I was chatting online and had become bored with my relationship and started talking hot and heavy and talking badly about my boyfriend online with these people and he found some of the logs and this happened almost a year ago and and things were fine up until 3 months ago and now he says he went every weekend and read the logs and it hurt him bad and he has no trust for me and treats me terrible. He has been sleeping on the couch for three months. Please help I don't know what to do????????????? I love him so much.
2007-12-23 07:45:57 · 13 answers · asked by newhampshirewoman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Every relationship has tough times, and there are times when you just need to get it off your chest. The channel you chose to do that may not be to his or anyone else's taste but if at the time it helped you then I think you need to explain that to your boyfriend. You know you should have spoken to your man about your grievances but you didnt and now you need to find a way to get over it. 3 months is way too long to be stewing over this argument. Ultimatley you both have to want to get over this obstacle and you never know your relationship might be stronger after. You obviously dont want to lose him so ask him how you can help him get over this. Take it one step at a time and keep communicating!
Good luck honey. Dont listen to the other answers who have been mean to you. Long term relationships are hard work.
2007-12-23 08:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Edders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is a trust issue. You gave him plenty to come to the conclusion that you were ready to go looking for another pasture. I would let him know how you seriously feel and if that is that you truly want a relationship with him then the ball is in your court so to speak. First let him know that it was a stupid mistake on your part and your truly sorry and something like this will never happen again and that you are looking for a more open and honest relationship that will make both of you happy. Then go forward day by day and if either feels something is wrong then have an open door for the other to ask is there something wrong and if so lets deal with it so neither builds up hurt. Hope this helps and good luck.
2007-12-23 16:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by jack-o-trades 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 yrs and never married- there is a lot of love there. if he's sleeping on the couch for 3 months than either he has found some one else or he wants you to leave. don't beat yourself up, i've done a lot worse, so i'm not judging you. you were not happy and now he is not happy- why stay together, apparently neither one of you loved enough for a commitment of marriage so go find the person your really meant to be with. again the fault lays with both of you not just you, there was reasons why you did what you did, he can't see that-
2007-12-23 16:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved him why say things about hi like that i mean im not denying your love for him because there is obviously love if you guys have been 2gether 4 almost 20 years. Then you put it on the net hats worse because you never know who have read it. Then you probably hurted his ego.He is probably hurt badly but doesn't know what 2 do because you are the love of his life also. Love can be so complicated.
2007-12-23 15:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by mz.Un4gettable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved him so much you would have never done those things. I would end it with my guy if he did those things to me no matter how long we have been together and how much I love him. he deserves someone who will treat him better than what you have shown. he will probably never trust you again. if you got bored why didn't you try to make things more interesting between the two of you instead of turning to someone else? it's things like what you did that lead to cheating If I was your guy I would leave and never look back. sorry for the bitter truth but I hope it opens your eyes some more. good luck
2007-12-23 15:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk hot and heavy to me lol. If he hasn't gotten over that by now, he most likely won't. I'm afraid there is not much you can do. I suggest you chalked the experience up, learn from it and leave the guy if he doesn't stop.
2007-12-23 15:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have a talk with him and let him know why you were doing this and want to really make up. You were missing something from him and looking for that attention. You need this attention from him and plan to give him more back. show that you want to and in time he will come around.
2007-12-23 16:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! tell him it was a joke that you was just bored tell him that you are sorry and tell him that you love him very much and ask him if he could give you 1 more chance. and hug him and kiss him and say Im sorry baby I will never do it again! that was so wrong He was really really hurt you shouldnt do that. you know guys cry to we just wouldnt want you girls to know. that why most of us do it in private!
2007-12-23 15:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the men hate this so much,write him a message telling him about every thing,and explane to him that you were made and boerd,and tell him how much u love him and u can't live with out him, ETC
try to him read your message in the morning when he wake's up and put the message in good place so he can read it.
MASONLINE GOODLUCK
2007-12-23 16:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by MAS ONLINE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 years together and still not married or more committed than just a "boyfriend " ????
you've wasted 20 years of your life, sweetie. you need more professional help than you can get on here.
2007-12-23 15:54:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋