Im 10 weeks pregnant, and every since my husband and I found out, he has been a completely different person,.. he just seems like he is not excited at all.. what can i do to make him excited about this, does anyone have any advice on why he is acting like this?
2007-12-23 16:20:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well, i had a discussion with my bf about this too.
he said that it is a bit different for men than women because women automatically have the baby growing in them so it is much more real for them than men. he said that once he sees that baby he is going to be absolutely exstatic! but for now, he is just wanting everything to be set like a healthy pregnancy, and now he is probably worrying about money concerns etc. or maybe he just needs to go to the Dr and see the ultrasound or/and heartbeat. i wouldnt worry too much about his reaction now. as time goes on and you get that belly, i am sure it will hit him and he will be so happy and excited right along with you.
hope this helps, and by the way, I AM 11 WEEKS and VERY excited for you AND for me :) haha yay! it is an exciting time for us women :)
2007-12-23 16:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this was a planned pregnancy, he is just freaked out. Probably concerned about money and stability for the baby and all that. I was very saddened by my husbands apparent lack of enthusiasm towards my pregnancy. Even when the baby started kicking he wasn't the type to touch unless I asked him to. He did work 80 to 90 hour work weeks though. Consider the situation in his mind, what has really changed??? You still look the same. He will get excited when changes start to happen and even then some men don't show emotion until the baby is born. Men, can't live with them can't live without them!!!!
2007-12-24 00:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was the same way. He was interested, but not as excited as I was. But now that I'm showing and we've seen pictures of our little guy he's an excited daddy. Just give your husband time, he may still be adjusting to the fact that he's going to be a father. Also, I think the women tend to be more excited simply because they are carrying that baby and already have a special bond with them.
However, if this does continue and you do not feel as if he is happy/excited about this you might want to sit down and talk to him.
2007-12-24 00:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were ttc....so when I first told him he was so excitted...but after he seemed a little distant with the whole....when we talked about how I percieved his actions i was shocked becuase he was actually very nervous about the whole dad thing ( and it was not a money thing or any thing contected to money he a dr) he said that it was a big responsibility and he had just begain to think about what it truly would mean to be a father, he also said that becuase we both had great parents there is a lot for us to life up to and really big shoes to fill....as time went on the we actually heard the heart beat and saw the baby on an ultra sound his excitement grew and now that the baby is close to arrival I actually weak up to him at night talking to the baby and hum rubbing my belly...so give your husband time,....and good luck
2007-12-24 00:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look it's hard to say but the first thing that springs to mind is once you were two, now you're three. Your focus has shifted from whatever it was (hubby) to your baby, correct? So it may just be that he's having trouble sharing OR he is just so overwhelmed that he doesn't know how to feel. It's a big deal starting a family, first you get the two blue stripes on stick then your off to your Ob of choice all the while getting brain numbing amounts of advice, clues and tips. Now you have to bear in mind that girls are geared for this, you just are, and look, in hindsight, thank goodness's you are, but guys aren't not initially anyway. Look the best advice I can offer is to keep him in the loop, make sure he goes to the scans and DO NOT expect him to read "What to expect when you are expecting", most of all remember your expectations are not his but he at least should know what yours are. All the best
2007-12-24 00:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because at this point it's still very alien to him. He can't see anything yet, he's not part of the experience, many men seem a little detached from the entire thing. Just wait until you are a little farther along and start showing and it becomes a complete reality to him.
If he's still acting like this later sit down and ask him why he's feeling like that, maybe he's nervous about becoming a father.
2007-12-24 02:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no clue but my hubby has been doing the same thing...even though I know he IS excited. I think it's more about stress and the way things will change. Remember that men don't deal with these issues the way women do...men clam up and brood. It's in their nature not to show you that they are worried or concerned...they want you to believe they are strong. Give it time and he'll come around. But you might want to talk to him about any worries he has...if it's money you probably won't get much feed back from him though since it basically means he can't provide for his family. And NO man wants to admit that.
2007-12-24 00:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by Shiningami_Gurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem. at first it was him who wanted a baby, he would even rub my belly when i would b late (cuz he thought i was prego) when we found out i was he was really happy n told everyone at work. however now when i talk about the baby he seems indifferent, and when we go babyshopping he rather go to the electronics n let me do the shoppin myself. ppl tell me its because he hasnt seen the baby yet, and that thats how alot of guys are. he dont even get excited with all the baby clothes we have ready. i say just give him time, he'll get more excited as time approaches for the baby's arrival. congrats!!
2007-12-24 00:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has just experienced a great loss. From the moment that he learned about your pregnancy, the number of things in his life that he has no control over has just skyrocketed.
Every single thing about your pregnancy is either under your control or no one's: Your prenatal care, plans for birthing, even whether or not to carry the baby to full term are decisions that he can give opinions on but has no control over.
Or it could be that he just doesn't want to have kids.
Or it could be that he never told you about the vasectomy that he got last year and now he's wondering whose baby you're having...
Talk to your husband; quit listening to us.
2007-12-24 00:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by slagathor238 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some men get scared to death about being a father. He now has someone that he has to take care of and that he is responsible for. Have you asked him what is wrong? Try that if you have not.
2007-12-24 01:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋