well i just called my lawyer about my daughters mother coming back after 15 years of no contact.?

Question

They have told me that her mother has every right to see her, and by law she is aloud a minum of 3 weekdays and 2 nights per week, since she hasnt done anthing illegal. do you think this is corect or should i be calling a different lawyer. my daughter is 15, and even though she refuses to see her mother, (kye has no respect for the women that abonded her when she was 1 month old, and i dont blame her, but i have never influnced her choice about this, i have never ever spoken a single bad word about her.) my lawer said that if i do not allow her mother, and force my daughter to see each other, that lana could sue me. any help please??

My daughters mother just walked into my house, after 15 years of no contact. why would she have done this.?
when i was 14 i got a girl pregnant in a one night stand. the girl was 18, and when i told my parents that we where going to keep the baby they kicked me out of home. i lived in a crappy flat with the girl, lana but we didnt date, or anything. then she gave birth to our beautifull daughter, who was named untill she was 2 months old. When our daughter was one month old lana left to go to the shop, and never came back. since then i have raised my daughter alone, without a single word from her mother, no child support or any help. i had tried to find her, but never with any luck. Yesterday lana nocked on my front door, and said that she "was back" kye (my daughter) dosent want to meet her. why did her mother come back?? can you give me any help!!

Answer 1

She is entitled to visitation. She is not entitled to have her daughter be nice to her or enjoy the visits.

And you and your daughter are entitled to about fifteen years of back child support. :D

Answer 2

This must feel like a nightmare.Of course you are angry at your ex and you have every right to be.Your daughter is probably feeling a lot of things right now and love for her mom is not probably one of them.I would seek the advice of a lawyer whose specialty is family law.It just doesn't seem right that a lawyer would say a parent is entitled to equal access under these circumstances.At the very least I would ask for supervised visits with a neutral party who can assist in these visits which are bound to be difficult for your daughter.I would suggest to your lawyer that for the first while that vivits are only a few hours so they aren't over whelming emotionally for your daughter.What does her mother think ,that she can walk back in after 15 years and say "What's new" and think she can pick up like nothing has happened.I would also be concerned why she suddenly reappeared after 15 years and no contact..I strongly urge you to get a good lawyer since you are entitled to protect your rights as well as those of your daughter.The courts may even recommend a seperate lawyer for your daughter.Someone should have explained to your ex a long time ago that with rights come responsibilities.Good luck.Take care.

Answer 3

Something about this doesn't seem right. Usually, after 2 years of no contact, the child is considered abandoned. At that time, you could have filed to have the mother's parental rights terminated. Unfortunately, it may be too late for that.
Just keep fighting. If the court order says your daughter must go to visitation, then she must go. But keep working to get it changed. I see no reason why a sorry excuse for a mother who abandoned her baby should have rights 15 years later. If she went so long without so much as helping to raise her daughter, she shouldn't be able to suddenly step in when it's convenient for her. Good luck and I hope things turn out in your favor.

Answer 4

I'd get a lawyer and let her sue you. Then your daughter will see that you are supporting her in her (rightful) decision not to see her mother. She will see that you did everything possible to avoid it.
Did you ever get a child support order from a court? If so you could go back to court and sue her for the 15 years child support. I would tell her when her child support is paid then she can see your daughter and not until.

I dont get where everyone is saying she would get 3days and 2 night every week either- I know many people with joint custody who dont get that but rather from fri to sun every other weekend.

Answer 5

Why did you let her into your house? At 15 years old, your daughter has the right to say she does not want to visit with her, and what her mother did by abandoning her was give up with visitation rights she once got. I would call a new lawyer, or have your daughter just tell her she doesn't want to see her. Don't let her into your house and tell her to get out of your lives. Eventually it will work. My ex came back into my sons life after a 17 year absence - it took about a year of harrasment to get him to go away, but he's been out of touch with us for almost a year now.

Good luck.

Answer 6

If it's her mother by birth, she (legally) has a right to the child. I'm sorry to say so, but custody laws can be very complicated. If the child is still a minor (which, if you're in the US, she is) then the mother is allowed a minimum of three days and two nights, and possibly more, but that's up to the discretion of the judge, on a case-by-case basis. If I were you, I'd get a hell of a lawyer to make sure that your case is presented in the proper context (mother wasn't present for 15 years, no contact with the mother, child doesn't want to see her mother) so that the judge can make the proper decision regarding custody.

Good luck.

Answer 7

I would make sure, but I think at 15 your daughter can refuse to see her. I knew of a kid who at the age of 10 was forced to visit his abusive father. The child took his electronics with him and refused to interact w/the dad. Eventually, the dad gave up.

This is the perfect time to teach your daughter forgiveness! Her mother was very young when she had her and she obviously couldn't cope. Praise God that you could! You and your daughter have alot of bitterness about your daughter's mother. Bitterness causes disease in the body and soul. It eats you alive.

Everyone makes mistakes. As long as this woman is not wanting to see Kye out of anything, but love then help your daughter get to know her. Give her the gifts of love and forgiveness. It will heal hear heart and help her to become a better person.

I know you must be dealing with anger and jealousy, but you must forgive. You're only hurting yourself and your daughter.

Answer 8

Where I live the mother would have to pay back the 15years on top of child support from then on just to see the child. You need to take to the courts and say that its been 15 years but you should have terminated her rights after 2 years.

Answer 9

You are right to be extremely upset. I'm sure you're probably already doing this, but remember to calmly talk with your daughter each time she has seen her mother about how she feels. It will help her cope with the stress of seeing this strange woman. Unfortunately, she does have the right to have visitation.

Answer 10

I think since your daughter is over 13, a judge will not force your daughter to see her mother. So really its up to your daughter. If she doesnt want to see her mother then you can take it to court and the judge will not make them visit.

Answer 11

properly, first issues first, in case you have under no circumstances stated any situation undesirable approximately her mom round her or to her your no longer organic, I advise your like great robot dad or some thing, bc I firmly belive that in the back of closed doorways all of us communicate undesirable approximately others, in front of our young ones, circuitously or rapidly! definite, i understand its incorrect, yet its real. yet regardless of, going forward, definite the mummy leaving became into very incorrect and it rather is her misplaced, no longer yours or your daugher, bc she won't in any respect get that factor returned, yet she could have been scared, and did no longer understand what else to do. human beings do this daily, they do no longer understand how behave in a difficulty so as that they do no longer behave in any respect. They do no longer something, human beings in long marriages, undesirable careers, human beings in undesirable circumstances in existence frequently. SO i think of that's what lana did. And it probably has haunted her daily for the reason that then. that's why now she is returned. So i think of that until now you run and pay all this funds to a lawyer, which you attempt having a communique with lana to make certain what her intentions are. And maximum of all carry her to blame, permit her understand basically how egocentric leaving became into, and permit her understand the wear she has laid at her daughters ft, and as quickly because it is executed attempt to head directly to a extra desirable area. in keeping with danger she shouldn't attempt and rigidity your daughter to return and stay yet in keeping with danger she could desire to attempt attending to appreciate her on mutual words.