I recently got a nice new laptop, and lastnight I was sitting there on it and my husband was ready for bed. I wasn't ready yet, (he has this ridiculous temper) so he got mad and punched the screen and busted it. I started crying and ran into another room with it. He yanked it away from me and proceeded to slam the whole thing over his knee....then opened it up and broke it in half. It was really horrible, and I have sat up all night upset about it...what should I do? Is there anything I can do...??
2007-12-22 23:40:21 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah, we've been married for almost 4 years and have two small children. He knows they mean everything in the world to me so he is saying he's going to get custody...that I would never be able to get custody because I don't work and can't support them...blah blah blah (I'm in college now). It's like he's determined to ruin everything I care about. Is there any chance he would get custody? I've never done ONE thing bad EVER ..so what could happen?
2007-12-23 00:04:24 · update #1
you need to file a police report and evaluate your relationship with your husband.
2007-12-22 23:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jesus is the best. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he does things like that, you need to call the police and report it. When it is time to go to court it's you that has evidence on his temper. I would also start looking for work so you could support your child cause it is true....no court is going to give custody to a parent that can support there child. Maybe family can help...you could move in with them and they can take care of you while you finish school and/or find a job. I am sure that the government also has a program that might be able to help you out financial but use that as your last resort...they are people out there that really need it so only use it if you have to. Good Luck to you, it's hard. I have been there.
2007-12-23 01:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by queenbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah!!!
What, does he think that you're his child or what?
Can't he understand the excitement of having something new???
No, don't you put up with his nonsense.
Go with him and make him get you one as expensive and do tell him while looking at him in the eyes that should he do that again, you won't be sleeping in the same bed with him for a little while.
In fact you may not even be sharing the same house with him for a little while.
You need to nip that in the bud!!!
Don't let him bully you around!
He's not your dad and you're not a little girl for Goodness sake!
Develop a spine girl!!!
2007-12-22 23:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a violent control freak. You really need to leave before he hurts you badly. He'll never get custody so don't worry about that. He won't get shiit. You'll get it all, especially if you can prove he's violent. Save the laptop as evidence. Don't throw it away. You have to practically be starving the kids before they'll give them to him. Talk to an attorney. Find a woman who is a man hater. She'll do you right. You can win this fight dear. Don't worry!!
He's saying that to keep you under his thumb by putting fear in you. That's how control freaks work.
2007-12-23 00:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jim C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk with him calmly about what happened. If he becomes violent again, leave until you are sure that it is safe to return. Then try to discuss with him the possibility of attending anger management classes. If he doesn't get help to resolve his anger issues soon, it can escalate to a level you do not want. Trust me, I've been there. It may have started with the laptop, but in the end, it could be you. You need to protect yourself.
If he doesn't agree to the anger management classes, then you should seriously consider what will be the best for your own safety (i.e., leaving until he tries to get help for his issues).
2007-12-22 23:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by Witchy_Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the kids and go to a friends or your parents. Don't let him know where you are. Get a job, hire a lawyer and send him some pretty little divorce papers. Tell him to use the laptop once repaired to find someone that will put up with his bullshit. Oh by the way is his name Hannibal?
2007-12-23 00:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by David G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now. Find a new husband.
2007-12-22 23:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by Wild Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, not because he broke your laptop, but because he is abusive and the next time he tries to destroy something it might be you. In addition to that, he obviously has no respect for you, has anger management issues and is controlling. These three things lead to abuse. Believe me, I know. I lived it for 12 years. He needs to seek counseling or I would end the relationship.
Good luck
2007-12-23 00:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Destruction of private property, depending on the state you live in. My advice, get out while the getting is good. Be thankful that it was your laptop, it could have been you. Sounds like he has some control issues. Typically it only escalates.
2007-12-22 23:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by bugoff26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully he can repay for the damaged laptop. Also consider marriage counseling it really helps to talk about your feelings you two might be holding inside. Good Luck!
Might want to take pictures of the laptop if it leads to anything further.
2007-12-22 23:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋