Crying hard in the middle of sex???

Question

I don't know what came over me, but in the middle of sex lastnight with my on again, off again, bf, I started balling uncontrollably. It was intense, and I was into it, i mean, REALLY into it, and I felt like I was losing control of my body and shaking. It really scared me, that I was letting go, and showing such vulnerability, so I started crying. I was really worked up, and kind of overcome by emotion, and letting myself let go in front of my guy like that (i have never let go during sex, I can't, never have been able to, my body gets tense when it feels too good, and I kind of lock up). My guy got kind of weirded out at the fact that I was crying. I still can't really explain what happened to me. All I know is that ...i didn't mean to cry. I was somewhere else in my head?? I'm 23yrs old, by the way.

Has anyone ever experienced this? Or had a gf that did the same thing? Was I on the brink of orgasm? (finally!?!) Or am I just going crazy?! lol

Thanks.

I wasn't sobbing, I was loud crying...where I could hardly catch my breath, whenever I inhaled because I was letting out such a cry. I cried hard. It even scared me. I must have emotional/and past sexual abuse. I know I do, but I honestly wasn't thinking about it at the time. It came on.. just suddenly.

Answer 1

I have had that happen to me 3 or 4 times. It is when your body is nearing orgasm and you are overcome with such emotion and pleasure it can make you cry. I found that if I relax and not focus so much on wanting to orgasm and just enjoy the feeling that I can usually climax more easily. Just try not to tense up when it is coming on. Let it flow naturally and it will happen. If you stress or overly focus you will mess yourself up. Relax and enjoy yourself. Good luck. I hope this helps.:-)

Answer 2

Letting yourself be that vulnerable and open with someone else is an extremely hard thing to do, something you should only do with someone you trust completely and absolutley. Someone you trust to not ever use that against you. But also remember that some people have a harder time than others doing this. Perhaps there is something that happened in your childhood or something you saw that makes it hard for you to trust someone this completely now, or something that makes you not able to give yourself to someone. Or perhaps you feel that you do not deserve to allow yourself to let go?
This doesnt mean there is anything wrong with you or that you are a bad person, it only means that you need to figure out what is going through your head or where these feelings are coming from and deal directly with them. You need to tell yourself you deserve to have an orgasm, because yes, i think you were on the brink of one. And orgasms give you complete loss of control of yourself and your emotions. Tell yourself that your boyfriend truly wants to give you one, completely unselfishly.
Hormones do rage during sex which could make you more emotional than usual but sometimes its just the feeling that hes watching you, perhaps you feel self conscious, perhaps you dont want to lose the control you have. Try and allow yourself just for one time to let go and you will not be disappointed.

Answer 3

first of all. you will DEFINITELY know when/if you have an orgasm. A lot of girls have the same problem of opening up in order to let yourself go. It's a self conscious thing I think but when you find the person (or you get comfortable with your boyfriend) it will be amazing!


crying during sex? i have done it before. Not as hard as you're saying you have. But i've also gotten worked up and had some tears. Maybe you were just upset/worked up over the fact that you couldn't orgasm? maybe you feel you are not comfortable with him?

Answer 4

Yes yes yes i know exactly what you mean!! i started crying a little bit during my first time... cuz it was soo intense, i didnt know what to expect and it was something i had been wanting to do for a long time, i guess i was thinking wow, im finally getting to do this and its with someone i truly love! i started crying a little not balling but just a little crying cuz my whole body had been overtaken and i kept losing my breath and i felt tingles all over even in the roof of my mouth and my lips started twitching hahahaha so yeah i think it's normal really, cuz it's just an emotional experience

Answer 5

hi there. The reasons for this thing to happen are many. Namely 1) Position of sex. 2)Sounds that you make or Dont make that might be cause of distraction or lack or erotic maintenance. 3)Some men take long to ejaculate and hence its difficult for girls to lie in the position/angle for long and when he is about to ***,there cud be change in angle(even a slight unnoticeable change can make a huge difference sometimes) 4) Worst reason: he may no longer find u a hottie 5)He is abusing his organ too much 6)worst reason for him: he actually has erectile disfunction. 7) Lack of foreplay 8)He suffers from performance anxiety, a psychological issue where in the need to be always best in sex is so high or the fear of being not able to satisfy is so high that men keep comparing their moves. Sometimes they even follow the erotic moves seen in porn films. In this case a visit to sexolist is essential. This cud treat even Erectile disfunction if he has. BUt if his penis gets erect and cannot sustain then he is possibly not suffering from ED. Lastly, look into you and his sexual preference, I read that u like wild sex while he love sensual. MAy be the expressions on yur face may be showing that u dont enjoy and thats why he gets pressurised or even distracted. and finally handle him with care. girls are mature than men so u take the lead in understanding. Hope this eases out yur situation HAPYY ******* AND GETTING ******!!

Answer 6

to quote you:

".....that I was letting go, and showing such vulnerability, so I started crying. I was really worked up, and kind of overcome by emotion, and letting myself let go in front of my guy like that (i have never let go during sex, I can't, never have been able to, my body gets tense when it feels too good, and I kind of lock up)"

sex is emotional and you suddenly did something to make it emotional and it hit you. you responded emotionally to the situation by crying. it doesn't strike me as weird given what you just stated. sex must have been rather empty for you, or at least i would guess it might have been. my advice to you would be to develop a lasting relationship with someone you can love and trust, and completely and let go by opening yourself emotionally. your closing up seems to be a defense mechanism.

Answer 7

I give "tantric" massages to my girlfriend. This is a massage of the vulva and vagina. Especially when massaging the g-spot, but can happen anywhere, even a backrub, a woman will sometimes burst into tears. This often appears to be the opening and release of a past trauma, sometimes with supressed memories coming up. This can happen with men too. I have witnessed it multiple times giving massages to ladies and I have experienced it a few times myself receiving similar massages. This is a type of spiritual work.

When it happens, let it pour forth. Don't stop it. It's a good thing to happen

Answer 8

LOL, this question cracked me up.

Your body is pumped full of hormones when you're about to orgasm and I've always heard that the tears from crying are pumped full of hormones that are being released from your body, so maybe it was just your way of releasing some of the hormones.

Try to relax a little more next time.

Answer 9

I have cried before durning intercourse when I was married. I think it was because I didn't love the man but, yet here I was giving up something that was suppose to be so great to a man I just didn't want to be with. He was my husband so, guess in the back of my mind it was something I had to do or just did it to keep from hearing him *****. With you it is your boyfriend, just maybe you know if you are on and off again over and over that having sex with him is just sex you can't be in love if you were for real then if would be on again most the time and not on and off.

Answer 10

hi methinks hes not the guy 4 u.or things got out of control,in your head. happy christmas x you will know if it was big O!