what do you do when your finace's brother puts the move on you. Its a very close family, and you dont want any family rivalry. What do you do? Do you tell your fiance?
2007-12-23 15:23:36 · 32 answers · asked by just ask 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
hey jessica, wheres the serious catagory???
2007-12-23 15:28:48 · update #1
If it's flirting and makes you feel uncomfortable, you should tell the brother he is crossing the line and making you feel uncomfortable. But once he crossed the line, the fiance needs to handle it. I wouldn't discuss it over the Christmas dinner, but in private. There is no use involving the rest of the family unless the fiance or his brother tells anyone.
2007-12-23 21:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear:
I would ask the finace to sit down with you for a talk about a serious issue, and that you want to get it all out before he reacts. Start out be saying that you don't want to cause any problems within the family, but you believe that his brother has tried to make a move on you. Than tell him what occurred. Than I ask him how he thinks is the best way to handle this problem with creating the smallest problems within his family. Please tell him that you do not wish this to become a he said; you said situation. You may also let him know that you do not feel comfortable being left alone with his brother in the future.
2007-12-24 03:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by John R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes tell him! Your finace deserves to know, and not telling him is like giving you would-be brother-inlaw the upper hand and it's basically telling him that you and your fiance are not a close couple and that there's room for him to move in!
Besides, do you really want to start married life with secrets already kept from your fiance?
2007-12-23 15:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by iced out 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, if this is a close family; it may put you in the position as outsider which may create problems only for you. However if it is understood that this brother is flirtatious this way, then you may want to speak up to your fiance and let him know what just happened so that "YOU" are not looked at like the bad guy. Think it over carefully, and then respond.
2007-12-23 15:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by Michael 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to tell your fiance. Keeping a secret like this could destroy the relationship. Not telling lends the situation more importance than it deserves, and gives the brother power over you - tell your fiance and bring it out in the open, then you all know where you stand. Good luck
2007-12-23 15:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell your fiance. The brother should never, ever do something like that , espically when it is family. Don't go into a marriage with secrets that could come out in the end and bite ya on the a ** !! Happy Holidays...
2007-12-23 15:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberley V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to tell anyone? Do you not realize that lots of gays play rugby and other sports? Sounds like what you really need to do is settle down, stop being a drama Queen and allow yourself to mature. What ever your sexuality your question suggests that you are not mature enough to handle this. Please take time to consider the damage you may do to your family and to yourself if you go bull headed at this. Stop now!!! Take a break - think cool and chill out. Acting irrationally now can only lead to disaster!!
2016-05-26 02:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give that close knit family a rivalry like they have NEVER seen before.... your future brother-inlaw is a pig and NOW is the time to clear the air.
Take care
2007-12-23 15:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell your fiance and let him know how hard it is to tell him because of the closeness of the family and you didn't want to cause problems.
2007-12-23 15:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by BEAUTIFUL STRANGER 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your fiance! At least it'll be out in the open and there will be no secrets between you two.
2007-12-23 15:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by kim_in_craig 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋