Has anyone been around a coworker who always had time to micromanage and make it their mission to help you when you didn't want or desire their help, but the minute that you asked for their help, they gave you the brush off. Is this a form of manipulaton or "crazy" making on their part. These are the kinds of coworkers who make it seem like they are doing all the work.
2007-12-23 03:17:05 · 9 answers · asked by GilmoreGirls1 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I can be this type of person to some degree. I offer my help because teamwork make things easier, many hands makes light work, etc. I chip in whereever I think I might be able to help.
When someone comes to me for help, though, I usually turn them down saying, 'Have you tried to take care of this on your own?', or something similar. I don't want people bringing every little problem to me so I make sure they have tried to fix things by themselves before running for help.
2007-12-23 03:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by mcq316 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Which is why you minimize the amount of support you provide for those type co-workers. Do your job and help those who help you, but for the non-team players, the only way they learn what why teamwork is important is by showing them how it works. You don't get to join a team and then play the game for yourself. I would advise indirectly ostricizing that person until they realize that things get done much easier in the workplace with everyone working together, not working for themselves. Teach a lesson in humility. But don't be nasty or spiteful. Just don't be available when they need you, but make sure to help others. Manuipulation sounds like the diagnosis for that employee. be careful, there may be alterior motives
2007-12-23 03:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Shyla B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is vague and does not tell things in black and white! You say they voluntarily come forward to help you and that too when you don't want it! On the other hand they refuse to help you when you need it! The statements are contradictory to each!
You have added something more on them to ask whether they are crazy to do these things or they manipulate you! Finally you have the feeling that they make the management to understand and accept them are the only people doing all the work in the company!
Are you a beginner/starter in the company? You may be right in all of them, but keep things just in mind and do not say to them anything! Take their help if it comes freely and be friendly with them to get attached to know more about them namely how far they are good and faithful to you in friendship,care and guidance!
Till you learn all the work and get experience to do things on your own, you need to be good to them and must get along with them! But keep your estimate of others, just in mind and don't take things seriously and talk bad to them! If you really feel even one out of them is really a good person then develop your friendship strong and do all that you can for him to be with you for continued support! Good luck!
2007-12-23 03:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by anjana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work with someone like that. He micromanages himself into complete confusion and then get pissy when I'm unable/unwilling to help him out. When I need his help he tells me that he's too busy for this sh!t. He does that to everyone, so I don't feel too bad about it.
2007-12-23 03:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are people who are control freaks. If they can't butt in and take control, they don't want any part of it. When they try to "help" you, ask them what they're working on, then tell them how to do it.
2007-12-23 03:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by sarah_sunshine_73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had this particular type of situation, but it seems that I might try to be more friendly to them and show them that I am better than they are.
2007-12-23 03:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by Maxine H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are control freaks and very self centered theres always a few of them no matter where you work.
2007-12-23 03:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Little B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup.
2007-12-23 03:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by A Random Stranger You Meet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i havent
2007-12-23 03:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by paulxxxboom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋