2007-12-23 15:58:32 · 25 answers · asked by LUCKY3 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Continue to Love them of course. That does not mean I may not be sad, but if it's really love I feel for them then my feelings are not based on their response.
Blessings.
2007-12-23 23:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by Just Be 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
First, I would try to fully understand the cause of the hate. I would try to be honest with myself and understand what role I might have had in causing or contributing to such a strong feeling. It is very unlikely that anyone would truly hate me personally for no reason.
I might also ask myself "What is it about me that I would continue to love someone so passionately, who hates me? What is the function of that?" Perhaps I could learn something useful about myself so that I could have a truly fulfilling relationship in the future.
Then I would see if there is anything at all that I could do to mitigate it or neutralize it. I would ask myself "Is there any hope for this relationship? If I decided that it is truly a "lost cause" I would move on, even if moving on required psychotherapy.
I would try to focus on other, more positive situations in my life whenever I began to dwell on this person. I would eventually become involved in a new love relationship that was fully mutual, instead of unrequited. Admittedly, this might take a while. Getting through the hurt is not easy, but it is worth the effort.
Life is too short to ruin it by something that might have been.
2007-12-24 11:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by Pat K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the love is just a mere passion that drags on yoru soul like a weight that imprisons you from antyhing else around the world, do your best to lighten it; cut it off altogether if possible; then walk back to the path of living life without a love, until you recover
if the love is such a feeling you can contain, where it doesn't control you, but you control it, and it's a "good" kind of "obsessive" love that makes you care for someone without dragging you trhough life, or attacking someone elses'; keeping loving, because it's just another way to keep your heart going. just make sure you can let go of the person, should they move on past you.
2007-12-26 03:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hurt.
I can not return the hatred despite thoughts to the contrary.
People say "I hate you" to me and there is nothing I can do about it.
If I truly care for a person all I can do is hurt for them when they hate me so.
People who think I hate them are sorely mistaken.
A person would have to hurt some one I cared for to make me hate them even for a moment and then that moment would pass. Nobody has hurt anyone I know as of late and so I am fine.
But the answer is I hurt for the one I care for when they won't let me care for them as I would like to. That is just the way I am.
2007-12-24 03:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Real Love will Always remain a Love , The Love but will not turn into Hate, If My Love is conditional Love , it will break down when Hate is encountered. So it will be test of Love , even in the face of hates, Love is not dried out , Love will be flowing uncessantly, unconditionally.
2007-12-24 00:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by krishprud@yahoo.co.in_KISHORLAL 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that anyone could hate you. (unless it is your mother of course but this only serves to highlight that it is dysfunctional behaviour)
Maybe they are just afraid to lose you if they do love you.
To open up is to risk the pain of loss and if that risk and that sense of loss seem to be too much then it becomes easier to turn against that person because it is easy to hate and far more difficult to love.
Your love seems small if you see no risk in it but if you trully love this person then tell them that you do.
Love to you and a Merry Chrismas,
Gareth
2007-12-24 01:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by Gareth B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your self why do you love this person, does this person share the same qualities as you or does this person have your heart? Then ask your self why does this person hate me? In either case if you can not share the same feelings then it is time to cut the lose and move on.
2007-12-24 00:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by qcyboy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh....been there somewhere, this year. that was awful, can't really tell if hate is the proper word, but...the entire situation drove me almost crazy, i reached somewhat a level of despair. unfortunately, just after some time i gave her some space because i could not conceive what happened to me, to us. horrible summer was this one, 2007's.
very unpleasant, VERY frustrating, very consuming, ohhh...
2007-12-24 03:04:36 · answer #8 · answered by farhire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lucky that is a pretty tough situation to be in. If you really love this person, don't give up because he or she might eventually realize that your love is worth it.
2007-12-24 01:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by David T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be so upset i would probably just keep to myself and grieve as like you said, i would have loved him more than anyone else! :(
2007-12-24 00:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋