ive been married 9 years and together 15 my daughters friend has started to come round weve known her since she was born shes 13 now and around most weekends as she says she is bored my husbands in his 40s it it normal that he messes around with her like playing games (not the sexual playing around ) she torments him and plays last hit etc is this just something some teenagers do and am i reading more into it please help
2007-12-23 00:36:20 · 24 answers · asked by unsure about anything 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well it could just be innocent. but she may have developed a little crush on your husband.
it could be that she just doesn't get attention at home. sometimes all a young girl wants if for her daddy to pay attention to her.
i would just keep an eye on things
2007-12-23 00:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hard to tell from your question what is going on. However, sounds like a little freaky game between your husband and the daughter's friend. As an attractive man in my forties, I can recall my teenage daughter's friends being a little too friendly and creeping me out. My ex actually accused me of being the cause. Thus my Ex. Keep an eye on the deal. Sometimes men are tempted when the cuties play games. It's not right though. Talk to your man about it without being judgemental. Could be this girl has a problem that needs to be dealt with.
2007-12-23 08:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your husband need to be more care full, aside from the woman's intuition, here it is a Q? of, legality, if it advances to any higher levels.
One thing can lead to the other and next thing you now is you husband is before a judge, for even nothing. Or some thing unmentionable or very serious.
Lots of teenager do that but your husband is not a teenager, he must play it very safe, and must stay on the guard, must not get carried away.
Best way to avoid this type of problem is to cool it, stay in mix company and never be alone, she may have a serious crush on him.
2007-12-23 08:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by minootoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to some extent, but you do need to talk to her privately. Tell her that she is growing up very quickly, and that her playing could begin to look a little more like flirting. Recommend other games such as cards, or board games. Make sure you let her know that you aren't accusing, and that you all enjoy her company so that she doesn't end up hurt or feel like you don't want her around.
2007-12-23 08:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Neescousin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where are this girls parents? Why is your husband playing with a child? Put him to work, and tell her that he has things to do. If your daughter doesn't want to play with her, tell her that she needs to go home now and take her there if you have to. Have a talk with her mom and tell her that she is always welcome and you will invite her when its convenient but you have things that have to be done over the weekend.
Have some compassion for this child though, her parents are obviously ignoring her.
2007-12-23 09:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have both known her since she was born, i dont think that this should worry you. she probably does feel that you are part of her family, and ifyour husband has always been the type to joke around with people, she probably feels at ease with this. perahs she cant have laughs with her own dad, so thats why she does it with your husband. i cant make preditions here, but unless they are doing something else that you dont feel comfortable with( you know, something undecent) then, i wouldnt worry about it too much.
2007-12-23 08:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are probably very close and nothing more than that.
if it starts to get suspicious etc. that is when you have to look into it.
although now if you start saying things im pretty sure your husband will be very hurt if it is not true and maybe a little mad.
i would keep an eye open though.
im sure it's nothing to worry about.
hope i helped!
~hippy-kid
2007-12-23 08:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by See 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
normal yes, but dangerous and needs to be intervened for the health of everyone involved.. it is flirting that raises both thier self esteems cuz he feels younger and flattered by attention of a GIRL and she feels more mature and flattered by attention of a MAN... it could lead to bad things or nothing at all, however it is not healthy for it to continue very long.. i would suggest you bring it up to him in private and explain how it could be misleading and unhealthy for the girl.. that way he can feel noble that he is doing a good deed of helping her and not feel like he is being accused of anything or being restricted from what he sees as innocent fun
2007-12-23 08:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by j h 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a child psychologist, and I've seen this lots before... Teenage girls are starting to associate with guys, and your daughter's friend is probably just looking for attention. Don't worry about it. ...When I was a girl, I did the same thing with my friend's parents!
2007-12-23 08:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by hollie 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Of course I'm not there, but it seems normal to me. My daughter is 13 and all she wants to do is pick at and irritate me. And yeah, I'll give it back to her also...
2007-12-23 08:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋