We were engaged to be married for Christmas, which
was also our anniversary. Last month, I found out he was seeing another woman. He denied it. We have been broken up ever since. Today, he still denies it. Even though he wouldn't let me call the woman to ask her myself. He didn't try to prove me wrong or get me back. He turened so cold to me after this. I was in a bad wreck I told him about, and he asks me when I am going to pay the car off because he co signed for me and he can't get a home loan until I do. Didn't even ask if I am ok. Why do I still miss him? What should I do? Or say? I'm just so hurt because he never seemed this way, he used to be a dream come true....
2007-12-22 19:25:05 · 28 answers · asked by Babysmom303 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont take this mean. take it as an honest answer.. YES! YES! AND YES!
from what you said about the jerk, its a GREAT thing you didnt marry him.
2007-12-22 19:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by ஜMallymkunஜ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my moto is once a cheater always a cheater. Don't let love blind you,they will tell you things that you want to hear just so you will believe them so they can have you back in some cases that is. If it were me I would ask him does he not care about your well being and as far as the pay off on the car that you are trying to do your best but how are you able to work if you got in a wreck and you are all banged up, just as soon as you heal and get back to work then you can focus on getting the car paid off and if he can not understand that nor be patient with it then he can pay it off if he wants to be ugly about it. If this guy is being mean to you do not try being nice to him you are wasting your time. of course he dont want you to call that women cause she's going to tell you the truth most likely and then he will be caught red handed...
2007-12-22 19:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Daphne P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I know what you're going through. People suck. They'll change in an instant. Some for better, some for worse.
He's obviously expressed how he feels about you. There's not much you can do about that.
Of course you're going to miss him because you're an actual human being unlike him.
The best thing to do is keep things strictly business. Pay him but don't interact with him otherwise. You deserve better.
I'm not going to lie, it's going to be hard but you'll be better off without him. Find some friends. Get a hobby, maybe a second job. Stay busy to keep your mind off him.
As hard as it may be do not take him back. Don't even be his friend at this point. I wish you the best! Stay strong.
2007-12-22 19:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by Keenyuh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is a tricky thing... And you are NOT Stupid at all!! You are just in LOVE! In my opinion, marriage is what brings on a lot of problems. The people in the relationship begin to freak out because they feel like they're getting 'trapt'.
Don't marry the guy, 'cause he WILL do it again. You can love him all you want but it won't change him... Try to forget about him IF you can. I say TRY because it's not going to be an easy thing to do, trust me I know.
2007-12-22 19:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be wise to call if off.
Don't be too desperate, this will only lead to worse problems after you get married.
I'm sure you can do better. If he really loved you, there would be not question in the world that he would cheat on you.
Do yourself a favor and find someone else.
2007-12-22 19:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely an asshole, but all men are at some point. It doesn't make you stupid, though. If possible, just try to talk to him. That is, if you want him back.
Well, at least I'll say I hope you're okay and unhurt from the crash, and I'm really sorry about what you're going through right now.
2007-12-22 19:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're not stupid for loving a cheater. Your heart never knew he was a cheater when it fell in love with him now did it? I would try to not have any contact with him and just do your best to occupy your mind and your time until your heart has some time to heal. Good luck.
2007-12-22 19:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tabby 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he loves you.anymore Move on. He knows how you love him more than he and that he has the control.The best thing to do is turn cold as he did, and either his attitude will change and he will come after you, or you need to let it go for good.
2007-12-22 19:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by badabing 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't help who you love, sometimes you have no reason to still love them, but you can't help it! Maybe part of you still sees him as he used to be and as much as he has changed, your heart forces you to see him as the person you fell in love with
2007-12-22 19:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by cubsrock1617 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not stupid at all. But I would definitely cut off the relationship.
Without complete trust, you will never feel at ease.
2007-12-22 19:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no your not stupid you just need more time to get over him you know? So you should really focus on that because then he'll take advantage because he knows that you like him. He'll continue to do things to you and treat you bad because your so "inlove" that you'll just excuse it. You should really try to face it and fight it.
2007-12-22 19:32:00 · answer #11 · answered by bn2nice 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋