Debate Do you think that mums should stay at home and look after the kids or work?

Question

I'll let you guys debate about it.

Answer 1

It is a individual choice. I am a stay at home mom and proud of it. I have the choice to stay at home as some mom's don't. Some have to work to make ends meet which there is nothing wrong with that but what i do have a problem with is someone putting their job before their family. I know they have to work but when someone picks a job over their family well i don't think they are much of a parent.

Answer 2

Well, I think it should be up left up to the mom. I personal would not put a child in daycare. I have friends who would be more then happy to watch my child for free. I just could not miss all that time with my child that I would miss if I worked. Especcially since full time is around eight hours if not more. My boyfriend and I have decided to wait to have a child even though I honestly want babies so I could be a stay at home mom. I would miss too many moments with my child. I think myself that one or the other should stay at home if enough money is made. So either Dad stays home or Mom stays home. If they need to work but I have seen that most of the money earned from a parent working and putting there child in daycare is spent on the daycare itself. I could see if you loved working but being a parent and a stay at home mom is a full-time job. I want a job in which I could have my child with me all the time while still doing work. I have the job picked out that I want and I am going to start working towards that with help from my boyfriend and parents.

Answer 3

After my son was born, I "stayed at home" with him for 8 months. My parents own their own business, so I would work whenever I wanted & I could take him in to the office! It was great!!! Sometimes I'd only go in for like 2 or 3 hours a day, twice a week.

I think it's a personal decision- I would go crazy if I stayed home all day... even though I love my son so much!!

I honestly believe in quality vs. quantity... since I don't see my son all day, when I do see him: quality time!
if I see him all day, it would just be: quantity time.

I prefer quality time! I play with him more, teach him more, and pay attention to him more if I don't see him all day. You know what I mean?

My friend stays home with her kid all day, her kid is older then mine, doesn't know as much, and her house is messier!!

I work 2 part time jobs, and go to school full time, (motivation!) my son is more advanced at a younger age (she'll be the first to tell you that) and my house is cleaner~

Personal preference once again.. but I think you kind of get lazy if you stay home (not everyone, just the ones I know).

Answer 4

I think they should decide what works for their families and their financial situation. While I personally think that a child does better to have a parent at home while they are very young, not everybody is a stay-at-home person and many would be too financially strapped to do so (how was that for a run-on sentence?).

My cousin and his GF stagger their working times. She was able to work from home until the downturn in the real estate market. Currently, he works fulltime and when he gets home, she goes to work 3 evenings and then works all day Saturday. Daycare is just too expensive for them, so this works.

Answer 5

I think it has a lot to do with whether or not you have a good job and how much daycare is going to cost you ...If you have an okay job that doesnt pay too much, since the price of daycare is through the roof, then yes I think you should stay at home because all of you wages are going to go towards childcare. (and of course to make that plan work you have to have a husband who makes money to support you and the family comfortably)
However if you have a very high paying job that you really enjoy and you can see your family having a much brighter future if you stay at your job, then find some good childcare and work!

Answer 6

People should do what is right for themselves and their families.

Different things work for different people.

I work and my husband stays home to take care of the house and will be a stay at home dad soon enough. It's what works for us. It's ideal if one parent can stay home with the child, it doesn't matter if it's mom or dad. But some families can't do that and that's okay too. People do the best they can.

Answer 7

my wife is a stay at home mom.today it is not look at as a real job and looked down on.but,my kids are doing better in school then i ever did.also if you do not want to have other people influnce your kids.then i think that it is a great idea.today it is almost impossable to be able to stay home and make it on one pay check.but,things would be better if we as a parents could spend the time it takes to help mold our kids insted of this messed up world. to all the moms and dads out there that do stay at home.GOOD FOR YOU and keep up the good work.

Answer 8

i think women should stay home and the men should work it may e old fashioned but i have a husband and child and i love my life and being with my sonall the time just because i'm not working doesn't mean i can't have fun. some women feel as though if they stay home they are not contributing anything to the relationship however being a good mother to your child is the most important thing you can give in your relationship. i refuse to put my child in daycare and i've only let someone else watch him once and i was extremely hesitant. my husband loves being the breadwinner and i love being with my child. your child should know that you won't leave him alone. they need their parents love and support and if we want to rase them with our own rules and morals it would ruin it by letting a stranger do that.

Answer 9

Which ever they choose, however i dont like them putting babies into day care centres that time is preciuos for bonding and getting to know one another.

Answer 10

At least one or the other.