do u ever have a time when u cant stop thinking about embarassing moments?

Answer 1

yes, you replay the tape in your head over and over and re-live the bad feelings. It can be intrusive sometimes. You can make yourself stop though. Tell yourself to live on planet positive, not planet embarrassing.

Answer 2

You will find that this is linked to having too much stress generally. When you are overly emotionally aroused, your "emotional brain" (The limbic system) starts looking for problems because it believes that we must be in some kind of danger (as a result of the stressed feelings). It wants to know what the problem is and if there is nothing immediately apparent, it will search the archives of the past to find potential problems to be on the look out for. Thus the brain will go over and over old "pain tapes" alerting you to the possibility of making the same mistake again. In fact though it simply makes things worse, because the emotional mind is primitive in nature and cannot tell the difference between real and imagined and each time you "remember" an embarrassing moment it feels emotionally as though it is actually happening all over again. This creates MORE emotional arousal which feeds straight back into the worry loop which makes your mind look for more things to remember and so on. It is VERY IMPORTANT that you get a grip on this process.....because this is how obsessional disorders begin. The problem is that you can get into the "habit" of worrying all the time and breaking habits is tough. The sooner you take seriously the fact that you cannot afford to continue obsessing about the past the better. There are two things you should be thinking about doing:
1) Reducing emotional arousal wherever possible...that means relaxing, staying POSITIVE, finding solutions to current difficulties, doing things you like to do, getting enough sleep etc...
2) Being absolutely clear in yourself that you will NOT continue to go over and over this old stuff. In pyschology it's a well accepted fact that we often FEEL feelings which are NOT TRUE. It is a mistake to believe that because you feel embarrassment that you SHOULD be embarrased.

You need to think very clearly about remembering that EVERYONE messes up sometimes, and that we learn from our mistakes. The quickest way forward is to welcome the lesson that experience taught us, make an agreement with ourselves to be mindful in the future of such a situation and then to REFUSE to beat ourselves up about it (noting that the lesson has been learned and we have chosen to forgive ourselves because we couldn't NOT make mistakes....making mistakes is totally inevitable!). We are our own harshest critics....learning to be kind to yourself is very important for good long term mental health!

Hope this helps.....

John

Answer 3

I think you're asking why do u do this, and what can be done? Correct?

Sounds like an obsessive trait to me. Try meditation or some other fitness regime to exhaust or use your energy otherwise. You must have some type of interest you could replace this with. Lots of us use yoga for eg. to find that inner space of peace. Not me, but others anyway. I hope you find freedom from this.

Enjoy your holiday. Merry Christmas if your a Christmaser!!

Answer 4

yeah and nine times out of ten its when im trying to sleep but cant stop saying "what did you say that for,or do that for"it can also happen you will probably have done it sometime,when there is the most annoying song in your head that you prob.keep hearing on a tv ad and you just find yourselfsinging it over and over and no matter how much you tell youself to stop it wont.

Answer 5

Actually,everyday.I can't stop thinking about my embarassing moments and I keep doing silly stuffs.So I just let it go and just be myself.

Answer 6

Yes. It is our enemy's way of attacking us, making us feel low and or too self conscious. The battle is in the mind. Just say to yourself I've learn from that experience and I wont do it again. And that that experience is in the past and will stay there.

Answer 7

Yes.Yesterday,I kept on thinking about the embarrassing thing I have done during the day. I can't concentrate on my study ,on my book....So I chose to read the book aloud.Then I got rid of the trouble.

Answer 8

like the time i said hello to someone but it wasnt them you mean, because ive been thinking about it for 12 years and am too scared to leave the house even for food, im slowly eating my legs and furniture. im only 5 stone nowadays. i hate it when people knock on the door in case its someone else and i dont recognise them but other than that you shouldnt dwell upon things too much, its bad for your health.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

i used to. i've had many embarrassing things happen to me (i swear my life is a dark comedy). i've learned to just push it out of my head because no matter how much i think about it, it's already happened and there's nothing i can do about it and life must go on.