I have to admit that i come from a wealthier family, but I'm not stuck up at all, because we havn't always been wealthy. I mean i do all the typical stuck up things, ie tennis, golf memberships, piano, country club, fashion, more then one house. However I'm extemely humble, but ppl never get to know me for me, they just see the money, and stuff. I don't like hanging out with rich ppl because they're exactly what I hate: stuck up. What can I do to make people see me for me, and not my money. Even my friends take advantage of me, and make me pay for stuff, and then they oh she can cus she's rich, and I'm just like huh??
2007-12-23 16:44:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I feel for you but I think you should know that sociological studies have shown that most people have friends that come from families much like their own regardless of whether they are poor, lower-middle class, medium middle class, low upper-middle class, high-upper middle class or rich.
I come from a medium-middle class family myself and when I look back on my own life I realize that all of my friends did too. They even had dads who were World War II veterans, who liked dogs and fishing trips, who didn't believe in divorce, and who worked as engineers just like mine did.
There are occasional exceptions. There are always exceptions to everything but most likely your real friends (and not your perceived friends who mooch off of you) are going to be people in your own social and economic class. There's not much you can do about it.
It's always a good idea to try to stay basically humble. However, in my opinion, you should do it for personal ethical, moral or religious reasons. Don't do it just to be hip or socially acceptable among lower income people who will never be your true friends. It will only end in some kind of tragedy if you do. Some of them might even get you drunk, hooked on drugs, injured in a speeding automobile accident or arrested with them in a shoplifting caper.
I think there is still enough diversity among upper-middle class kids and rich kids that you can find some friends among them who are nice and not stuck-up. However, life is sometimes a choice between the lesser of evils too and I think, bottom line, you'd still be better off with a rich well-behaved pal who is a little stuck-up than a friendly, hip poor pal who might introduce you to a bad crowd.
2007-12-23 20:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by Brennus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i grew up in the same kind of circle you are describing and let me tell you, to the rest of the world you are stuck up. its ok, you are young and dont know anything outside you little sheltered circle, but i found everyone i knew growing up was stuck up for the mere fact that the only life experience they knew was the one that you described, and by that fact they (myself included) didnt have any sort of perspective about the life, and luxuries, we have and other do not. the kids on 'my sweet sixteen' are just about everything that is wrong with the kids these days, and the fact none of them realizes it is even worse. the only thing you can do is hope you gain some perspective, instead of wintering in mexico, and summering in toronto, and using daddy's money to start your tennis apparel line.
-by the way YOU are not rich, your parents are. you are SPOILED not rich. there is a difference.
and if this is the ? you made up to gauge peoples reactions, then you are probably one of the kids that watches 'my sweet 16' and dreams about giving invitations out, and drools over the chance to not give invitations out to certain people.
you cant buy class, you can just afford people to tell you you have good taste. :)
wise up. the world doesnt revolve around you. (or paris hilton)
2007-12-23 19:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be yourself, whatever that is in the moment that you are it. People's opinions will come and go. In how they use you they will reveal their own characteristics as they exist in the present moment. Each person has the capacity to grow beyond the present moment, but it is important to exist in the present moment because it is the moment in which we can choose among our own possible actions (The pause between stimulous and response) this is where we choose what values to maintain and whether or not we will act with integrity. The truth of your character will be revealed to those who treat you as more than an object of wealth gained social status. ^_^
I hope this inspires you to some peace of mind.
*huggles*
Amiko-Gabriel
2007-12-23 17:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just jealous. Don't let people take advantage of you even if you think they're your friends. Treat people like you'd like to be treated and if they think you're stuck up then it's probably not a huge loss if they don't want to be your friend.
2007-12-23 16:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No im not one of those people, but i am always willing to be supportive to anyone that needs someone to talk to for any reason at all.
2016-05-26 02:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by laurel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like you.. join the club
2007-12-23 16:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then they don't deserve achance either
2007-12-23 17:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by lovely pumpkin(is dazed :D) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋