I need information on the transporting of a dead relative to the funeral home themselves ,in CA?

Question

My mother is dying from cancer. She lives in a different town from where her final resting place is. Money is an issue because there isnt alot. I want to know how it can be done by a relative and the legal aspects of doing so . Where she lives is 2 and a half hours from where the cemetery is. She is older and her and my dad are scraping as it is. Can a family member drive her to the mortuary themselves and what do they have to do to do it legally and ethically right?

Answer 1

I am sorry your mom is so sick, and you are taking on this responsibility.

Your dad has to make the decisions, if he is her legal next of kin. (You don't say they are married)

I don't think you can deliver her in, for example, a moving van. I think there are exact guidelines.

A funeral these days, with burial, etc, will run a family about $15K. Of course, if she already bought a plot then that expense should not be a concern.

You could have her cremated, release the remains to your dad or you, then have a memorial at the cemetery, where the remains would be buried. That would be a little cheaper.

Answer 2

The mortuary should come and pick your Mother up. Anything else would just be very disrespectful. Have you made arrangments with a Funeral Director yet? They will include transportation to the Mortuary and then to the Cemetary.

Answer 3

In cases like yours, normally the hospital helps make arrangements with a funeral home, most of funeral homes have payment arrangements. Check and see if any of your local charities (united way, salvation army, city hall, churches) usually help. At times when you contact the airlines they help with discounts of tickets if the family needs to travel long distances. Have you asked your mom if she has any life insurance or social security benefits? this will help. If she is getting treatment for cancer, usually the hospital itself provides a hospice, or financial help to the family. You need to speak with the social worker that is handling her case, speak with her oncologist and they can provide you with assistance. I know is hard, but God will give you wisdom and will provide you in your need both spiritually and financially. God Bless and Happy Holidays!

Answer 4

Have her cremated. You can keep those remains, transport them or dispose of the ashes (permits required to dispose). Otherwise the body is considered a biological hazard just like organs/blood samples etc. and would require a permit to move by a licensed company. This keeps people from dumping bodies where they do not belong.

Answer 5

UH.......id talk to the funeral home director they know all the laws.......they may even work with you on payments....