I have a crush on a fictional character?

Question

Don't make fun of me for this. But, I think I have a crush on a fictional character. Well, it's actually Jem Finch from To Kill A Mockingbird. It's kind of embarrassing. Well I just finished reading the book and watching the movie for school and well I sort of liked him while reading it and then when I saw the movie and it kind of brought him to life I guess not to mention he's really cute. Really cute. (OMG) (lol) Normally I would talk to my friends about this kind of thing but they aren't supportive with this kind of stuff. I think about Jem a lot and it's making me kind of sad thinking about it. Any advice? Have any of you had this problem before? I need some really good advice!

Phillip Alford was the actor he's old now.

Answer 1

Are you kidding? I have a HOPELESS crush on Ariel, the Little mermaid, to the point where i wrote fanfiction where i was able to marry her.

There is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, but I just wouldn't flaunt it

Answer 2

Phillip Alford also costars in "Shenandoah", an important role. Why don't you watch it? You'll also be seeing an amazing film about the American Civil War. He's every bit as cute in this film as he is in "To Kill a Mockingbird". Sadly, he didn't do much work, obviously deciding to leave acting.

Crushes on fictional characters aren't unusual. I've heard of grown women admitting to crushes on cartoon/anime, novel and film characters. Think of the to-do over Legolas (Orlando Bloom) and Captain Jack Sparrow (Johnny Depp)! I do a lot of roleplaying and have a male character who is extremely popular. I've had so many girls, women and even guys tell me they have a crush on Cat and wish they could meet someone like him although he's not exactly a dream date sort of person.

So, crushes aren't odd. After all, many who call themselves fans of actors/actresses can be kind of "crushing", wouldn't you say? We admire many of them, but occasionally, there's that special one who makes us *SIGH*. Sometimes readers especially like a character in novels, as someone mentioned, encouraging a writer to continue adding novels to a series.

Fanfiction IS a great outlet for crushes. Write about the further adventures of that character. It's true about that it's an enjoyable way to deal with really liking a character. I've been writing fanfiction before I knew what it was, starting in the mid-Sixties. I wrote stories with characters I liked and "collected on", as they say in fandom.

Don't let it make you sad or upset. Read more books and watch more movies to find more characters and/or actors you really like. Spread the affection. Perhaps someone with some of his characteristics will come along, someone with traits you respond to. But, don't get gloomy because I'm certain these works weren't intended for such a feeling. Be inspired by them.

Answer 3

LOL I have a big crush on Leo Valdez from the Heroes of Olympus series by Rick Riordan. Don't worry about it, it's normal...

Answer 4

Crushes are normal. I read the Diana Gabaldon Highlander series and I and a lot of other females fell in love with Jamie, the perfect redheaded man. Also go rent the old movie Romancing the Stone. It's great fun. She's a writer and can't meet a man that is as good as her character she writes about. And then she meets someone by chance and the adventure takes off. It's great fun. Crushes are natural and fun to imagine. Just don't let them influence a real relationship or take up too much of your time. They are one of those things, that when you think of them, just smile and keep it to yourself.

Answer 5

You don't really need any advice. You have a crush. I'm sure you will have many. Especially since this person doesn't really exist you can't do much about it. So just enjoy them in the book and movie whenever you want, until you move on to somebody else. This is almost equivalent to saying you have a crush on a celebrity. That's nice - so do many other people and nothing is ever going to happen, so just keep on crushing. It's normal. Apparenltly.

Answer 6

Many of us, male and female, have the same experience with characters in movies, etc.. I know I have. I'm not sure how long it lasted, or how many babes I had a "crush" on, but I have, as many of us have. As a mental health professional with 20+ years experience, now retired, I can assure you that you're normal and that you'll get over this "crush" and may have another one, or two, or three, etc., in your lifetime. Enjoy. We all need fantasy lives to enhance our regular ones. God Bless you.

P.S.: I gave a "Thumbs Up" rating for "James G" 's answer. That was an error in my typing. I meant to give him a "Thumbs DOWN" rating. Sorry for the confusion.

Answer 7

I love Paul Walker from Varsity Blues, the Skulls, Fast and Furious, etc. I also like Matthew Mc---(whatever). That guy on the Covenant (not the brunet, but his BFF). I deducted that I like blonde men in general (and I married one). Don't know why...I just am naturally attracted to them.

I'm 33. You may not be able to marry a movie star, but you may one day find the qualities you find in this fictional character in a guy you can date in real life. I'm willing to bet there is something in his personality you like too. If it was only his looks you liked, you'd be falling in love with every cute actor you see. Is he a natural born leader, a risk-taker? You'll find many normal guys with these personality types too. Find out what these other qualities are that you like in men, and go out and find guys with these qualites.

Answer 8

OK so I'm not gonna make fun of you. It's OK to like a fictional character for now but you need to figure someone out in REAL life that you like to get your mind off people who aren't real. It's OK to think a character has a good personality but remember someone made them that way so you would like them.

Answer 9

It's fine to have a crush on a ficrional character. I have a /HUGE/ crush on Doctor Archie Hopper from Once Upon A Time. Sometimes I just write a small story about us and stuff and getting married. Its totally fine :)

Answer 10

girl, you and I are eye-to-eye. I have this mad crush on someone, but thank goodness it's not a fictional character, but he IS famous so I can pretty much say he doesn't exist. I mean, he's on movies, on a book, and never in my living days will I meet him in real life. Oh, and to mention, it's Devon Murray from Harry Potter(he plays Seamus Finnagan). It's the second time i've gotten a mad crush on him and it just blows up in my face that I'm just wasting my time cuz I really really Really like him. And I look for answers and they all tell me the same story: just look for someone in real life that can replace him, someone that actually exists, that you can physically reach out and touch with bar hands. but the problem is, I'm just a gay teenager and I've never had love in my life. And since I'm not, obviously, making fun of you, I hope you don't to me; even though I like the actual actor, in the books as I read on, I pretend that Harry and Seamus are in this mad relationship throughout the whole book, which is where I guess fanfiction would come in. And yes I have written fanfiction before, but(thank goodness it's all anonymous) I'm an empath. I pretty much sense/feel other people's emotions and sometimes it inflicts itself on me. Kinda stupid, but I sometimes use it on myself in a way. Like I feed off of my own emotions, therefore, blending in with the emotions I feel, so I'm really tied down to liking Devon Murray (btw, everyone has alittle empathy in them, some stronger than others). And I know that it will all go away soon(bah! maybe a few weeks) but the pain is now cuz you reaaly like him and in a way you want to be with him, right? and it kills you that yo can't. It feels like you're never going to stop liking him. To tell you the truth, I was hoping that by babbling on I can sum up some kind of way of helping you, but I'm stuck in the same problem, but I guess what I can say is pretty much all what Mystmoonstruck said. Just enjoy it. You're in the car, you drving, and baby, don't stress on about the long, sleepless, 10 hour drive you're about to take, and just enjoy the scenery and the music and the wind flying in your hair. I mean, usually when you like someone and at some point when that love doesn't return, harshly but truely, your mind starts to slowly wander away. And even if it kills you to know now that soon you might not be liking him anymore, you realy might not. So just enjoy the joy-ride your taking and let your colors fly! Don't fall into the same pit that I have. I think I might've created someone in my own mind, my own character that I've fallen in love with. And when I like a guy at school an what-not, my mind always bails because he's not like the guy in my mind. So I guess you can say that I've fallen in love with something that doesn't exist. I mean, how can ou love something that doesn't exist? How can you love something that can't love you back? I guess cuz that thing yo ulove is in your heart? Anyways (before I bore you with my babbling) I say take MystMoonstruck advise,take it for a joy-ride and let you colors soar and fly. And whenever in doubt, remember, you are female. You are one of the top-most strong and tough creatures on this planet. Don't let emotions get in way ; ) Hope all goes well in the end, Blessed Be