i asked this question before and only got one answer. i need some more. please help me!!?

Question

last year in sepember i got with a guy named vino & we hit it off great!! but then he moved 80 miles from me & we broke up because i didn't wanna be in pain. we said we'd still be friends so i called him & he called me about EVERY day. we would meet up about every 2 weeks to see each other. i guess we were still technically "going out" but yeah... we thought we were in LOVE. we planned out our lives together.. everything from when we finish college to our kids to when we die. ((We were goinna be barried together.)) then in about january we decided we should go our seperate ways. ((big fight)) ok...so yeah, i talk to some of his buddies and one of them invited me to a party he was having. ((in the city where vino lives))...i went. i didnt really think vino was gonna be there cause...idk i just didnt. it never really crossed my mind. and then he was there. we didnt talk. just wave&smile. i wanna tell him i miss him and wanna get back together. should i. he was really nice. i loved him.

Answer 1

Yes, but be prepared if his answer is no. Things do not always go as planned.

Answer 2

You said the last time you were gonna 'go your separate ways' but hadn't you already done that the first time you guys decided to just be friends? Obviously you thought your relationship was back on track and are now really upset that it is all over. I don't know what you guys had a fight about, but is it just you seeing him again at the party that has stirred up all your feelings for him again? And if you did get back together, is it still going to be long-distance again? Look, if you really do feel that strongly about him, then go for it, tell him everything you feel, its all you can do. Good luck, i hope it all works out for you.

Answer 3

If you still have feelings for him and are willing to deal with a long distance relationship (80 miles isn't that far), then you should go for it. Talk to him and see if he still has feelings for you. Don't worry so much about long term, but find out if you guys can still hit it off now like you did in the past. Tell him that you still care and would like to start up again where things left off.

Answer 4

I can't believe you both just waved at each other and smiled. If you really loved each other you would have hung out the whole night together. Sounds like the magic is now gone. Maybe you were invited there to rekindle and niether of you made a move, too bad. and as your last sentence states, you .....loved....him, past tense. Time to move on I'm afraid, love is brutal sometimes.........sorry.

Answer 5

the thing i don't get is you keep using past tense. You said you "loved" him and he "was" really nice. Does that mean you don't love him anymore and he's not nice anymore? To answer your question it all depends on how you feel. If you still love him then of course tell your feelings but if your just trying to get back together cause your scared of being alone or something like that I'd think it best to let him live his own life.

Answer 6

I think you should say something ive been in the same situation and if you really do love him it cant hurt to know better know where you stand then to have to wonder later on "what if?.." know what i mean ? and i also think you did subconsciously know that he was gonna be ther e...that chance of him being there ( im not trying to knock you ) but you never know if you were talking to his friends how do you know that he didnt tell his boys to tell you to come lol but you never know ...i would say dont come right out and ask i would ask how he feels about you now first and then see where it goes. ...i also have question if he was so mad at you he wouldnt have smiled or said hi ( dont get me worng he probably was being considerate) and dont you find it funny that he "radomly turned up?" lol

Answer 7

Write your hearts desire, then read it and put it away for one week. Read it again. Rewrite it. Put it away for one week. Read it again. These 7 days in between make lists of things you want to do for yourself an individual person. Map out the steps of getting from A to Z. Do a bit of research on each step. Figure out time dates years. Then after you have done these things and you read the letter you wrote to your ex, decide if you still want to send the letter. If you do. Send it! If you hear back from him you will know what to do next.

Answer 8

If all he and you did was wave and smile, that's it. Drop it, cry and dry your tears, and move on. Things will work out.They always do. Take it from a survivor of a few broken hearts, who is now a 17-year veteran of marriage with 3 kids. Time takes care of you, honey. Trust that time passing and the new things happening will take care of you and your heart. It'll be cool.

Answer 9

At least try talking to him one more time if you really still care that deeply for him. If the fight was over something that could be/can be worked out, then give it a try. Just be willing to accept it if he has moved on to someone else.

Answer 10

You have nothing to lose. I would call and tell him you regret breaking up with him, that things got out of hand when you fought and that you miss him. If he doesn't come around to you, you tried and tell him to just think about it. Then you get to wait and see if he calls you back. If he calls, great. If not, move on and tuck him away in bittersweet memories. . .

Answer 11

If I were you, I'd call him and see how he sounds on the phone. If it was one of my old boyfriends, I'd be able to tell by what he said and the way he said it, if he was interested in getting back together with me. If he sounds cold and distant, I'd back away but if he talks sweetly and invites you out, hey you're back in!