my g/f has p.n.d ( that's post Natal depression for any1 who doesn't know what p.n.d )?

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but wont let me near her to help, What can i do please help.
From a very upset bloke who needs YOUR help today.

Answer 1

Hi
The best thing to do is talk to her and see if she wants to speak to health visitor or GP. Help her out with the house work and things. I have not had p.n.d but when my son was born 15weeks ago i had "baby blues" for about 10 days and it was awful. Although i was very happy with my son and partner i just couldnt stop crying. It helped me that i spoke to my midwife as i thought i was going mad. Reassure her and tell her p.n.d is very common and does not mean your a bad mother or you cant cope. I was worried at what people would think about me.
Good Luck and all the best.

Answer 2

The most you can do is reassuer her that you are there for her, and give her the love and support she needs.

PND affects people in different ways. When my mum suffered from it, she felt as though she wasn't good enough to be a mummy (even though she was absolutely fantastic!) and her self confidence dropped dramatically.

Encourage her to see a GP, or go together if she needs you there for support.

Remember, she is going through a very hard time herself-giving birth whilst being the most natural part of human nature is also exhausting, physically, emotionally and mentally, so make sure you're there for her and reassure her that she's doing a great job, that you love her no matter what and that you can get through this together.

I'd certainly suggest going to the GP though if you haven't already as there may be medication your girlfriend can have to help. Also, pop along yourself for some more advice and guidance on how to cope.
Unfortunately, we can't give direct answers as everyone is so different-but we certainly can give some examples and you can take from them for strength.

Remember she is certainly not alone in this and neither are you.

With best wishes, and the very best of luck,

Loulla XX

Answer 3

I had that as well. The best thing that you can do to help is help around the house. Help her with the baby and make sure that your girlfriend gets plenty of rest. Be there so that she can talk to you but when she is ready. Don't keep trying to talk to her about it as she may feel guilty and depressed at the moment(i did). Make sure that she is getting the support she needs from doctor/health visitor. Also try and get her to take a walk in the outside with you and baby at least once a day. It really does help calm the mind. Good luck. It doesn't last forever and with help and support she can recover

Answer 4

Let her talk to you at her own time and just be there for her when she does talk. I had pnd and found that my health visitor was a great help. Whenn I had spoken to her she referred me to the GP and then i saw a counsellor. In the meantime, the GP had prescribed fluoxetine (Prozac) and I felt better within a few weeks so when the counsellor saw me , I was almost better. It didn't last long and it was around Christmastime when i actually started tp feel better. My husband booked me an afternoon of relaxing facials, massage etc and that just let me know that he cared, although i never really opened up to him as i couldn;t understand what was going on myself. Let your partner know that it won't last forever and hope that she doesnt feel a failure-at the end of the day, she can't control it, it's those hormones. Feel free to contact me if you think it will help. Take care of each other. Nooka. xx

Answer 5

Hi i suffer from post natal depression but i am on medication for it, is she on tablets for it make sure she is taking them or they may not be working and they may need changed
Give her praise and reasurrance although you are probably doing so, it may seem that she is not listening to you, but she is but is not showing it. Try to do some things around the house but not getting in the way at the same time, like wash the dishes hoover up etc dont wait till she is doing the task and take over that will wind her up. You could take your baby out for a walk and let her have some sleep at times. But she has to get out and about, if she is not doing that much, you could ask a friend to come round or her mum any family member talk to them privately and in confidence and let them know what is going on. My sister used to come over and we would go shopping or walks around the park and it really helped, i never told my family about my depression as i was ashamed that they would think i wasnt coping etc but un aware to me at the time my partner told them, and i am so glad he did as it really got me through it. I am still on the tablets and my daughter is 11months and i am a lot better i feel back to myself. I think you are doing a great job, wanting to help and do things for her, you are probably being as patient as you can and are at your wits end with it all, but hang in honey it will get better i promise. Dads get PND too so if you are feeling down you can talk to your gp too. If you need any advice just email me. Good luck take care and have a nice xmas, just take it easy honey. xxxx

Answer 6

First of all,well done you. She obviously has a loving partner who cares. I have had pnd, but am getting help, i found that just knowing my partner was there if i needed him meant alot as well as constant reassurance that he wasnt going to leave me. She needs to try to find out where her local parenting groups, baby massage ect are. Getting out is also very helpful, in knowing that she isnt alone ect. I felt that when I went to visit my family without my partner helped as were almost forced to bond. Can you get anyone to take the baby over night so that you can both get quality time together and sleep? Hang in there as it does get better, Merry Christmas!x

Answer 7

Get her out of the house, and into the sunlight. Help out around the house with the shopping and buy things that have high omega 3's and things that are red and orange in color. like bell peppers and salmon. These things help regulate her body which helps her regulate her hormones (the cause of the depression).

Get friends and family over from time to time, talk to her family openly about her behvaior (its always easier to stay depressed when its a secret suffering), go with her to her check ups and let the doctor know she's suffering from it.

Encourage her to seek help, be her support, and realize she'll lash out at you, and you'll have to try to see past it.

Answer 8

Help with chores such a washing up. Let her rest as much as possible and realise that you are not going to be her top priority for quite a long time. You must also put it across gently, that the child isn't just hers. The baby needs to bond with Father too.

Answer 9

theres nothing YOU can do directly for her apart from helping her as much as possible with the baby if she will let you but i would speak to a doctor or better yet her health visitor about it they will be able to put her in touch with a counsellor or psychologist, thats the only way she will be able to start getting better. try to be patient with her though she may not want help at first but you just have to persuade her to get help. be patient and she will be back to normal soon.
good luck to you and merry xmas

Answer 10

Ask a doctor please.

My cousin got it too during a short time and it has ended.