Why is it do YOU suppose?

Question

That seemingly your average person, gets extremely lonely and depressed at Christmas time? I'm speaking of us who are alone.

Answer 1

The winter holidays are very big on group and family get togethers and if you are alone the holidays magnify the fact that you are alone. Plan ahead and do something VERY special for yourself and don't stay in alone.

Answer 2

We have been led to believe that the only way to celebrate Christmas is to be surrounded by family, friends, and presents. It is an arbitrary day that seems to be nice, sweet, and fraught with pitfalls of too much expectation. We need to spread this expectation throughout our lives and throughout the year. I am not exactly alone. We are away from our families. I will be working on Christmas in a restaurant. I only hope that we do see alone people and not just families.

Answer 3

because we are essentially social beings and this time of year has become THE time of year to be with people. sadly we often overdo it, spend too much, drink too much, fight with our loved ones, kill people with drunk driving, and then feel let down when it doesn't turn out as perfect as it is in the movies. also it's the beginning of winter, days are longer, less daylight, etc.

I am a person who lives alone mostly (two housemates who come and go but are not really involved in my life -- no complaint here, believe me). However, I've lived this way so long that I'm very much used to it and do not feel lonely. I'm actively involved in numerous things , and when I want to be with people I make arrangements to do so. But I value my alone time immensely, and the dog appreciates it, too.

If YOU feel lonely, pick up the phone and make arrangements to get together with someone whose company you enjoy. I find that it doesn't do much good to wait around to be included. If all your friends are married, I'm sure there are couples who would enjoy your company. Maybe this is a good time of year to take inventory and do things differently so the results are more satisfying than in past.

For others, it's hard to relate to and include people who are drowning in personal troubles, so if this describes you, try to set them aside and pretend for the duration of your outing that your life is what you want it to be. Often visualization makes it so.

Answer 4

Because Christmas is hyped as a time for families and being with the ones you love. If you do happen to be alone and aren't happy about it, then Christmas will only make those feelings worse, especially if you are reminded of happier Christmases in the past. I had to spend a Christmas alone because my husband was deployed and it was incredibly depressing. I did it for one year. I can't imagine how awful it would be doing it year after year.

Answer 5

Because the picture perfect fantasy xmas is not possible. People have all the songs, movies, xmas stories and even commercials that tell us what xmas is supposed to be like. Most people try so very hard to make that image happen and for so many reasons it doesn't and never will. So people are let down. So much is emphasized about the warm fuzzy feelings of xmas that people feel that they are not a part of it all. The best thing to do in my opinion is live everyday the best that you can. Enjoy every moment you can and don't save it for one day of the year.

Answer 6

Christmas makes us think about our friends and families, which we often take for granted the rest of year. Those who are alone feel lonely because they have the perception that everyone else is happy. In reality, we are all alone in many respects even when we are surrounded by people. Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

Answer 7

I have been alone for 7 years. Last year I went to DC to work on the Hurricane Recovery Program with American Red Cross, it is the long term unmet needs of the survivors of hurricanes Katrina, Wilma and Rita. I got to play Santa and help people get their lives together after losing everything

I have seen too much death and devastation to be depressed, I am greatful for everything I have and every day that I have. I will never sit and have a pity party.

Years ago, I spoke with someone who changed my whole prospective of things the words are very simple, "You can choose to be happy or you can choose to be miserable"...I chose happiness No, it isn't the old days when my parents were alive, my family was close, the kids were still small, they are wonderful memories to treasure , I truly am greatful for everything. We are celebrating the birth of a child who changed the world. It is a birthday party!

Go out volunteer to help someone less fortunate than you are, you may see life in a better prospective.

Answer 8

I was just thinking about asking this? this afternoon.
They were a piece on the news about this that the suicide rate goes up over the holidays.
With what I have been hearing prices are so high and folks can not afford one might be better off just taking care of ones self.
Please do not take this the wrong way I know what you meant...
I wish I could get all the lonely ones to my house..
From My House to Yours Happy Holidays.

Answer 9

The entire season has been commercialized to the point that the true meaning of Christmas is lost.
I'm not talking only about the birth of Christ.
I have GREAT memories of Christmas's past that serve to get me through the lonely holiday times.

Answer 10

Well for me it is the fact that I am alone so to speak, no mate to share this time of the year with. I don't like going to party's as all the folks that goes to these party's take their mates with them. I don't like going shopping as I see all the couples holding hands and laughing, trying to decide what to get who. No I am not a Scrooge either. As a matter of fact I am taking Lexapro now for my depression. I use to make candy, cookies, and pumpkin bread as gifts for family and friends, but I have been asked not to make it any more. But that is ok as I don't have the money to do it this year any way.