My brothers wife is pregnent with my child.What should i do?

Question

My brother had an accident and was in coma for several days.During this period i dont know how it happened but his wife and i became intimate and we did what we should not do.Only one night

Now it has been months and he is ok and i forget what happened until she told me this.What should i do?

Answer 1

Everybody makes mistakes it's human nature but unfortunatly some mistakes have serious consiquences, this is your desision and no one else can make it for you but i'll try and give you the pro's and con's to both desisions.

you need to make a choice now, the longer you wait the more people are going to get hurt, people can't help but dream and your brother is probably imagioning what he thinks of his child growing up ect. but he hasn't yet got a physical attachment to this child.

if you tell....
1) Personally I believe that the truth comes out in the end, and if you don't tell now not only are you hurting your brother more so but also the child, put yourself in their shoes, growing up to find that your dad wasn't really your dad and instead your uncle was.
2) Also you need to consider you brother's wife point of view, perhaps she doesn't want you to tell and would resent you and not let you see the child if you did.

If you don't tell...
1) You may find that you cannot live a lie and watch somebody else bring up your child.
2) Or perhaps you can become that "supporting uncle" but again you need to see the opinion of your brothers wife, chances are that she could become parinoid that you are going to tell her husband and her life would collaspe.

You have to talk to your husbands wife and see what she thinks, also ask yourself the questions "Am i ready to be a dad" Could you provide the finical support, ect that a child needs and then theultimate question "Could i live with my brother bring up my baby?"

Good Luck & i'm sure whatever choice you make will be the right one.

Answer 2

You should be ashamed first of all, your brother is in a coma and you end up in bed with his wife? You know exactly how this happend, Now as to how to handle the situation you and the wife should sit down with your poor brother and explain that while he was in the hospital the two of you decided it would be a great idea to hop in bed, and now the result is a child that is not his. There is no good easy way to handle this situation, because reguardless of how you tell him it's not going to hurt him any less, but be a man and tell him before more time passes and it gets worse..... and for future, you should probably keep your pants on when your upset.

Answer 3

I have a big question. Does he know she is pregnant now? If he does one would then venture to guess he must think it is his. Which would lead one to further assume it was a plausible thing, him getting her preggo either right before the accident or soon after his coma. So that leads to my second question, how can she possibly know it is yours? I have had three kids with my husband and of the three I only know how I got pregnant with one lol. The other two were just shockers, cause the timing made no sense with my ovulation but it happened anyways. So my dvice to you, discuss it further with her, ask her how can she be sure, and if she states she was not with her husband any time near there, ask her how she expects him to beleive it''s his. If there's no way he will beleive it (if he doesn't alreayd know) then you must come clean. It's the only right thing to do. It sucks, and it may seeem like the end of your life, but honestly, it's gonna hurt him a lot more if you don't tell him and he find s out later.

Answer 4

Sometimes out of a tragic event, emotions can fly without logic It may have been a case where there was a need for both of you to be close because of the fear of losing your brother/her husband.. If your brother won't figure out the time frame of his wife's pregnancy, I say let it be and say nothing. Of course, the guilt will be eating away at both you and her. But, what good would it be to "confess". The child's bloodlines will be the same (if you & your brother are full brothers). I know Maurie Povich & all those other junk shows make their $$ on this kind of situation and even if those shows are bogus, the situation is such that noone is a winner. Keep your mouth shut. The man who raises the child is the father. And, remember this..it makes no difference the circumstances of conception..a baby is a miracle and should be treated as such. Good luck to all of you.

Answer 5

It looks very much mate, that you have already done enough. A good pair of running shoes could be advisable.
And, an up to date pass- port.to a country with no, extradition.
Anyway shame on both of you, Your Brother Was In A Coma!! you are indeed, something else.

Answer 6

Alright for starters if he was just in a coma for a couple of days and you guys actually had sex in that time. You are a horrible brother who does not value family and she is a **** who does not love her husband!!!!
You both get what you deserve. I would certainly hope that the husband would take some kind of revenge out on the both of you. But hopefuly he is more mature than me and would forgive and move on and never talk to the both of you!!!
Ultimatly she needs to tell him!

Answer 7

Talk about it with your brothers wife see if she has told your brother that she is pregnant if not your first option would be to persuade her to get an abortion if she has then tell your brother what has happened if you say something along the lines of "i think i may have gotten your wife pregnant" something like that explain what happened and why it happened your brother is more likely to be understanding that way be honest with your brother one of the worst things he can do is disown you never want contact with you and completely cut you out of his life

Answer 8

Morally you should tell him, but the result will be only good for you. You will clear your consience, your his family, and break them apart, and lose your brother, probably forever.

Sorry if this is the non standard advice, but somethings you just take to the grave and never speak of again.

You 2 made the mistake, you 2 should carry the burden.

If she is keeping the child, you both decide to take this to your grave. Otherwise have her get an abortion.

Answer 9

You forgot? My God! It is not like you took an extra piece of candy.

Wait until the child is born and have a DNA test done on it to prove paternity. If you are proven to be the father, you are a homewrecker - and to your brother who was in a coma..

I sure hope it is your brother's child.

Answer 10

You have two options:
1) Have her get an abortion & pretend it never happened
or
2) let her have the baby, and then the 4 of you should go on Jerry Springer to share this story with the world. REally, it would be a shame to break this news to your brother and NOT do it on Jerry....

(p.s. I hope you're joking!)