She has been crying her eyes out over it. She is in 8th grade middle school and there is another middle school a few miles from here. Some of her friends were redistricted to that school.But she only has to go 5 months and then she will be in high school with all her friends again. What should I tell her. She is so sad right now.
2007-12-23 12:40:54 · 25 answers · asked by susan9 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Why not transfer the child? I was in the same situation. I transfered and we car pooled every morning.
2007-12-23 12:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well I'm18 and I switched schools alot although I've never moved and I can honestly say it's not a good habbit to let your daughter get into...like if you left he switch she is going to feel like she can switch schools everytimes there is problem and then it's going to go into other things in life. I would honestly sit her down and explain to her the situation try to make her see how short 5 months is, also explain to her how she can take the 5 months to make new friend and when she gets to hs her old friends and her new friend can meet and then she'll have an even bigger circle (girls at that age are unfortuantly abotu the number of friends) but that could be good for this situation. Also maybe try to have her friends come over during the week ( when i went to private school my dad let my friends from the neiborhood come over for dinner and stuff) try organizing a weekly play day with the other parents, the key is to get her to make new friends and not feel withdrawn from her other friends at that age it's about contact, and keep giving her short term things to look forward to, like maybe talk to parents and find something you guys can do in January so she'll look forward to that instead of looking at 5 months and just keep making things that are 2 or 3 weeks away so she can focous on those instead of seeing 5 month. Good luck to you and your daughter don't worry I'm sure she'll be fine, it's pretty common situation you obviosully seem to care which is half the struggle
2007-12-23 22:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by smuttyxsmilez89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know what's best for your daughter. From a teacher's perspective, however, there are few things trickier than kids coming in and out during the school year. Think of all she'll have to relearn: the building, her schedule, her teachers (and they'll be getting to know her, too), a new set of rules and expectations.
Do you know how the new school compares academically? Are they following the exact same curriculum on the same schedule? If not, she may have a tough time adjusting mid-year.
Think about how long it takes you to get settled when you have a new job--for me, it's several months, at least. By the time she gets used to the new middle school, it will be time for high school and she'll begin the process all over again.
You may ultimately feel that her wish to be socially comfortable outweighs these concerns, and I urge you to trust your instincts here. But do consider carefully what she stands to lose by switching, as she is of course only going to see what she stands to gain.
2007-12-23 22:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by waldy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would transfer her, her emotional problems could start to reflect her learning and it really isn't worth her being sad and her grades possibly falling because of it. If its only a few miles why not let her transfer. It would mean a lot to her and help her emotions. A happy kid is a smart kid. I know this for a fact! I suffered from depression in school from medical problems and my grades suffered because of it. Once they got my medical situation controlled and my depression monitored my grades went back up! Being happy really does help especially at such a tender age!
2007-12-23 20:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Won'it be a new semester after the Christmas break? I don't think it'd harm her that much academically if you're to transfer her to transfer her now since it won't be in the middle of a semester. Does she only get to see these friends in school or can she see them outside of school? If she only gets to see them in school then maybe but at the same time even if you transfer her she might get assigned classes that her friends aren't in and that's something to let her know. Would she still want it then? Maybe let her hang out with her friends more often outside of school if that's possible or get her a cell phone for Christmas to call them with. haha :)
2007-12-23 20:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For five months, I think it would be more detrimental to her scholastically to switch schools. That said however, is she doing well in school right now? It is so hard to be a little girl in school feeling like she has no friends there that she may very well not doing well because of that. If you are comfortable with allowing her switch, you can certainly try. It would make her happy and her grades may even improve if she is in a better situation emotionally. Would your school even allow her to switch for such a short period of time?
2007-12-23 20:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by מימי 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a great lesson in life for many reasons if you do not give in. She will have much larger dilemma's later in life that she will not be able to change. Such as a real job where we have to work, and we never get to chose the people around us all day at those. And that is a small and less severe example Plus it's 5 months.
2007-12-23 20:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Children need to suck up what life gives them. I'm sure your friend keeps in touch with her other friends that don't go to school with her. Is she having a hard time at this school? If not then she can stay where she is. 5 months will go by so so so fast!
2007-12-23 23:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by yeauh. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep her in the same school and tell her you will make a point to get her to see her friends more often, especially this summer. Keep reminding her that she will have summer with them and then high school.
And you need to be slightly more firm with her that this is about education and not a social club. That will go a long ways for the right attitude about college in the distant future.
2007-12-23 20:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I, personally, think that she should have to stay at her school for the five months. Then she will be able to go to High School with her friends, as you said. She can see them on afternoons and weekends, right? And anyway, she needs to learn that you can't always get what you want in life.
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2007-12-23 20:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by autumn_ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get over it. Changing now would just make things harder on her. She is going to school to learn not to pal around with her friends. She will be with them in high school and being in a different school won't kill her.
2007-12-23 20:47:30 · answer #11 · answered by Meg 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋