My boss is peevish and irritable, and is rude to me if anything gets on her nerves. She talks to me like I'm sub-human sometimes, and I really don't know how to deal with it. I've been working as a cashier at this place not quite a month, and everyone else seems to get along with her OK . . . so is she singling me about because I remind her of someone in her past? or did I do something to get on her bad side? Today she talked to me like I was a dog in front of other people and I was so embarrased I spent my brake crying about it. I'm just a kid and have never dealt with someone like this before. Have any advice? Is there an acceptable way I can confront her next time? Will it help if I tell someone higher up, or will that increase her dislike of me? Please help.
2007-12-22 17:53:29 · 28 answers · asked by Starry Night 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Tell your parents and let them advise you.
2007-12-22 17:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If the other people get along with her fine, it could just be that she has a low tolerance for people who don't know the job well, or she's just keeping you at a distance until she's sure you'll stick around.
Unfortunately, her being rude to you probably isn't something you can do much about. Unless what's she's doing crosses the lines of harassment or discrimination, there probably isn't anything to be gained by talking to her superiors. And confronting her probably isn't going to improve the situation.
My advice would be to stick it out for a while longer to see if she improves. If she doesn't, then you might consider a new job. Especially given that you're co-workers don't seem to have a problem with her.
One thing you might try is talking to a co-worker to see if she's like this to all new people.
2007-12-22 18:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-26 00:22:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't "confront" your boss about this. If everyone else gets along, then you are probably doing something wrong, too slowly, or she just doesn't like your general attitude. Don't use the excuse that you are "just a kid", if you are working and making the same starting wage as any adult would, then you are expected to act, and produce like an adult. You'd better get used to the real world.
If you cannot please this woman for whatever reason, look for a job before she fires you. It is always easier to get a new job when you already have one. Good luck, and Merry Christmas. Life will improve,
2007-12-22 18:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
First, it sounds as though this is your first job, maybe second? Sounds like a security or lack of security on your boss's part. Maybe you look better than she does, maybe she sees something in you that she lacks. Either way, you must confront her. Ask her why she treats you so poorly? Request that if she feels the need to speak to you in a demeaning manner, that she pull you aside. You HAVE TO let her know that her behavior is not acceptable since it seems that you are in a full blown power struggle!! Going to someone higher up will only add fuel to the fire. She's pushing buttons to see what will make you break, show her you are not that easy.
2007-12-22 18:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by corinneami 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Might be just because you are the new girl is reason she is being rough on you.
Best adopt a wait see atittude. Then if she doesn't stop riding you after you have been there awhile talk to her about it, if you get no satisfaction take it over her head.
also you need to learn this fast, as the new girl you are going to get blamed for a load of things you didn't do by the other workers to keep themselves out of trouble. So that can be happening so some degree as well.
You can ask her what you are doing wrong and ask her to help you learn how to do it right because you never have worked before.
2007-12-22 18:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by JUAN FRAN$$$ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find another job...then tell the management why you're leaving. Chances are she's giving you a tough time because you're young, which is really unfair of her. If you love the job...confront her and ask her point blank what her problem is. Some people will bully others until confronted...do it in front of other people just as she did you. It will show them you have confidence, and will make her look foolish. Good luck to you
2007-12-22 17:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could take to someone higher up but that just might backfire on you. Nobody has to have such a power trip going that they feel they have the right to make someone miserable. You sound like you are young, quit the job and tell the broad what you think of her behavior. Good luck.
2007-12-22 17:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by katj1250 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to talk to her first, by herself. Maybe on a break, just make sure there's not any one else around. Let her know how you fee. "I feel...... when you ...........and I'm trying so hard to do the best job that I can. Always be professional when your having a conversation with your boss, don't let it built up until it's out of control. If this don't help, go through the chain of command or quit.
Good Luck
2007-12-22 20:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bullies tend to target others that are not a threat. She must think you can't stand up for yourself and uses you to make herself feel powerful. She truly is sick! You need to stand up to her and tell her that her behavior is unprofessional especially for a supervisor. If she is rude after that, then you should report her. You will never be friends, so before you move up in this company I suggest after you solve this issue, you start looking elsewhere for a job. There are a lot of good bosses out there
2007-12-22 17:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by kayakyen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, there's alot you can do...
first do something, don't just take it
I'd talk to her, then talk to her boss,
I had a situation like that, where my boss was abusive, but she was the owner, so when I did say something about it, I was ready to quit.
but if this girl has a boss, too you should tell him or her... I know it might be difficult to talk to this ***** first but try.
and remember it's just a job, and she's just another person, I have a feeling you could find a better job if you wanted.
2007-12-22 17:58:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋