this was the first and only time i said things like this to her. i apologized to her sincerely many times but she can't forgive me. we are broken up now. i had a problem with being hyperthroid, which causes irratibility, but i don't want to blame it on that. have you ever gotten angry and said things like this? do you think these things are worthy of forgiveness?
"you have so many reasons but they're all BS excuses to me", "i really don't give a sh*t," " i just think your mind is utterly strange", "you are so full of cr*p" "I think i love you but that pisses me off so i'm going to stop",
2007-12-23 04:26:26 · 9 answers · asked by rhiannon_kc 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
btw, this was all said over the internet
2007-12-23 04:38:14 · update #1
Yes. Pretty abusive. More than what you said, it was the way you said it that would make it memorable. Were you screaming? That is scary. Good luck on trying to win her back.
C. :)!!
2007-12-23 04:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some of it might be in the tone of voice you use. However, most of us at some point have said things that were waaaay out of line and then suffered the consequences. It might be that she was at the end of her rope with you and is now using this as a reason to leave, and it will be a growing experience for you. Be very careful how you speak to those you love. Words can hurt. All you can do now is apologize and learn from it. It's up to her to offer you forgiveness and if she can't, then she is probably more immature than you. Don't beat yourself up over it. Just learn to be careful how you use your words.
2007-12-23 12:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you might should ask your doctor about your tantrums. rather it was a one time thing or not, it could be the beginning of a more permanent behavior for you, which is totally unacceptable. this is bordering on abuse. you may just start this kind of treatment, but keep it up and you will be a man who is emotionally abusing his lover. not a good thing. i know you are sorry for the hurtful things you said, and i think you should just give the girl time and leave her alone and pray about it and if you are a christian, ask GOD to heal you and bring back your girl. please ask your doctor if you need any medicine to treat this. whatever you do, i know you have indeed learned a very painful lesson. good luck to you in your future. take care of yourself ............... and others.
2007-12-23 12:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by lrfoster7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I , being a female, still can't get how a male's mind works in love... the day i understand....im gonna give a million bucks to the male who explains it to me....
these things depend on whom u say them to, if it was me, id jus say eff off and run away and not forgive u until u get all lovey dovey with me...
but ur girl is a soft one...u wouldn’t have said all that to her if she didn’t annoy you…its probably too late to change the past but next time..calm ur self down….dont say anything if u get annoyed…its difficult if u hav someone as soft as them….
What u said cud be offensive but remember one thing….its never too late to forgive…forgiveness comes with very few people…it’s a gift…u haven’t done anything wrong unless she has genuinely offended u, but next time don’t go head first into putting ur guard…
I really don’t get a male in love, do they even fall in love, I neva understood my man until we broke up….same for u…maybe she isn’t the one….or maybe u 2 were made for each other but u really don’t get wat each one truly feels
Don’t forget mate, she might forgive u if u truly ask for it….
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wait a sec....were u net lovers? because then...if u were or werent tht doesnt matter but the internet is really not the place to say anything like that....the other person never knows ur body language so it really might be late to change it ....still ask for forgiveness or jus let it be....
2007-12-23 12:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by Niquita LaVita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one that would be hard to forgive would be the last one. Everone says things they don't mean but that would hurt a lot.
2007-12-23 12:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, that was verbal abuse. it's hard to forgive someone who verbally abuses you because you think the next step is physical abuse.
2007-12-23 12:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by kittymom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't control other people's responses
if you make a mistake - take responsibility ask for forgiveness. they may or may not forgive you.
2007-12-23 12:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha it is way harsh, but i think id forgive you. you just need to prove how much you actually do love her and wanna be with her
2007-12-23 12:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats not verbal abuse, she must have pissed you off, thats why you said all that, chill out and take it easy i think yuor a nice person and your worrying for no reason, take it easy mate.............
2007-12-23 12:33:52 · answer #9 · answered by mrsazeem2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋