My friend told me to ask this.
She is 20 years old and she and her boyfriend (also 20 years old) had unprotected sex a couple of days ago(Thursday, I think). She didnt really want to do it, but he forced her (not like abusively, but she didnt want to do it) Well anyway, she does not know if he ejaculated (is there anyway to tell) and she is really nervous about gettin pregnant/catching something. Is there anything I can tell her?? She says her last period was around Dec. 7-12.
2007-12-23 04:24:17 · 11 answers · asked by Da1Nonly 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He doesn't have to to ejaculate in her to get pregnant or catch STD's! If her last period was those dates you will not be able to tell if shes pregnant till after she misses her next period! So you'll have to wait! Which will suck I know but try to keep her calm and her mind off of it a little so she doesn't stress herself out and have an anxiety attack! As for STD's Find a local free clinic or a teen clinic( if the teen clinic won't take her, as some accept you till your 25, then they can direct you to an adult clinic) or she can get a hold of your local welfare office and they can give her a list of all the clinics she can go to! Also If she was forced to have sex convince her to call police! Too many cases go unheard and too many people go without punishment because The girl was afraid to tell or talked herself out of it making her believe that it was only that one time he won't do it again or some other thoughts like that! I was raped from when I was 10 to when I was 15 because I was too afraid to tell anyone and when I finally did The police couldn't do anything about it because Their was no evidence anymore! I hope all works out for your friend! And She gets the answers she is looking for!
2007-12-23 04:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by autum_mist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have news for you... that's RAPE.
His refusal to respect her saying she didn't want to IS ABUSE... and IS RAPE!
It doesn't matter if he ejaculated in the usual fashion...
He could still have oozed sperm and YES ... she may WELL BE PREGNANT! She's at the right time to get pregnant.
Tell her to do the following:
#1: BREAK UP WITH THE ABUSIVE 'BOYFRIEND'
#2: go to her OB - or regular doctor and ask what treatment can be done to ensure there's no pregnancy.
#3: ask the doctor if a rape test can be done this long after the rape has occurred
#4: if a rape test can be done, she should report the rape
#5: if she's foolish enough to stay with him, she should have a rape test done as soon as possible after the non-consentual unprotected sex which she should have done this time. He WILL do this to her again... and again...
If she doesn't believe me, she can ask a policewoman or the doctor if they would define this as rape, but I KNOW it's rape. Just because he didn't cause her pain doesn't excuse him. When a man refuses to respect a woman's choice to not have unprotected sex, that is rape. He's risking her life and her health. He's attempting to FORCE an unwanted pregnancy on her.
She should NOT stay with this guy as he has no respect for her as a person, nor does he respect her right to say no. If she stays with him, he'll eventually get worse and hurt her as well.
2007-12-23 12:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The event unfortunately happened close to the window of prime fertility for most women. It doesn't matter whether he ejaculated or not (although if he was that dead set on sex, it's hard to imagine he'd stop).
She could get a morning after-pill and take it today and hope for the best. It would have been more effective if she'd taken it yesterday or Friday, but that's about all she can do at this point besides wait for her next period to see if she's late.
2007-12-23 12:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by helene 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO way to know after just a couple of days...she can go to the doctor for a blood test after 12 days. She should go anyway just to get checked for STDs.
Also you need to help your friend learn that if she doesn't want sex not to do it...I know you can't hold her hand about it but give her some self confidence. And any time that she's not in a steady monogomous relationship she needs to be using condoms EVERY TIME!!!
2007-12-23 12:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by Shiningami_Gurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres not really any way to tell if he ejaculated - execept to ask him but he sounds like an a**hole so I wouldn't trust his response. Having unprotected sex will always make you vulnerable to contracting an STD and she should get tested asap. If she doesn't get her period in a couple weeks she should try taking a home pregnancy test. EPT is the best brand to use.
2007-12-23 12:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just dont know how you cant tell whether a guy ejaculates in you or not and if he didnt than it would have to be somewhere. If it was her boyfriend and she didnt want to and is afraid of catching something than why is she with him in the first place?
2007-12-23 12:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by ~Nicki~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesnt know some of these basic things about sex, she shouldnt be having it. If she didnt want to get pregnant or catch anything, she either shouldnt have sex or use protection to cut down on the chances.
2007-12-23 12:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Shawn S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't have to have ejaculated for her to get pregnant/catch something... I'd tell her to get tested if she's worried, and as far as the pregnancy goes, have her wait it out to see. Why doesn't she just ask him... I would assume there's no reason to believe he didn't. She should know.
2007-12-23 12:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get a new boyrfriend, see a doctor (planned parenthood is free) and consider talking to the police.
Either she doesnt have sex with someone because she doesnt want to and is forced to, or she has sex with him because she eventually wants to.
If its the second she needs to grow the hell up, if its the first is IS abuse.
2007-12-23 12:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask it again on Jan 17 its going to be a long 4 weeks for her /who knows its her bf so would think she wont catch anything but about a baby it only takes one time
2007-12-23 12:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋