The father wants me to get an abortion but i dont want to. Can he make me? What are my rights on that? I do not want him near me while Im Pregnant. Can i legally make him stay away from me while Im pregnant? When my baby is born I am going to need help? How can i make him pay child support and sign over the custody to me?how much of should he pay?where can i get information on my rights as a single mother?
2007-12-22 16:45:02 · 6 answers · asked by elendrnts 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
No he cannot make you get an abortion, its your body and you can have the child if you decide to. If you do not want him around you then your only choice is to stay way from him unless he threatens harm, then all you can get is a restraining order. You can contact your local child support office in regards to receiving child support and they are the ones that calculate child support based on the income of both parents. You cannot make him sign over custody. For simplicity sake you will be the custodial parent because the child lives with you, however if you want solid legal documents that say you are the sole custodial parent you have to go to court for that unless he willingly signs over custody. Do know that in order to get full custody you have to prove that he is an unfit parent and poses a possible risk to the child. Also keep in mind that he will have the opportunity to do the same....it is not often that they take a child away from the mother but you may end up with shared custody.
You may not like him, but if you choose to have this child with him then you need to start learning how to be civil with each other. I was like you....very upset when I found out I was pregnant and the first thing he suggested was adoption and abortion and I wanted nothing to do with him....not even child support. Here it is 8 years later and I know now that I was not ready then to have a child and because of that we have struggled so much. Don’t get me wrong, I love my daughter and she has helped me get some things straight in my life, but in all honesty I should have had a child at that age.
You cannot expect him to pay child support but not be in the child’s life. You cannot force him out of the child’s life and you cannot use the child to get what you want because in the end it is the child that suffers. You should learn to be civil with him and leave the doors open for him to see the child as he pleases and if he chooses not to be there then that is his choice and your child will eventually see that, but if you push him away the child will see that too and will resent you for that.
2007-12-22 17:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by im2spoiled4me 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You should contact your local Dept of Chidlren and Families. You cannot get him to pay child support until after baby is born and a blood test to determine paternity is completed. Also, think about what you are asking, you want nothing to do with him, you want him to sign over custody, yet you want him to support you and the child. this is entirely unfair. As much as I beleive we must pay for our mistakes you have to decide either you will have no ties to him and not pursue custody/child support, OR, you will pursue these matters and allow him to have visitation IF he wishes to. It is very possible he may have no desire, however, once baby is here and he finds out it is his child, he may indeed develop a bond. It is a tough situation, but you really need to think about what you want before you make any decisions. If you pursue child support etc, you will have to maintain a relationship with this man for the next 18 years. As far as a restraining order during pregnancy- that will only happen if he has been violent with you. They aren't easy to get, if you can avoid him on your own it would probably be easier. Good luck.
2007-12-23 10:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by MommytoThree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only you can decide on the abortion...
and you need to your county's social services for the help you will need...such as food and medical assistance and maybe they can tell you how can you make him responsible..
put his name on the official paperwork !! that
is very important, name the father of the child...!
and if you get him to pay child support, keep in mind he will gravitate around you and your son ALL YOUR LIFE...he will and you ahve to think about that too!!
2007-12-23 01:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by Pi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact your county Social Services department. They will be best qualified to answer your questions and get you needed assistance.
2007-12-23 00:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by sandyblondegirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom maybe she has been down that road. Many kids learn by their parents example.
2007-12-23 03:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He cannot make you get an abortion. Nobody can make you do that.
2007-12-23 00:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋