Actually, my family is not overly affectionate or anything, but we meet like only once or twice a year. I don't think there's anything wrong about my mom giving all her sons a hug each.
But my gf said (in her own words) it's "incestuously gross" and inappropriate...
On the other hand, she didn't mind seeing Dad hug me and the boys. But her reason was that: She had always enjoyed seeing men touching each other...
(now you tell me who's the "inappropriate" one)
2007-12-22 17:38:01 · 24 answers · asked by zandrew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hrm yeah. Sounds like she has some issues. I'd just tell her she'll have to get over it, cause I wouldn't even want to *think* about my moms reaction if I refused to hug her just because my g/f had a crazy problem with it.
2007-12-22 17:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by kashre 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that I'm actually reading this but the bloody steam is coming out of my ears. My son's, both of them. Give my hugs all the time. Not just at xmas either. I get kisses anytime of the year and told I'm loved too. We all used to sit on the couch watching DVD's snuggled up in a kinda group. They was things go we're gonna end up with a society of people who aint gonna be able to show signs of affection if we're not careful. I'm a very open and affectionate mum and my boys who are in very loving relationships with their girl friends definately have never stopped giving me hugs or kisses because of their significant other's and I hope they never do.
Tell your g/f to get a life. Incest! I'd like to slap her! What the hell is going through her head. She's the one with the problem not you. You give your mum the biggest hug and tell her how much you love her am sure that will be the best xmas gift your mum will treasure on xmas day!
2007-12-22 18:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well by the sounds of it she's is more than slightly a tad on the strange side. myself and a lot of my friends have children and we all hug them, be it a son or a daughter, EVERYDAY If you can't hug your mum and dad, but especially your mum, who the hell can you hug. You parents are their to give you guidence and support, and quite a few parents praise, comfort etc by hugging. Maybe she does not have that connection with her family so therefore finds it uncomfortable......That is HER problem not yours. Girlfriends/boyfriends come and go you only get one set of people you can truly call parents. be them biological or not (say if you were adopted). Also it seems very strange that she sees it ok for your dad to be able to hug you but not your mum.......Maybe she is jealous, or just plain nuts. either way never give up your love for your mum and dad if you are close to them, as they will be there long after she has gone, If you were my son, i would be worried she has some kind of problem with her security and advice to protect and guard your heart as i would be scared that you are going to get hurt.
Take care babe have a nice xmas and i hope this helps.
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2016-11-24 20:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I agree with the others: you're gf is the one with the problem here. The fact that she thinks it's "incest" for you to hug your mom, but that it's perfectly fine for your dad to hug all of you because she "enjoys seeing other men touch each other"...is simply weird. It's absolutely ridiculous of her to ask you to not hug your mom. Tell her she needs to stop being odd and get over it. Oh, and don't marry her either...no offense!
2007-12-22 17:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sparklemoon14 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No disrespect to you or your girlfriend but she sounds a bit mixed-up to put it politely. There is nothing wrong with a mother hugging her sons or grandsons. Your gf's terminology is what is wrong not your family's affection for each other.
You may need to re-evaluate your relationship with her.
2007-12-23 08:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overly jealous and needs to get over herself! This is your mom! If my son comes home with a girl like that I'd seriously give him a talking. You only have one mom there's plenty of fishes.
2007-12-22 18:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by mzsyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she feels this strongly about a mother hugging her sons -- I'd have second thoughts about wanting her to be the mother of my kids. If you're just in it for fun -- carry on.
2007-12-22 17:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
good grief, she needs to get a life! does she hug her mother? by her reasoning that would be worse. & it's ok for dad to hug his sons? she sounds like she's got problems. do you have any idea why she might feel this way? but, whatever her reasoning, please don't try to stop mum hugging you! we mums deserve all the hugs we can get, from our sons & daughters! happy Christmas, diane.
2007-12-22 20:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by diquarry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is not incestuously gross that you hug your mom.
you shouldn't have to give any excuses for that.
maybe your girlfriend just has a jealously problem,
even when your seen showing affection towards your mom ?
2007-12-22 17:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋