I have become emotionally attached to people in relationships quite quickly and I'm just wondering if any of you can clarify the difference between 'love' and being 'in love'.
2007-12-22 23:39:44 · 14 answers · asked by zelda 2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
being "in love" is what Hollywood has confused with "love". "In Love" is an emotional feeling and state of being. It's that butterfly feeling you get in your tummy when you see him. The way that you overlook the bad qualities and that life has a new meaning because you're with him. All those really sappy love poems and love songs now make sense. That feeling like you don't need sleep or food and that everything is right with the world. That's being "in love" and it never last. It can't last, otherwise we couldn't function in the world because you don't think right when you're "In Love".
"Love" is a conscious decision and commitment to a person that says "No matter what, no matter how bad it gets or what the obsticals are, I'm going to act in a manner that is best not for me, but for us. I'm going to take into consideration your well being, even if it may come at an expense to my own. I'm going to force myself to lift you up when you are down, even if I'm mad at you. I'm going to force myself to give you the benefit of the doubt and believe in you. I'm going to allow myself to trust you and share my life with you. I'm going to force myself to be happy with you in the worst of times and I'm going to allow myself to be happy with you in the best of times. I'm going to commit right now to always be there for you through thick and thin, trials and tribulations."
2007-12-22 23:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by BrandonM 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quick emotional attachement isn't love, it's a form of dependence (and not typically healthy). Love (in any form) takes time to grow. You've got to really get to know someone before love can develop...
Love is something you might feel for family or friends. It's a strong emotion but it's not romantic or intimate. In-love is the romantic love you feel for someone you've dated or gotten to know. It's the love that includes intimacy and longing when you are apart.
They are quite different...
2007-12-22 23:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GR has it right. THEY ARE THE SAME. What has happened is that girls have conjured up this tonal inflection when speaking that has tried to separate the 2 as having different meanings.
So, when you see it written that someone loves someone or is in love with someone, IT'S THE SAME THING. However, when speaking to someone, or in writing when you use quotes, it gives rise to an assumption that simply says "What I mean to say is I have strong emotional feelings for someone, but it ain't quite LOVE".
"In love with" would be sort of a secondary emotional feeling....
2007-12-22 23:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is pure love for close friends/best friends and mainly family because their always there for you when your in trouble. In Love is when you have more major feelings for someone of the opposite sex or maybe the same or both depending on your sexuality. You have like sexual feelings for them or like them more as a friend xx
2007-12-23 00:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being " in love" implies a romantic and sexual aspect of love that is not present in other love relationships. I am "in love" with my husband, but I love my children and family and friends.
2007-12-22 23:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Delanne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone takes "commitment" but being in love takes "involvement."
When you love someone, you can commit yourself "to take tender loving care" of the person without being physically and emotionally involved.
Being in loves takes more than just tender loving caring. It involves your present and your future and possible your whole lifetime.
Take care. Happy holidays.
2007-12-23 00:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by Prof F 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to become friends first I think and have that bond first. The way you love your faimly is not the same kind of love you have for a man.Some times love gets confused with sex.Sex isn't love.
2007-12-22 23:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
depends on the person i guess. for me, loving someone means having emotions for them that is selfless in nature. like loving family, friends or a long term spouse.
being in love with someone connotes that the love is new. that it has not been tried and tested. that there is electricity and excitement.
that's just me though.
2007-12-22 23:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by screech888 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
love could b u love ur family of a pet or u luv chocolate but being in love means that u truely love somone that makes u feel great inside and gets ur heart beating!
2007-12-22 23:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you say it about the same person it really has you difference i thionk being in love has more to do with your love life than loving could be just a friend
2007-12-22 23:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by lilly j 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋