my sisters husband was on the computer late last night while i was in the family room watching movies on the television. he came up from behind the couch and said hi and that he was going to bed. he then reached around and kissed my neck and put his hand on my chest. he then drew back real fast. am i misreading it or did he intentionally touch me?
2007-12-23 00:48:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am 17. he is 35. he and my sister married for 12 years.
2007-12-23 01:05:01 · update #1
Ask him. Confront him and tell him that if that ever happens again you will start screaming and not stop until everyone is awake. Don't ever be alone with him like this again. Tell him to knock it off, unless he wants his wife and your parents to know what he's doing. Don't ignore it and don't let him get away with it.
2007-12-23 01:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hitting on you! You don't need to keep this to yourself too. Your sister should be told like right now, actually like last night. It might help to punch the bastard out too. I've got an extra baseball bat if you want to borrow it. Listen, my brother is the same way. He hit on my wife and due to the constant pressure she almost caved in and it nearly ruined both marriages. His wife was told some story about mine coming on to him so his lies are holding his future in a lite grasp. Like sands in the palms in the wind. Mine came to me crying and spilled the beans completely and since it didn't include sex I forgave her. But, I will never trust her. If you wait any longer your sister will never have anything to do with you ever again. Right now you are a victim. By tonight you will be a co-conspirator! The truth should never destroy your relationship with your sister.
2007-12-23 08:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think he is hitting on you. You should tell your sister. If you feel like it was an accident, let it go. If he does it again tell mom and sister plus cops. it is not okay for 35 year old man to do this to a young girl
2007-12-23 09:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by Trisha heart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds sussed to me. no man sho's married to someone else should be kissing another female on the neck - esp her sister. that's not affectionate, that's over the line. i think he drew his hand back real fast because you probably had a stunned look on your face, and he thought "oh, oh!". I'd have a chat to him so he realises he can't get away with that sort of behaviour.
2007-12-23 08:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
probably meant it, was he drinking? If he was it was a drunken stupor. Let him know if it ever happens again, you will have a talk with your Sister.
It's a hard choice to make;
You can tell your Sister, and she'll kill him and then file for a divorce
or.
If you tell her now, she'll be more pissed at you than she would be at him.
I would talk to him first, see what his reason was. Then decided what to do about Sis.
2007-12-23 09:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-23 08:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I am very turned OFF by this .. He needs to get a life . Its 1 thing to be bored w/ your marriage but the little sister!!! You are sicker than I thought!!!
2007-12-23 09:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think maybe...he did. But I would not jump on it right now. Just to give him the benefit of the doubt. Then if it was to happen again , tell him yourself. If that problem persist....go to your sis and tell her. But let him know first what your plans are.
2007-12-23 09:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he intentionally touched you! Better tell your sister to be safe!
2007-12-23 08:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Believe me - guys always know where your chest is in proximity to their hands.
If you think that was unintentional, I'll let you know when I'm selling my car.
2007-12-23 08:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by theFuj 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋