This is really hard to face, and I don't want to face it, I want my grandma to get better, I want the doctor to prescribe a pill that will take away all her pain so she won't have to suffer, so I can see her the next day and everything will be alright, she’ll be happy to see me, and she’ll cook food for me, and I will sit and talk with her and laugh, and watch tv, she she’ll tell me her stories, about growing up, or her adult life raising my dad....I want it to be like it was. I am only 23 I NEED my grandma in my life, she is the most important thing in the world to me....I have never lost anyone close to me, ever....the future is uncertain, but what can I do with my grandma now, in the present, while she is still with me?....she's in pain but she still pulls on...I want her to overcome this, I don't believe in prayer because I dont want to be disappointed by God....how can I honestly help my grandmother? What should I be doing? I dont want anything to happen and feel ANY guilt.....
2007-12-22 21:24:07 · 11 answers · asked by Clarence 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How would you be disappointed by God? It is obviously your grandma's time to "go home" to be with the Lord. and in reality you should be praying for your grandma to get better and to have God's will be done. Prayer is very powerful. i lost one grandma when i was 14 and the other when i was 18. I was not bitter or disappointed at all when both of my grandma's passed away because i knew they were in a much better place and that they were not sick or hurting anymore, count your "lucky stars" that you are 23 and still have your grandma. i would heed to your mother's advice and spend as much time with your grandma as possible. You will regret it if you don't.
2007-12-22 21:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you learned to know God, then you wouldn't be disappointed in him. Your Grandmother is getting older and is suffering, so would you like her to keep suffering and be in pain, because at some point you can't get fixed with a pill. Go spend as much time as possible with her, You will always have those memories to look back on. Learn as much as possible from her and when times get tough, remember her and what she would like you to do. You can be there for her and let her know how much you really love her, that means so much. It will hurt terrible when she passes, but remember the good, and what she would want you to do. Lean on God, he will help you through this if you ask for help.
2007-12-23 06:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your grandmother--it's natural to feel the way you do.
It's wonderful that you love her so much. Some people never have that relationship. When my mom was diagnosed with cancer, a wise person told me, "Spend lots of time with her; the cancer can't take that away."
You are very young, but try to put yourself in her place. If you were facing death, wouldn't you just want to have your family and friends around you? This is a hard part of being human, but just accept your feelings of sorrow and fear, they are natural; and give grandma lots of love.
2007-12-23 06:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by JinxD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is right. You need to spend as much time with her as you can even though I'm sure it will be difficult seeing her in any pain. Right now, the best thing for her will be seeing you and you allowing her to relive many of her greatest memories. Sit and talk with her. Encourage her to tell you all the stories from her life that really make her who she is. Ask her advice on the big things like marriage and love. When she's gone, you'll remember those stories fondly and you'll cherish any advice she gave you.
2007-12-23 06:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i know what it is like to lose some one special. i lost my grandpa almost two years ago to cancer. i saw him suffer in pain and there was nothing i could do medically. i was there emotionally, and made his days better by just showing up and letting him know that i cared and loved him. i would do things that i knew would comfort him. in your case, try to take a load off your grandma. if she needs help sweeping the floor, do it for her. if she needs something from the store, offer to go get it for her. do what you can to make her days not so exhausting, but most of all remember all the good times you two share and talk about it for that always bring happiness and eases some pain. let her know that you are always going to be there....after all, i still cannot let go of my granpa and i wish every day that i could have him back.
2007-12-23 06:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would follow mom's advice and spend as much time with her as possible. No matter how we wish it, our loved ones will be taken from us, so it behooves us to spend as much time with them, so we can look back on the good times and not regret what we might have done and not do.
Remember though, no matter how you prepare for it, when the loss comes it will be devastating. Good luck,
2007-12-23 05:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel with your grandma no matter what happens nothing can replace her, and it would be hard to think anything could happen to her, but for the sake of your own heart not breaking spend al tthe time you can with her so you wont be sorry later on if anything did happen
2007-12-24 05:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just spend as much time as you can with her. Grandparents are a very important people in your life!
2007-12-23 17:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by CP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your presence will help a great deal. Be there for her to give moral support.
2007-12-23 05:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by DB_MONTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant do anything dude....have to face life...the way you want.
2007-12-23 05:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋