We were planning on everything...marriage..kids. Our first step which was getting an apt together was about to happen. We had found the apt was about to move in in a couple of weeks and then BAM! He broke everything of..didn't wan't to be with me anymore...claiming we 'faught' to much. Anyways he's been wanting to see me and hang out, and I think he may want me back...but I'm so scared to take him back if he does..because I'm scared he might hurt me again. But I do love him so much...I've been taking since out breakup and no other guy compares.
2007-12-23 15:59:58 · 11 answers · asked by Helen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
typo....(I've been dating and no other guy compares to him)
He said he did it because he was confused..and scared
2007-12-23 16:01:39 · update #1
tell it like it is Greg!
2007-12-23 16:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Care♥ mommy 2 my boys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Take him back"? What does that mean exactly?
Go back to the way things were and pretend nothing happened. Not a chance.
Go out on a date again to talk to learn about each other. Absolutely. Why would you not? Here's somebody you obviously have a connection with. But you didn't know him as well as you thought you did. Better learn a little bit more before progressing on to the next stage.
If you were hurt, that pain needs time to heal and definitely needs some closure. It doesn't sound like you're too convinced on the "confused" part. Take it slowly. If he's the one, he'll put the time into you.
2007-12-23 16:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would not take him back. He ran out on you when he could not handle things. He did not talk to you about his fears and insecurities like a grown man, he ran. What will happen if you marry him? Is he going to run when you get pregnant, lose your job, have a break down, get sick or an other thing that could happen to you. Relationships are partnerships and you have to be able to rely on each other. As for other men, you are still heartbroken over him so they are not going to compare. When you have gotten over it a little more your mind will be more clear and you will be more receptive to other men. If you do take him back you need to make sure that you are always prepared to take care of yourself in case you ever have to do it. You need to keep your own bank accounts and keep extra money in there for you. You need to not get any debt in both of your names. Keep your things in line to protect yourself in case he runs out again. Good luck.
2007-12-23 16:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was confused then ,, he probably is still in the same condition.
He could be playing with you.
And .. it could happen again.
He kicked you to the curbe without blinking an eye .. he said he didn't want to be with you anymore ... that should be enough. He had no consideration when he broke your heart .. so it would be nothing for him to do it again.
And .. if he didn't want to be with you then .. he probably won't stay for long this time. Only time would tell.
You have choices. Decide what chance you want to take with him.
2007-12-23 16:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. And I'd encourage you to spell check your posts and pick up a "Little Brook Handbook" for basic grammar lessons.
Who "hangs out"? What are you, teenagers? Women with class don't "hang out", and people with self-respect don't take people back. What could possibly happen? Are you going to marry somebody who flakes out like this? It's Christmas; go "hang out" with your family.
2007-12-23 16:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, do not take him back. He is a jerk. What if you do take him back, everything starts going good and you are at the alter, He runs then. I would make him work very hard to earn your trust back.
2007-12-23 16:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by springful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u think its feasible to stay with a guy who is confused??well ,as far as iam concerned ...on my personal front i had such an experience as well...what i did was ...i dumped him ...because if he actually loves me what is he scared for ???moreover guys just want to freak around with girls ..thats the only reason they promise things ..just to get that **** out of you...!!!!! instead i will suggest you to find a guy who is ready for taking up your responsibility!!!there is no point in hurting yourself ....and please there are better guys around ..just open your eyes!!!thats what my experience says ...dont waste your emotions for a moron!!!!take care
2007-12-23 17:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by priya l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe reality hit him and things were moving too quickly. I say give it some time. I am sure if you are honest and open with one another maybe you can work things out where you don't move too fast.
2007-12-23 16:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is something u will have to decide! You can give it a go again, but WHAT IF? is always going to be in the back of your mind! Make him PROVE that he loves u!
2007-12-23 16:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by Tabatha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Face it, you love him. As long as you love him you'll keep taking him back. Do what feels good for YOU.
2007-12-23 16:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by Mariana Straits 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up your own mind!
2007-12-23 16:11:58 · answer #11 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋