How can i stop being so selfishly absorbed in my own life and enjoy spending this christmas with my family? how do i stop thinking about the guy i'm in love with and make the most of the time i have with my family (these days i rarely see my family anyway so why can't i appreciate the little time i do have with them?) help me!!
2007-12-23 00:27:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ha yah your not the only one , well deppendes the guy you love is far away or near ? sadly mine is far away and every second of my life i spend thinking of him and cant seem to enjoy other things i mean yeah i do enjoy them but somehow he's still in my mind , i think you should spend time with your family the guy u love will always be there so no point in just sitting there and tihnking about it you can do both really and maybe you see the guy or talk to him will make you feel better !!! and really spend more time with people you love that can be friends family etc because thats what life is about being happy with the people you love !
good luck and dont stress to much about it!
2007-12-23 00:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are self-obsessed. At least you have enough sense to call yourself on it and realize that you should be spending time with your family. The first step you can take is just to show up. Be with your family this Christmas. Your mind might be half-away ... just call it back when you see it fleeting somewhere else. Make sure to invest time with your family, after all, unless you end up marrying this guy you're obsessing about, it is only your family you can count on in times of adversity. If anything happens to you, authorities will call your family not this random guy. You wouldn't want them pulling the plug on you because you "pulled the plug" on your relationship with them.
2007-12-23 00:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by reg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am certain that you are not the only person, with this problem.
self absorption, is prevalent. It is good that you have become aware of it. Now you can do something about it. Take time out from this guy to spend time with your family this Christmas, go with some gifts for the home, if you have the means to get some, and have Christmas Dinner with them. Think of all the good times you have had, your childhood, and the many good things they have shared and done for you. You can appreciate them just by focusing on them. There is plenty of time for this guy, later,,,,,,,,, he can wait.........
2007-12-23 01:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by pooterilgatto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you take the person you 'love' home to meet your parents and have him try to get along with them so you will not feel so guilty going to see them yourself. Actually, in life, love toward the opposite sex comes and goes, but your family will always BE your family. Talk to your parents you may be surprised at what they have to say about relationships.
2007-12-23 01:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a long answer but I'd rather give you the short one. You know yourself how to stop being selfish - no one can stop you but you. If you want to be with your family you will ... don't expect people to answer what you already know. If the guy you are "in love" with is asking you not to be with them, dump him. He will rule your life forever if you 'obey' him on his command.
2007-12-23 00:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by magictige 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doesnt take a Rocket Scientist to figure this out--Take your Boyfriend with you to see you FAMILY!!!!! Your Mom and Dad will be Happy for just being Able to see THEIR DAUGHTER!!!!
2007-12-23 01:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ed P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell yourself that your family is the provider for u in times of need, not that guy fell for.
2007-12-23 00:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by meow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are toooo into men. you have not learned yet the value of a family.. men come and go . life is too short.... why can't you be with both?
2007-12-23 02:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring ur bf in ur house and celebrate xms with ur family
2007-12-23 02:27:35 · answer #9 · answered by light girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
help out with them/watch a movie together.
2007-12-23 00:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by Dan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋