k im bi ive always knew that...but the thing is my parents are traditional middleeatern greek orthodox ppl who think that beeing gay is a sin...and plus i dont know any gay ppl expet over the internet...i wanna be able to go out and meet ppl but i dont know how...i was thinking to go a gay club on new years but then my friends are all straight so not happining...and thats the only time that i can actualy go clubbing cz my parents dont really like it...yea it kind seems that my parents control me but i just dont wanna get into fights with them....the only gay firnd that i knoe dsnt support me he thinks that im not man enough to be gay thats cz i ddnt kiss him when he wanted too and i refused to have sex( i wasnt ready) but now evry day that passes by i gett more and more dipressed i dont know what to do i wanna live a happy life...i wanna meet gay ppl and have a boyfriend and stuff...but i cant find ppl that will understand the situation that im in what should i do ?
2007-12-23 09:11:03 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
not to be rude but listen.
this is YOUR life. not your PARENTS. Go and do what YOU want. Find somone that is PERFECT for YOU. You were born bisexual and it isnt your fault, dont let the idiotic beliefs of the people around you harbor you to depression.
2007-12-23 09:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by Poke 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The help you seek in getting a gay person is not far away if, you were to add more detail as to where you are, what you are looking for in a relationship with a gay person, how long do you intend this relationship to last, and the negative limitations you put up in getting into a gay relationship. Then you must ask yourself if you are going to stay bi or go full hog into being gay, and this you must decide yourself, so that you can be honest with the gay person you get. As for your parents don't worry about that at the moment, the time will come to tell them when you are good and ready, and when you are sure about your decision yourself.
2007-12-23 17:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by mrlonely_solonely_immrlonely 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why cant you bring some of ur straight friends with you to a gay club for some support? I know lots of straight people that go to gay bar, this guy friend of yours doesnt sound too nice, if you arnt ready for sex then thats all there is to it, no matter what your preference of partner is! It doesnt mean that your not man enough so please dont listen to this jerk, pluck up the courage to go out with other friends, take some friends that you trust out with you to a gay bar and meet people and make some new friends, good luck!
xxxx Happy xmas!
2007-12-23 17:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by cme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, it does not sound like you are bi. You seem like you want to date guys more than girls. That is kind of confusing me a bit and you seem confused. I can imagine it is tough trying to conceal your sexual orientation from your parents. If you are not close with them, it might be extremely hard.
Your parents do not sound controlling at all, they just want what is best for their son. Thats all. Your parents may not agree with that but that should not stop them from loving you as their son, you know? I personally do not think it is right to be gay but I dont judge my friends that are gay and lesbian.
Lol at your reference of man enough to be gay. Um whether you are gay or not, never let anyone force you to be with them. That is so not cool, if you did not want to kiss him you should not, bottomline.
How old are you? I would say to respect your parents and when you get on your own like in college or whatever then try to meet other guys or whatever. You seem really young and depressed over not being with other guys! As another person said you do not have to act on every attraction. Learn to like yourself and you will be accepted by others regardless of your differences.
2007-12-23 17:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by ♥CJ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your old enough to drink, so you should not let your parents control what you do. Your old enough to make those decisions anyway, so you should just go to the club and do what you wanna do. It may be a good idea to move out if their not going to be supportive of your lifestyle. Don't let their beliefs constrict your social life.
Do you have any close girl friends? I have been to gay bars before, I know some straight girls go to get away from men gawking at them at other bars and stuff. They may be more comfortable with going with you then one of your straight-male friends. You could also try going by yourself, you'll meet tons of new people and maybe even make new gay friends/find a boyfriend.
Don't ruin your chance at happiness to make your parents happy..it's not worth it. Goodluck!
2007-12-23 17:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by emmm 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well we all know what u need to do..talk 2 ur folks...which probably will knock them right out of their feet when they find out that ur gay. they think its a sin. and really it is a sin, if u read the bible, but everybody sins, and u cant help ur feelings. ur parents sin..nobody's perfect, and they should know that, and love u regardless of what..so if u start the conversation off by telling them that u will start a new life , because ur tired of always trying to make other ppl happy, instead of urself. tell them that u r going to live ur own life, the way u want it, but dont be mean when u say it. keep telling them that u love them and u wish they would except u for u...and then they gonna think ur insane, and ask u "what r u talking about son?" u need to keep hesistating about telling them and after while u just get so hyped up and burst out the truth, trust me this should work. and after ur confession to ur parents..honey i am telling u, these men will come around u in a heartbeat...u have to free urself. u cant just suck it all up u know what i mean...feel free to write me an email if u like and tell me how it went...(rika_2007)
2007-12-23 17:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by Erika-Zola 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's hard to understand, you can add more! so you don't have to write in shorthand. Ok, first your parents are controling you, if you old enough to go to a club, you are old enough to make your own choices. Don't let people tell you who you are, your friend is not gonna be able to say if you are gay/bi or not.
2007-12-23 17:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got your whole life ahead of you. Wait till you're a little older to go out and meet folks. Till then concentrate on your studies.
When you get out on your own and have a good job, what your parents think won't matter.
2007-12-23 17:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by Poet G 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Eventually, you're going to have to tell your parents and friends. You can go to a gay club with some freinds that are supportive and willing to go with you..
2007-12-23 17:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are sexually attracted to both men and women, why are you so intent on having sex with men? None of us can or should act on all of our sexual attractions.
I'm straight and I'm very sexually attracted to someone else's wife. Well, I should not and will not act on that sexual attraction. I'm divorced now, but when I was married, I was sexually attracted to some women I worked with. So what! I remained faithful to my wife.
We all have sexual attractions that we have to ignore. If you are sexually attracted to both women and men, why cause both you and your parents heartbreak by seeking men to have sex with?
I don't mean to be critical but hope I have said something that may be helpful.
2007-12-23 17:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋