My parents and their friends are some of the most OBNOXIOUS high spirited, perfectionistic, high expectation, snooty snobs that I have EVER encountered. I mean these people are so obssessed with everything and anything, and every grade their kids get MUST be an A, and if it's an A-, you must fight fight fight to get it up there!!!!! Caffeine caffeine caffeine, competition competition competition!
When I come across these people, I just get so nauseated and offended because they seem to live on cloud 9, and don't have their priorities straight.
Are they suffering from some type of a mental disorder or something?
OR am I the bad guy for finding them annoying?
I just can't deal with such obnoxious people. It's irritating.
I mean it's okay to aim high, dream, achieve, yadda yadda, but these people are unbelievable. They're so stuck up their own butt, it's just wow.
Is there a way to deal with these people even though THEY themselves won't ever change?
2007-12-23 03:09:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There are various ways in order to deal with people who are like that. The BEST though is to IGNORE them and do not CARE about their behavior. Also, showing INDIFFERENCE is also a good way to calm them down, due to the fact that EVERYONE HATES INDIFFERENCE. But you should find the qualities and not have a cynical outlook on them. You may have a cynical outlook due to the fact that you may lack self-esteem compared to them. NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHER (especially to people who are like that.) Oh and people who are like that try to BRING YOU DOWN and you are letting that happen to you by every statement you have made. Be confident. Be comfortable with yourself. Have high regards for yourself. Just be who w=you are and not let it get to you. Why are you letting these things getting to you? You yourself are not comfortable with you are are and what you have accomplished when hearing them. Try looking in how you feel about yourself and you may have a positive outlook on things. If you feel goods about yourself, your accomplishments, etc...then these little things won't get you. You'll be bragging yourself modestly about your accomplishments and appreciate the way of life of those people. I understand it's irritating but really that's the best thing you can do. Live for yourself, don't let what others say bother you. By the way, if that's how they are they will NEVER change. It's just their life, and they do have their priorities straight because usually those are the kind of people who actually get ahead in life and accomplish many many things. They ACTUALLY accomplish their dreams due to their DRIVE and MOTIVATION and selfishness. If I were you I'd try to look up to certain qualities that these people may have such as mentioned above, their drive and motivation, as well as intelligence in order to accomplish what you want to do.
2007-12-23 03:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by roxane33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different people have different ways of motivating themselves. I'm a total perfectionist with a lot of goals for myself...and my biggest motivator is stress. lol. The thing is though, I know when to accept that my best is enough...so if I happen to get an A- or a B, etc. in a course where I've tried my best I'm still happy with myself. I can understand where you're coming from with people not being happy with A-, semi-perfect work, etc. The college I go to is filled with people like that, we have a lot of the east-coasty prep school kids whose parents aren't happy with anything less than perfect and that is irritating.
2007-12-23 06:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Holdin' on to Hope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different people have different styles and different priorities. One is not necesarily more right or more normal than the other, they do what works for them, you do what works for you.
If you don't enjoy being around a certain type of people, then just don't seek them out as friends. If it's your family, of course you have to be accepting and cordial, but you should also feel like you can make your own preferences clear, and establish yourself as your own person with your own interests.
2007-12-23 03:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are different, I deal with such people by not paying attention to them. The best way to handle it is just to ignore it. I do it and it works for me. Good luck
2007-12-23 03:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't exactly ignore parents and their wishes... but the thing is do as you feel like doing... study at your own pace and try to improve... talk to them and make them realize ... don't fight them... have a session with them regarding this... tell them not everyone's perfect... it takes all to make a world...
2007-12-23 03:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by shystar_fish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋