My good friend for years asked me to come help her clean her house and I told her I would try to come over and I didn't because I to was busy shopping for gifted and I had to help my mom as well she called me really upset telling me she needs help. I told her I'd call her when I get home and I never did because when I think of it she has never come over to my house to help me clean and the 3 years I have lived in my house she has only visited once. I haven't called her back and I don't think I will, does that make me a bad friend??
2007-12-23 16:50:30 · 20 answers · asked by riggie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am always at her house helping her out and i have always done so, but if i ask her to come to my house she would say I can because I have to take the train and I am not taking the train with the kids and I have offered to come help with the kids get to my house.
2007-12-23 17:02:50 · update #1
A bad person? No, but not a good friend either. My problem would be you acting like you would, then not doing it, and not having the strength of character to call me back and tell me. If you're busy, fine, call her and tell her you are busy and you just can't make it. Otherwise, she is probably looking out the window for you and waiting on the phone call you said you'd make... I can't stand someone telling me they'll do something and not doing it... at least call her and tell her you're not coming.
2007-12-23 16:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it makes you a bad friend. In fact, I have never heard of an adult making a comment like "she has never helped me clean in the 3 years I have lived in my house and visited only once." I guess neither of you are really friends, are you? I think you should call to apologize. Maybe you two should sit down and talk about if you are even friends. Sounds more like you "use" each other.
2007-12-24 00:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Julie H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn how to say this...say it with me. "No"....now say it again......nice and loud...."No"....see how easy that is??
You have your own things to take care of. I don't have a friend in the world that would ask me to come help them clean at this time of the year. I would never ask that of anyone. The holiday comes at the same time every year. If she needed her house cleaned she had plenty of time to do it herself or hire someone to do it for her. You are not a bad friend but you might be a doormat. Learn how to say exactly what you mean when you need to say it and that's that. Good luck :)
2007-12-24 01:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet you are a very nice and good person
but your acts toward this friend may not seem nice.
even though she never comes to help you, have you ever asked her to? Next time dont promise something you can do when you may not be able too. also next time if your busy, call her back before hand so she would not have to wait for you. hope this helps!
2007-12-24 00:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by whatasunnysmile 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
N ot Really But Dont reallY Make U A Friend Either
2007-12-24 00:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by Str33tW1s3 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No way, sometimes friends are busy. You can't be there all the time. Plus it sounds to me like she isnt a very good friend. If she never even comes over I wouldnt call that a friend.
2007-12-24 00:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by katie d 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should have clearly told her NO or reason for it as u told us dont keep someone hanging when they need u thats worst thing anyone can do my friend who had feelings for did that to me 3yrs finally i left him since he would say he was coming but never once came to meet me 3yrs i had enough now very happy in love committed getting married
2007-12-24 01:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by aarohap 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not say that you are a bad person but she called on you for help and you let her down. If you did not want to go or you could not go you should have told her. You are suppose to be able to rely on your friends in a time of need.
2007-12-24 00:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's not a matter of being a bad or good friend. If you aren't planning to call her back, then you two aren't true friends to begin with.
2007-12-24 01:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by luvly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is kinda mean and have you ever asked her to help you if you did and she didnt come them no dont call her and it doesnt make you a bad person but if you havent asked her then how do you know that she wouldnt come over to help you?
2007-12-24 01:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋