I'm 18, I don't find many girls and nothing ever really happens with them. I have little expierience. Now I know I'm going to college soon and I haven't even really started my adult life, I have hope for the future. I'm just tired of being single and lonely all the time. My last girlfriend broke up with me in the end of October, she was only 15, but still I have a hard time getting past it. Why? Is it because I wan't a relationship so bad? I want to feel loved. Like I said I have hope for the future, but sometimes I'm just worried the right girl will never come my way. I just want a nice sweet girl to love and I'm so good to people too. I dunno why this is so hard.
Anyone else feel this way, like they are behind, or lonely?
2007-12-22 19:51:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never expected to stay with this girl forever, I just wanted a relationship, well at least more than the 2 months we had one for. I'm not thinking about marriage yet. It's just that before I met her I was single for a long long time, and now I bet I'll be single for awhile again.
2007-12-22 19:59:07 · update #1
I think you should stand back and take a long look at yourself. If you're asking yourself why you "can't" find something then there is definitely some inner confidence you're able to work on. Obviously you haven't had a lot of experience in "dating" and it sounds as if you've rushed head first into relationship from relationship. You're 18, why aren't you asking a girl out on a date "without" the intentions of getting directly in a relationship? Stop putting so much time and effort into one person at a time and just go out with as many different girls until you find one that you really know makes you happy.
2007-12-22 20:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by peter_swytch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I think you answered your own question.
Why do you have a hard time getting passed it?
"sometimes I'm just worried the right girl will never come my way."
Of course, every single person in the entire world feels lonely, whether it's all the time or almost never, it's there. some quell it, some live with it, some die with it. you're 18. You haven't even lived 1/4 of life. take it easy. there's somebody for everyone. I know this.
2007-12-23 03:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by steve paisley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very young. You have many years to love.
You need to first love yourself before you find true love.
There is no hurry to find love. Also, you need to work on who you will be as an adult, there will be time for love. No hurry.
Please don't define who you are by having a girlfriend. Learn to stand on your own first.
If you are lonely it won't be fixed by a girlfriend. We can't expect another person to have power over who and what we are.
Change your lonelyness by being with people.
Be your authentic self. Join a club at school.
Sometimes as we age we have a friend or two and that is how it is. You need to be a friend to have a friend.
I am 57 years old and l first loved at age 15.
It would of been a huge mistake to have that person be in my life. I even married thinking I had love, but it wasn't love. I am now in love and for all the right reasons. I won't compermise myself to just be with someone.
Love is needs nuturing and is a mutual commitment. A commitment that isn't solid at your age. Give yourself time.
The defination of love isn't equal to the defination of being not alone.
Sounds like you might have some depression.
Try to get outside of your self and give yourself to get involved in things that will help you make friends and to hopefully eventually love.
Love comes when you least expect it.
Smile.....be happy and love will come your way.
Don't waste your time on worrying about this.
Another person can't be responsible for your happiness.
Be sure you don't compermise your self to be with someone who isn't good for you because you need to be in love. That leads to disaster.
Be patient and work on being the best YOU and love will come your way.
I have waited for true love for the past 12 years. I have had men in my life who weren't good for me. I now have that special someone.
And it is worth the wait to find the right person.
2007-12-23 04:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the TRUTH is ... ur not gonna marry a girl that u meet when u 18 ... 95% change u ended brakin up, so if u not gonna marry him, why bother, just have'em, meet a lot of girls, and keep trying to find what u like the best, never settle for less, a good age to think about marriage its 26, dont worry bout serious relationships with girls at this age.
2007-12-23 03:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by Peruvian King 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 18 , you have so much time ahead of you. Maybe you are going for immature girls who dont want real relationships , you will find someone soon so cheer up
2007-12-23 03:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always find that looking for love wont get you anywhere...if you just wait a little while someone good will come your way when your not expecting it and you will be happier than ever.
2007-12-23 03:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by besfren733 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhmmm well mine doesnt have as much drama as yours but just hang in there and u will find ur love someday just have hope
2007-12-23 03:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by Iman N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Sir... being alone is tuff =).... girls just don't get it, or care about what guys think =).... "Love will find you someday" =)
2007-12-23 03:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a life and love will find you one day. the more you are chasing it, the more elusive it becomes.
2007-12-23 03:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why struggle? You just can't win.
2007-12-23 03:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋