What makes a man cheat?

Question

I was just wondering what makes a man want to cheat on his wife of 6 years if he is 35 and the girl he is seeing on the side is 21. And also, he has no kids with the wife. Is it a mid-life crisis or does he just want to have sex? Also, do married men usually care if they hurt their wife's feelings or cheat, as long as they think they can get away with it? Thanks for all your help!

Answer 1

Several reasons:

1 - the main squeeze has stopped putting out
2 - the main squeeze nags alot
3 - the main squeeze has gained 50 pounds
4 - the main squeeze has 'too many miles' on her
5 - the new chick is actually nice
6 - the new chick is young
7 - the new chick is wild in the sack
8 - the new chick puts out ALOT

You should get the idea.............

Answer 2

Sadly, I've cheated and hurt my Wife horribly. To look for a characteristic as to WHY men cheat is moot. It's usually something unique to the individual and cannot be characterized among the whole gender.

I know in my case, it was the fact that I was looking for happiness instead of making that happiness occur within my own marriage. I was looking for the proverbial greener yard next door and used the other Woman as a means to my own selfish endeavors.

Granted, there were many who observed my marriage and thought I was justified or at least what I did was understandable, but the truth of the matter is that 2 wrongs never make a right. Now, as a result, I don't have an argument when it comes to trying to point out what my Wife did wrong, because I didn't show Her how I was hurt - I showed someone else...

I think, typically, most men get bored and often Women assume men think with their penis, which is honestly far from reality. A man's sex organ is his brain, and he MUST be interested before he can express it. This is why we beg our wives to do the taboo for us, or wear lingerie, or be risque for us...we want that intrigue.

What men tend to do, because they don't express their emotions as well as Women, is express ourselves sexually. We invented the "stress-screw", if ya catch my drift. Our moods really get played out during our sexual encounters and sometimes, unfortunately, our desire or lustful thoughts of other women don't stop at just musings in our minds, we tend to act out sexually...

Certainly, no excuse, and a lousy explanation, because it's our own decision to exercise control or to loose that control...

EDIT: One other thing, after I cheated, I began to see a counselor about my infedelity and an interesting tidbit of information she gave me is this: Women cheat just as much as men do, but the reasons are usually different.

Answer 3

Good question. There are many reasons a man cheats.

My man and I have been together for 6yrs as well and we are very open with each other about our feelings and that is one of many questions that I asked him. His reply was "because the man is not getting the attention he wants from his wife or woman". All men want is attention. If he is not getting the attention at home he will find it somewhere else, no ifs ands or buts about it.

It doesn't really matter what his age is, he's a man, they thinks that as long as she is over 18, she is an adult and he can't go to jail. It will be consentual sex. He is doing with her what he wants/wanted to do with you.

A man will try to get that attention from his wife/woman, if he doesn't get the response he once "used" to get from you/her he will stray and it's not something a "real man" would/want to do, it's something "he" feels he was forsed to do because he didn't get the response he wanted from his wife/woman.

It's all up to you/her to give him what he wants, wether it's sex, affection, or time. He will get to thinking; "is it me?", "what am I doing wrong?", and "if she isn't doing things with me who is she doing them with?" Then there comes the arguments, the lack of trust and the lack of "attention time", not just for him but for you too.

Think about it, if you are arguing all the time and both mad at the other for what ever reason, you will stay mad until it's resolved and that could take forever in some cases and that leads no time for "attention time" for either of you. That means more time apart and no "together time". That would tend to break up a relationship. It's not something you/she probably would have wanted but that is were it lead (s).

As far as the feelings, wether or not a man cares if he hurts his wife/womans feelings, he does at first, but then he gets over it and he continues to do it behind your/her back and not think twice of how you feel because in "his" mind you deserve it.

Now, with the kids, for some men it does matter but for others it doesn't. It all depends on the individual man/person and in what type of situation you/she and he are in. Some try to make it work for the kids, but think about it if you two/they aren't happy then why try to save it, just let it go, they kids will be fine, they will always see their dad/father.

It's you/she and he who need to live with the fact that something is wrong and if you don't try to work on it, it will lead to other things and that is not a really cool way to go. It's very disrespectful and once you loose the trust and respect, it's OVER and you must go on living your life with out him/her even if you don't want to let go, because I know it's hard, especially when you really love someone, you have to put that aside and think about what the facts are in the relationship, now tell me....Is it worth it?". Good Luck!

Answer 4

Same thing that makes a woman cheat after 9 years of marriage, abandon her 2 kids and nothing to do with them.

Answer 5

Lust, physical attraction, he's not getting enough at home or wasnt pleased in a way he liked....boredom, revenge....there are number of reasons for why men cheated on their wives.

Some men may have guilt after they cheated or some may not.

Answer 6

I think men cheat becuase they love the feeling of being sneaky and having another person by their side

Answer 7

Curiosity is the reason, plus i believe everyone gets bore.
Well, that's just my opinion.

Answer 8

The amazing power of hormones.

Answer 9

Cheaters are selfish pleasure-seekers. They care about no one but themselves.

Answer 10

i dont kow about you but all that i know is that men go for younger women and younger women go for older men (or their just gold diggers)