Went on a date with this guy. He seems cool and nice. The date went fine.On the way to dropping me off at home, i made the first move by holding hands with him, and before leaving the car i leaned to give him a smack on the lips. He texted me sayin he said he had a good time and that he would see me next week. That was a wednesday, its been 5 days and he hasn't called... what does this mean? was he turned off cuz i made some moves on him.. is he still interested?
2007-12-24 01:27:29 · 20 answers · asked by Alexia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know what his problem is. If you had made the first move with me, I'd still be hangin' around.
2007-12-24 01:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. Sounds like he may be giving you time with your own routine. He doesn't want to mix it up quite yet. It seems understandable considering the time of the year. It is NOT a turn off to a guy if the woman makes the first move. However, the woman now must understand what she has created by such an action. When the woman shows aggression on the first date, means that the male chase doesn't happen. A perfect first date ends where equal amounts of indicators of interest are shared. Clear signs that there is a next date. But you presented unwarranted affection. He may call on you only in times where affection is needed. If that's cool with you, then have at it.
2007-12-24 09:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Paul A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A truly good answer probably requires more details ( like how long between the date and the text from him?)but here's my take on it;
1)He's very shy and you spooked him, now he's afraid of the next date because he wonders how far that'll go.
2)He really wasn't into you and you're being blown off.
3)He's shy , wants you, but is too nervous to take the next step. You're going to have to call him and talk for this to get anywhere.
Personally, if someone texts rather than calls after a 1st date, that's not a good sign. They're either rude, scared, or not interested.
Sorry to sound negative, you do sound like a good catch so hopefully he'll contact you back.
2007-12-24 09:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by Patton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the one thing I can safely say is that he was not turned off by you making the first move. It's no big deal to make the first move.
Last time I checked a week is 7 days, so you still have 2 no?
Problem is that if he texted you instead of calling you that is usually a bad sign. If he doesn't call you back then it's his lose.
Luck!
2007-12-24 09:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does depend on the guy but genraly its not a turn off as its still just a simple way of saying ur atracted to him , its a complement to a guy if u do that , thats how i would feel complemented . i might be wrong but if he doesnt get in contact soon the chances are he just changed his mind as it was the first date . sounds like he wasnt sure what he wanted so he found that out for him self on the first date , i might be wrong ? men can do that and not feel like they have done any thing wrong even though it can hurt the women if u know what i mean ? or maybe like some others said here he could be wanting u to chase ? power thing lol
2007-12-24 09:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by jason m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the guy...I would not stress over it...If he had no intention of calling, he should not have said he would....if he wasn't going to call, I doubt sincerely if you kissing him would have made any difference....The guys in my house said they would LOVE a girl making the first move...don't worry...if he doesn't call, it was not meant to be and move on...have a great Christmas and wait for the one that is meant for you....
2007-12-24 09:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by Emme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not a turn off because a simple kiss on the cheek is no problem if he is a straight guy. If it was a turn off to him he would have turned away or even told you that it was not cool. This is a lesbian/bi test for him and he's probably trying to identify himself.
2007-12-24 09:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by scorpio79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he is playing hard to get. don't call him for 3 days and see what happens don't give him the upper hand.
you making the first move takes a lot of stress on the guy.
it was a good move but calling him before he calls you was not
good luck
2007-12-24 09:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by idgsid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has never been a turn off for me. I actually like it when the women makes the first move.
2007-12-24 09:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by corruptkerm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is perfectly fine. you can get alot of the old fashinoed type but this is what i do. by kissing him you show you are ready to kiss him so he doesn't have to worry about upsetting you. but you cna hint times you want him to kiss you so you are not intiating everything. Just let him know its ok. he may be caught up with other stuff. give it a while. he may be busy with x-mas and family.
2007-12-24 09:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by rainbowdancer58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I aint sure but i dont think giving a guy a kiss would put him off why dont u text him see what happens good luck & merry xmas XX
2007-12-24 09:31:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋