I feel like I'm on the verge of a mental breakdown.?

Question

About 3 years ago I was diagnosed with severe anxiety and severe depression, lately my anxiety as been at an all time high. Especially since my boyfriend has been in the picture, and it has just been an constant struggle. I always find myself thinking he's going to leave me or he's going to die or get hurt or cheat on me ALWAYS, and I just can't think any other way. We've been together for almost a year and he has never cheated on anyone and always tells me he's never going to leave me and I have all the reasons in the world to believe him. I just have myself in a situation where he's my everything and I cannot bare the thought of losing him, I honestly have no one else. I just dont feel like a person anymore, and I dont want to go back on meds and I don't want to turn to drugs. I just want to be me, but still with him. I really need help with my anxiety. I'm sick of constantly being sick... :/

Answer 1

You appear to suffer from a fear of abandonment, and would be well advised to seek therapy. See anxiety treatments, at * ezy-build (below) in section 6. Set yourself a fixed limit for worrying about any particular subject, (say; 15 minutes) after which, resolve firmly to refuse to even consider that subject again on that day: realise and accept that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life. Use the technique for reprogramming negative thoughts and internal monologue (self talk), on pages 2, and 2L, to help you in this, and consider carrying a wide rubber band in your pocket: put it on your wrist; stretch, and release, as a means of reinforcing it, and speeding up the process, re-pocketing it afterwards. Practice one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at * http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris also refer. DEPRESSION: See depression treatments, at ezy-build *(below) in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and also Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, as well, at http://www.mercola.com and avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read the whole section. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments", including others as options, such as herbal remedies, Inositol, or SAMe. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even many weeks to become effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people. Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at * http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels.

Answer 2

Do this -- read your question as if it were from someone else, underlining the obvious issues in need of some form of change in order to become healthy.

Do you really want help with your anxiety? Start at your Dr's office and your therapist's office. Tell them what you've told us. Your therapist can help you sort it out and work with you on learning new and better ways of coping.

Your suspiciousness is the sign of a very unhealthy relationship with your boyfriend -- it shows you really need help now.

The current dependence on your boyfriend and all the anxiety surrounding him is your current focus of your illness. Were he not there, you would likely find some other focus.

You need help with your anxiety? Try taking a break from your intense boyfriend-girlfriend relationship for a couple of months as a part of your healing. See your therapist each week, and strongly consider taking notes to go over at home.

Before going to your Dr, write down your current symptoms and concerns in a notebook. If and when you are able to get some relief through prescription medications prescribed, do continue to frequently note your symptoms as the weeks go by -- seeing progress in black and white will help give you a solid evidence of whether you are better off with meds or without meds. ...........you already know what its like without meds, and you are "sick of constantly being sick..."

Take baby steps toward regaining your health.

Answer 3

Depression may be caused by negative thoughts, poor circumstances, loss of loved ones, genetic factors, biochemical imbalance in the brain, emptiness in heart, unforgiveness, addictions etc.

There are some natural mood lifting food and vitamins that you can take with your drugs. They are:

-multivitamin
-Vitamin B complex pills
- Vitamin C
- GABA (you can get this at a pharmacy) it is a natural neurotransmitter in your brain.
- SAMe
- Calcium
- Magnesium
-Evening Primrose oil
- Flax oil
- Omega 3

try to have some exercise daily. Go into the sun. Talk with friends. Pray to Jesus, he gives you peace and lifts your mood. These are scientifically proven to work.

- Listen to soothing music on a couch.
- have aromatherapy
- eat healthily, oats, wheats, brown rice, more fish, chicken, lots of vegetables and fruits and other natural food, less oil, no sugar, no deep fried stuff, less red meat
- drink lots of filtered or bottled water
have a pet
- cultivate new hobbies
- do not take alcohol and avoid caffeine
- tackle your problem that is giving you depression. Problem solve with a counselor or friend to reduce the magnitude of the problem.
- Every time you catch yourself thinking negatively, think what is the most positive way of expressing your feelings and thoughts.
- Forgive others, release all bitterness and release all grudges, love God and love others
- Do a kind deed each day. Volunteer your service to the elderly, orphans etc
- I know I have said a lot. Take baby step, one step at a time. Give yourself time to get out of depression.

Think positively.

You may want to see a psychiatrist and counsellor to work out your problem. Psychotherapy may help. Prayer does help. Claim healing from Jesus. He loves you. Read the Bible, start at book of John. Take note of John 3:16, Acts 2:38. It is God's love message to you.

For anxiety, try deep breathing from your diaphragm and progressive muscle relaxation. You can buy books on how to overcome depression and anxiety.

It takes time to lift out of anxiety and depression. First thing is that you desire to get out of them. Next is the tenacity and perseverance to make changes to your life.

I've been through depression and anxiety, so I understand.

God bless you richly and have a blessed Christmas. Attend a United Pentecostal Church nearby your home. (www.upci.org)
There are brothers and sisters who care and be friends with you.

You are basically insecure in thinking that your boyfriend will leave you. Being a Christian will make you more positive and joyful.

Answer 4

Wow know how you feel, i also suffer from extreme anxiety and depression.Both can be every hard to deal with.I take medication but i am also in the process of several form of therapy..as i dont want to be taking medication for the rest of my life.I used to be scared of ppl rejecting me but i dont feel that way anymore.I am scarred of being alone...but i slao know that once my anxiety gets better and i learn how to deal with situations in life i will be able to cope with being alone.I currently am receiving exposure therapy...which is not easy but with each step forward that i take it certainly is getting better.In the new year i will be starting CBT( basically therapy that helps you change the way you think and cope with things in life it can also teach you new tecniques to help you)
I know how dibilitating these disorders can be if you want you may contact me via nickname....good luck and i wish the best for you

Answer 5

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Answer 6

reclaim what's of the utmost importance, you've placed all of your focus on losing your boyfriend that you've forgotten that you need to turn your attention toward taking care of yourself, you are also allowing a lot of insecurity into your life. don't let the fear of losing your boyfriend become the center point of your life because that can turn into obsessive thinking, it is very important to define who you are beyond your relationships, meaning saying to yourself " i am independent and strong, and to stay this way i have to put in the effort to take care of myself." it'll take a lot of work to build your self esteem up but it's worth it in the end you'll feel a lot better.

Answer 7

ok well first u may need to go back to meds. i need mine or else id prolly kill myself.
if hes never cheated on u for that long he more then likely wont. he sounds like a great guy so try to lay that problem to rest. breathing exercises always help me when im breaking down n crying to the point where i cant breath.
u just need to relax
try yoga or reading to take ur mind off things that stress u out. hot bubble baths at the end of the day are nice to :)
like i said maybe u need to go back to meds though
hope that helps