything will get better afterwards and then comes new years which is a fun fantastic night!
Good luck happy holidays!
2007-12-24 11:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by maltman17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I'm 45 and I've experienced minor feelings of depression during the winter months over the past few years. It's never been serious but it's obviously a chemical thing as I can't connect anything to it. A friend recommended St John's Wort supplement. It works great for me. I realize if this ever gets worse I may need other help but for now...
If it's not something chemical it may be spiritual or emotional. Sometimes we have high expectations of holidays, these expectations are rarely met. Be grateful for having a Dad AND a mom. Over half the kids in this country are living in broken homes. Be glad you have a brother, many don't have that either. Just be grateful for your family.
Lastly, and most importantly, you may be receiving a call from God. Christmas is about God and His love for us. Many of us have a void that is most felt at christmas time when God and the birth of his Son is most prominent in our society. Try to find a good bible-based church and attend a christmas eve service. Pray for God to guide you to him.
If you aren't sure what church to go to, you can visit willowcreek.com. They have a directory of modern biblical churches. If you like more traditional worship you can go to a church of your denominational preference.
If you find a little of what you are seeking but the church doesn't feel like home, go to another one. Keep asking God to guide you.
I'll bet you can find what you're missing by attending a christmas eve church service..
Merry Christmas.
2007-12-24 11:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by SolaFide 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel lonely every holiday season of every year, but these last few years I've been lonely and depressed because I just want more out of the holiday. Things are just chaotic on the holiday. I never actually enjoy it til the day after, like today, which is my coping time. I eat A LOT. Yummy yummy food for my tummy.
2007-12-26 23:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by Fairy Dust 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you feeling lonely if your with family and friends ?
The point is that you're together and not the amount of people.
I had to deal with a guy who shot his brains out yesterday because he hated Christmas so much. Christams / New Year is the time for the highest rate of suicide then any other time of the year, people realise how they have ruined their lives and see no way out .
2007-12-24 11:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel depressed and very stressed out, to the point of getting anxiety attacks. I'm a mom. Maybe it would help you to know that the other members in your family are also quietly having those feelings. Also, just try lowering your expectations. Think of it as just a nice not necessarily "perfect" time.
2007-12-24 11:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by claudia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people feel this way and I think it is from all of the hype leading up to it and the expectations that are not realistic. No one has a "perfect" day.
I find that if I focus on what Christmas is really all about (Jesus Christ birth) then I don't feel that way. It's all about right perspective.
2007-12-24 11:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be and feel a part of your family and all its activities and celebrations. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!!!
2007-12-24 11:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by rathishvm1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read my question on the holiday blues. Maybe some of the answers will help you too. I don't know. Best Wishes.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Auy_zoMudY1aeWC8sPVdc7nsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071223194142AAC5h1g
2007-12-24 11:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by getusedtoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋