I need an excuse.
2007-12-23 15:43:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
My parents raised me well enough. I just don't realize when what I'm doing isn't appropriate and I get chided by others.
2007-12-23 15:53:39 · update #1
But being tactless and thoughtless does cause me frustration - I guess this question was kind of tactless and thoughtless too huh? :(
2007-12-23 16:02:34 · update #2
An excuse? - a disability is not an excuse. Disabilities are conditions people live with everyday that cause them frustration, pain, and challenge. It is offensive to say you have a disability instead of honestly saying you are a tactless, thoughtless person.
2007-12-23 16:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 13⤊ 1⤋
Yes it was , there are many disabled persons who do not lack social graces, but who do indeed tire of the ignorant nasty questions , so you get a not so polite response.
There is no excuse for being tactless and nasty.
But there are, as you say, loads of non disabled persons , who are rude, have no social graces and make really inaapropriate choices. Hopefully as they mature get out in the work force and the world , they stop making those kinds of choices and learn to be more mannered and not so judgemental.
2007-12-26 19:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sense of tact or social grace? Are you a young teenager by any chance.....not dissing all teenagers but a lot do seem to go through a phase no matter how well brought up they are, of being this way.
We read somewhere and also saw a tv programme where at a certain stage in development most if not all teens go through a time where they lose all social grace and tactfullness so if you are a teen there's the answer to your question. If you aren't a teen then if you are aware that these areas need attention you should think before you speak or act.
2007-12-24 16:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Autism, Asperger Syndrome and schizoid personality disorder are medical conditions that can cause one to not really know how to act in social situations.
I think it's lame and wrong to pretend to have a medical problem that you don't really have, just to use it as an excuse for something that is really a part of your personality or upbringing. You would be giving people wrong ideas about what those medical conditions are like and there is enough ignorant and misinformed people around as it is. And then there's of course the fact that you'd be lying to people. That could get you into trouble.
I think it would be much simpler and better to just try to learn to use tact.
2007-12-27 10:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would think some mental and physical disabilities would cause certain problems in high ettiquette situations.
Autism or Aspbergers is probably the no. 1 disability that would really cause it.
However please don't use a disability as an excuse. If I had it my way, I definitely wouldn't have chosen my disabilities given how it affects the people around me; no matter how hard I try to be a "good person".
2007-12-24 10:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Think of others before yourself--the world is about them, not you. Making that effort should open them up to thinking better about you. Don't look for excuses, be a solution. Show the world how it's done. Good manners come from a desire to help and please others. Don't be selfish. It's about them. Then, you'll start feeling better about yourself and it becomes a win-win situation. And second nature. And fun. Merry Christmas!
2007-12-26 00:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree totally with chiliswoman.
I have spent my life working with people with disabilities and sure... NOT all of them are wonderful or inspirational, some can be down right rude and horrible - just like some people who do not have any disability.
But... for someone to LOOK for a disability to have an excuse for the behaviour they are aware of (thus implies they can be in control of it) - is offensive.
2007-12-24 07:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
You can't just decide you have a disability and use it as an excuse for your lack of social skills. If you were actually diagnosed with a disability, that's different, but even then you can't just hide behind it as if it's an excuse for poor behavior...
2007-12-24 03:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by i_come_from_under_the_hill 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Research Asperger's Syndrome.
2007-12-23 23:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by Dinah 7 · 6⤊ 3⤋
#$%K IT
Tourettes for sure.....
Might be that you don't like the society around you - I can relate to that.
Might be you are lazy and don't want to try and resolve whatever you need to.
Maybe you just don't have any sense of social tact or grace - alot like me really.
2007-12-24 05:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋