My husband has known this girl even before he met me. They never hit it off. But they still kept in touch, talkin about whats goin on. Just a few months ago, she wanted to come over to meet with us and hang out. She is asian too like me and about a year or two older than i am. Her home was about 45mins away. The 2nd time, she called us and wanted to meet with us again. Take note, she has a bf and didnt bring her bf twice now. I made dinner and we had fun. Now, my husband and I were already thinking that something is weird: it makes me think that she wants something weird. We couldnt figure it out. And then again, just a couple of days ago, she called and said she wants to come over and see us and then she asks me if it was okay to sleep over "in case she gets too drunk to drive" she says. And again, the bf isnt with her again! That night, she calls the bf to let him know if she is going home or not and i heard her say, "yeah im with my friend right now" and never said anything about...
2007-12-23 02:48:16 · 17 answers · asked by switbaby9 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband being with me too. she just didnt mention it. now that night, nothing happened. we were trying to figure it out all night. she wasnt being flirtatious or anything but what 24-ish yr old woman drives all the way to a married couple's place, planned on staying over night and doesnt ever bring her bf over. there were other subtle instances where it made us think she is looking for something. we just cant point our finger on it.
2007-12-23 02:50:38 · update #1
she had a myspace account too that said swinger at one time and then changed back to straight. its really confusing. its not like we are looking for a threesome, i wouldnt care if it happened but id like to know what she is looking for. wouldnt u think the same thing too?
2007-12-23 02:51:58 · update #2
even if it wasnt a threesome... it makes me think maybe she wants my husband? or maybe she wants me...??
2007-12-23 02:52:38 · update #3
id ask her but i dont want to ruin a good friendship if i was wrong
2007-12-23 02:55:26 · update #4
she has been with her bf for 2 and a half years already and said she was pretty happy. the last time we were together, my husband was driving and i was in the passenger seat and she was in the back. we were just talking and talking until the topic got into vibrators. and then, i guess i felt my husband wanting to test the waters with her to figure her out a little bit so he said, "well my wife needs a vibrator (which i really did) and we need to get one. do u mind if we run up to the store real quick?" and she didnt care! she said it was ok!
2007-12-23 02:58:44 · update #5
i dont care if something like that happens. i wouldnt mind. but id like to know instead of wondering EVERYTIME. i dont want to invite her bf because, then that means that a threesome wouldnt happen!
2007-12-23 03:27:30 · update #6
sometimes i think that she could only be attracted to one of us... me or my husband. im not into girl and girl so i would prefer that i wasnt that included
2007-12-24 03:00:05 · update #7
The other night when we went out, my husband (since he was trying to bump it up a notch to figure out what she really wants), he casually tried hooking his arm around her arm while walking--even just like a friendly gesture---but she resisted. see, that makes me think that she DOESNT want what we think she wants. and yet the part where she wanted to go to a sex toy store, she was all game for---going to buy a vibrator with a couple!
2007-12-24 14:44:22 · update #8
yes, that is definately what she wants. my hubby and i had a similar experience with one of my friends. she always wanted to come and hang out but never brought her bf. she finally got the nerve to ask me if we could have a 3some. i reluctantly said yes and it was a great decision. my husband loved it so much. he said it was a dream come true. now we even do a little swinging. i figured that he may cheat eventually but if we are open about it and consent to it there will be no secrets and we will always have an honest healthy relationship
2007-12-23 02:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not advice you to be malignant with her. Next time when she is in your home you and your husband may start a free and easy chat on the 3some, I mean, in general. I am sure you will know her feelings quite soon. On the other hand, it is not a problem if somebody likes the company of a couple like you and your husband are. If she is a engaging person, then "why not?". If she is a dumb person, then that is no matter if she comes with her b/f, like "normal" people do. But you mentioned that she and your husband are good friends for a long while. So that is also possible that the friendship itself is important for her. You know, the friendship is really important in the life. That is terrible if somebody has no real friend.
2007-12-23 03:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want a 3some to happen as well as your husband. Next time she comes over, you and your husband casually confront her and ask if she would like to do something like that. You could bring it up like: So that vibrator we picked out the other day was great, thanks for coming with us. Maybe you would like to borrow it sometime? As the conversation opens up to sexual topics, mention you and your husband have been thinking about having a 3some with another girl, but it's so hard to find someone your both attracted too that you can trust. She might offer herself with that alone. If she doesn't offer herself, but seems interested, just ask straight up,"Would you like to have a 3some sometime?" and just go from there.
2007-12-23 05:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by JONES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with her wanting to spend time with you and your husband away form her b/f. I have a single friend that comes over and hangs out with my husband and I. She too lives far away and has a b/f she doesn't bring. I have never thought that she wanted to hop into bed with us. I think maybe it is you an/or your husband that are interested in a 3some and are looking for someone here to tell you she wants it. BTW....my friend is also a "swinger"
2007-12-23 03:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by queenbee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could always flirt a little, nothing to overt but enough to maybe make ehr feel comfortable about it all. Touch her a little when you laugh, or give her a hug a bit longer then usual. See how she responds. Who knows, maybe she just likes you two and needs some time from her BF. Or maybe you are right, but if you are suptle about it you might find out.
2007-12-23 03:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by chinamigarden 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's certainly possible. She may be curious and already feels safe with the two of you.
Here is something else to think about. Who first put forth this theory that she might want a 3-way, you or your husband? If it is your husband, then you have a bigger issue here, especially if you are not receptive to it.
But I wouldn't jump to conclusions. Just enjoy her company and wait for more concrete evidence.
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2007-12-23 02:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by a_shrubbery_knight_of_ni 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This makes me wonder too....what exactly is she up to or after? The next time she calls, you might want to talk to her and ask her why she never brings her boyfriend. Maybe she's thinking that one or both of you might flirt with her and all 3 of you end up in bed together....who knows? But you won't find out what she's up to unless you ask.
But, you can insist that her next visit includes her boyfriend.
Good luck.
2007-12-23 02:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Paul L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like it. one way to find out, when she gets drunk one of the times she is over, ask her if she has ever done menage a trois. that will answer it. then if you and your husband are interested in this sort of fun ask if she has ever considered it. it sounds like it by the way she is acting that she is interested in that as well.
2007-12-23 05:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by sweetnspicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could she be trying to make her Bf jealous?
Or maybe she needs friends.
I would ask her to bring her Man next time and see how she acts.
2007-12-23 02:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not invite her back. To me it seems she has every intention of leading your husband away from you and your husband may be enjoying the attention. My opinion only.
2007-12-23 03:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋