Are you gay because you haven't found the right heterosexual partner?

Question

Did you have a bad experience(s) with the opposite sex that turned you?

Answer 1

Are you straight because you have not found the right male partner? I assume you are straight because if you were gay, you would not be asking this question.

Answer 2

If bad experiences were an indicator of turning gay then all people would be gay. Im sure each person has had bad experiences with the opposite and same sex. That doesnt mean anything. Perhaps you are gay but dont know it bc you havent met the right person of the same sex. And to that person who claims they are a "university student studying psychology and human reltions (whatever that is)," you are full of sh1t. I am a clinical psychology major and have my masters in that field and Ive taken human sexuality and abnormal psyc classes and have done alot of research on the topic and your view on it is TOTALLY wrong. Perhaps you are getting your information from a 1960s textbook because your view is similar to those from the past. Also, what would you have to say about people who have tried to "become straight" and have been in hetero relationships...and again, if it were about fear, lack of communication, then all people would be gay for that matter. Either you must be at a some religious institution or you arent a student bc mainstream psychology does NOT teach your view.

Answer 3

No, I could have had more girls than one can count (no offense to anyone, please), girls even tried to get me after I was out -- it has nothing to do with not finding the right heterosexual partner -- its having no interest whatsoever in a member of the opposite sex.

One isn't turned gay, one is always gay. One knows one is gay when one is very young. I knew when I was 8, for example, though I didn't know the name for it until 11. Different folks deal in different ways. Some just accept themselves (that usually indicates a healthy home without hate), some hide, but act secretly (closeted), some deny it to themselves for years and fight it (but you can't change what you are, gay or straight so they invariably fail) some even decide to be celibate for life (usually the religious extremists). Gay however, is gay, just as straight is straight.

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Reyn
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Answer 4

Lol. This is hilarious. You're the same guy who asked the girl-on-girl action question. OKAY, I'll tell you what I truly believe.

Gay men are gay and lesbians are lesbians, because they cannot handle heterosexual relationships. They do not know how to communicate romantically with the opposite sex, so they turn to the same sex for companionship.

Also, they are afraid. If they are men, they are afraid that they cannot be masculine enough to measure up to a girl's expectations. Women may feel that they are not feminine enough to measure up to a man's expectations.

There is also fear of the unknown. Men usually don't know what women want and women don't usually know what men want. This is a challenge for them, and they don't want to put in the effort.

In addition, being gay gives them the freedom to deny the roles that are usually played by man and a woman in a heterosexual relationship.

For ex. with a woman, a female will not feel the need to be the emotional caregiver all the time. She can be a butch.

With a man, a man is able to appreaciate beauty and corny things that make him feel as if he doesn't have to be macho all the time. He is able to act effiminate.

There are less gender-role pressures in gay relationships, in general. Doesn't it seem logical?

Answer 5

No, but I did have bad experiences with the *same* gender that made me turn to men for a while for the attention. Then, years later, I realized what I was doing, and said "Enough's enough!" Now I really identify as a lesbian, and I feel much much better.

Answer 6

No.

Do you consider yourself STRAIGHT because you never found the right man to be with?

Sexual attraction, though complex, can be determined without ever being in a sexual relationship. I was telling people I was gay long before I ever went to bed with anyone.

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Answer 7

Sure not! I had some gf and got married for few years. Some just born and some just become. I became gay because i felt attraction to guys as well.

Answer 8

Dude,you really need to get with a good gay guy to find out what you are missing.

Answer 9

i have had bad experiences with the opposite sex....true!...but i am more sexually attracted to the same sex

Answer 10

I thought that there was no such thing as a stupid question, but here we go.