I've noticed many younger (and even middle aged) women who can't really be independent. Like my cousin who has to be driven back and forth to work everyday and shopping because she doesn't have it together enough to buy a reliable car. She has turned down may other people's offer for help (i.e. become a roomate, or get a boyfriend) 'cuz she says she wants to be "independent". Meanwhile she causes massive inconvenience to her family. What is going on here? Any suggestions? She might as well be living in her parents basement since she's living off them anyways......
2007-12-23 11:07:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
To me, that shows what can happen when parents try to keep their offspring as children too long. Parents need to stop fighting their children's battles for them and allow them to make their own mistakes and learn from them. Those people are not going to become independent adults if they know their parents will keep bailing them out every time they get into trouble.
2007-12-23 13:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by RoVale 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I see not only young adults who are dependent on their mothers (and fathers), who think they're being independent but are expecting their family members to caretake them, but I know of older adults who use their adult children like a taxi service, since they don't want to use a bus, since that's "lower-class". I'm amazed at the selfishness of some family members, who think the rest of their families should give up their lives to caretake them. I left home at 18 and never lived with my parents again. I don't have children, and won't expect my relatives to caretake me when I age.
2007-12-24 15:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are basing all of this on your cousin.
I see both genders coming home after college- but young men staying far longer than young women.
2007-12-23 20:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by professorc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't say that I'm completely dependent on my mom...but she is one of my best friends, and I talk to her on the phone at least once a day.
2007-12-23 20:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by Holdin' on to Hope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is gender related. I notice that older teenagers and 20-something people of both genders are living extended childhoods and are running, kicking and screaming, away from adult responsibility.
2007-12-23 20:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
have you thought about how many men are still overly dependant on thier mothers??
2007-12-24 05:58:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋