one of my sons, left in 1992 in an accident, and I am still sufering an cring, I dont now whaT CAN I DO
2007-12-23 12:43:59 · 12 answers · asked by eluna46 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i am so sorry, i suggest you see a councillor and tell them how you are still not coping, they will help you to grieve properly as it seems like you havent been able to. It is easy for people to say get over it, its a long time ago, but it isnt that simple. This time of year is the hardest for people when they have lost someone, esp a child. Maybe you could go nline and lok for groups and talk to them and get to know other people in your situation. There are also sites like this:
http://www.memory-of.com/Public/
where you can post about your son, and share experiences with other people. Think about what your son would want for you if he could see you now, he would not want you to be unhappy. Good luck to you, i hope you can feel better in time and happy christmas x
2007-12-23 12:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like I said in my other answer new start new life!
Dont forget your family tho but your son is in a better place now I know believe me he says he loves you!
either go see a doctor or take yoga or soemthing it will channel your emotions!
Your never going to feel like you did but you need closure to know hes okay and you can move on from this chapter in your life with some peace to a degree of knowing whats out there later!
Trust me on this
-happy holidays
-christina xoxo
2007-12-23 21:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are with no doubt going through the toughest thing that any human being could go through and I'm very very sorry for your loss. You need to realize though that if your son was here today that he would want you to be happy. Be happy for your son and remember him in a way that brings a smile to your face...
2007-12-23 20:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how it is, I lost a daughter. and it is hard, but it is best to try and not think about it. there is nothing you can do to change what has happen. so try to change the hurt you feel. I learned that there is no point in worrying about it, for worry or thinking about it, will never change anything at all. it will just make you feel bad. so try and change your mind to think about something else. you need to spend time with friends, and have some fun. but do not bring up the subject about your son. just try and be happy, if need be, go out with your friends all the time. talk about other things. go places. if you are married spend time with you spouse, do things together, go place see things. movies, go to the zoo anything that seems to be fun. this will tend to make things feel better over time. but yes, they will always be on your mind, but you will not hurt as bad. as what you said, you don't know what you can do. so try what I have told you. it will help. I faced death like you would never understand. I lost my daughter, my Dad and Mom. I had all these on my mind at once. it was hard, very hard.even when a song came on the radio that my daughter likes would hurt me, and start me thinking about her. or something would be said on T.V that reminds me of something my Mom would say, it would hurt. but you can keep your mind off them. but you need to try hard. I have, that is the only way I can see to get by. it is like when some one says something, quickly change the subject. that is the same way you do your mind. it does work, and it does help. just think of something else. as time goes by, you will find it will not make you feel as bad. things will become better and easier.
2007-12-24 01:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
grieving and mourning is important. you will never recover. you will never get over it. you have to find a way, a reason to go on with your life. sometimes people devote themselves to preventing those kind of accidents or taking in foster kids or some kind of contribution. start a journal and write down all your feelings. start some rituals like visiting his grave or spending 1 hour per day making memorial projects such as scrapbooks, etc. pray and meditate for your life.
2007-12-23 20:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a very long time to be still depessing about it. Find a counselor to help you cope with your feelings...
As long as he is still in your heart an all the memories are still alive, there is no need to cry.
2007-12-23 20:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by don't gεt mad, gεt glad™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have my deepest and heartfelt sympathy...I don't think I could survive the death of one of my children. You are stronger than you think...and you have EVERY right to feel what you're feeling...but I do think it would benefit you to get some grief counseling. Your son's suffering is over...he would want the same for you.
Please accept this *hug*.
2007-12-23 20:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry that such a terrible event had to befall you and your family. Naturally you are going to suffer and grieve, but just try to focus on the positive, such as your other children and your family
2007-12-23 20:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by California Guy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my baby brother died in a car accident back in 98. most days I'm ok, now, but sometimes it's pretty tough. took a long time for me to adjust. i still cry. i still really miss him. you never really get over it but you learn how to cope.
if you are so depressed that it affects your day to day routine then you should see a councilor. i'm sorry for your loss. i hope you find something that helps.
2007-12-23 23:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by cat f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling, and possibly psychiatric meds. That is way too long still to be feeling the way you do. Get help. Start with your doctor.
2007-12-23 20:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋