It's been so long since the man I am married to made me feel alive. He is a good provider. All of the *things* I could want are around me. My children are well taken care of and happy. But, it's been nearly 6 years since he has acted like I am a human being. I am alone in my house. The last time we had sex, he stopped...mid-everything....and said that he was tired. I have become my OWN best friend in bed...I love someone...but that's a sad situation too...I guess I just wanted to know...is this really all I have to look forward to? YES, I have tried talking to him, seeing a counselor, etc. I take VERY good care of myself and look FAR younger than most women my age. (My 18 y.o. daughter and I get hit on by the same guys!!) I have tried being more *assertive* and *adventurous*...but, I guess I gave up and figured I would just wait it all out until the end. I guess my vows never said anything about him touching me...
2007-12-23 22:07:35 · 15 answers · asked by SG68 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the *someone* I mentioned loving..and that being sad...is not the cause of any problems...it is the result of them.
2007-12-23 22:26:51 · update #1
I'm sorry you sound so sad, perhaps now your children are grown up it is time for you to move on and reclaim your own life. Sad I know after so long but you do seem to have done everything you can to save your marriage maybe it's time to save yourself. Good luck
2007-12-23 22:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your oldest is 18- than the thoughts to leave are playing in mind--I know the feeling. Yes, unfortunately that is all there is! and no therapist is going to help you decide to leave your husband--a job for you alone--the bedroom thing, am there too- he has ED and the pills almost gave him a heart attack but what scares me even more is that he doesn't even miss the intimacy--someone else? I doubt it, but who EVER REALLY KNOWS FOR SURE--- if you are fortunate to have found love --go for it---how many years do we have to be happy? with the man you have now........0.......if the other guy is willing to commit to some sort of relationship with you....I say be HAPPY!!! did you ever think he may have found out he's gay?
2007-12-24 06:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear this. Im going thru a similar situation..except he does have sex with me.Although it aint exactly good for me! haha. Be grateful he doesnt have sex with you. Cos sex is only good if the guy really wants you and appreciates you. In your case, it seems like your just his wife..and hes just taking you for granted. IYou sound like you'r gorgeous, yet he still stopped during sex?? Is he perhaps depressed? Is there something wrong with him sexually..like a medical problem in his private region. I hope it gets better for you...i really do:) At least your not alone, eh. Some of us are in same or similar boat.
2007-12-24 06:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a shame. If you weren't so faithful, I could help you out. LOL I don't know what to tell you. Will he talk to you at all? Do he have a hard job? Maybe start wearing some sexy little thing around the house. Role playing. Dress up like a Nurse, or, go to bed with a limp. Hey, I'm just trying to help ya. Shhhh, write me later..........LOL
2007-12-24 06:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
baby have you ever though that the poor man may have a problem it is call erectile disfunction
that is the reason he stop in mid way
and he too embarase to talk to you about it
talk to him about seing a doc and have a heart to heart about his feeling for you I bet this man is still in love with you but havign his own problem ask him what does he think of your look be open as well as be patient
Good luck
2007-12-24 06:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is he seeing someone else as well? Seems that he is getting his needs met else where.
have a good chat to him - put everything out on the table, If you dont communicate, you will always be wondering and placing a burden on yourself.
2007-12-24 06:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would get my own hobbies and my own interests, and if he wants to come along then he can. i would also have sex with him spontaneously, like take him off guard and maybe he'll remember that he likes it.
he also might need to go see a doctor if he "isn't interested" in sex. there could be an underlying problem he isn't telling you about.
2007-12-24 07:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have a talk, ask him to attend marriage guidance/relate, if he refuses, say its over, and move on, because no you wont have a lot to look forward to will you?
2007-12-24 07:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Glitterbomb ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love someone? Maybe this is the problem with you and your husband.
2007-12-24 06:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by Primrose 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh dear I know how you feel I really do but I gave mine the heave ho
2007-12-24 06:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by Barbie V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋