10pts! Help! My girlfriend doesn't want me seeing my friend?

Question

She doesn't want me to see one of my friends because she says she's not comfortable with my friendship.

The girl she's talking about is a close friend of mine. We use to go out casually, and we use to have feelings for each other. But now we're just friends; and she has a bf as well. However, we still do alot of "couple" stuff. We have dinners, lunches, going for random drives, I do get her soup when she's sick, she and I have both called in sick at work to spend the day together (we're both busy people), and we still kiss, but it's a quick peck, nothing long.

I can see why she's upset at me, but to me she's just a good friend. My gf doesn't want me to see my friend again.

My gf is very pretty, but so is my friend...oh and my gf hates my friend, and my friend hates my gf as well. They are never in the same room....also my friend doesn't want me in the same room as her bf....I definately can see why my gf is upset.....

Should I do what she asks?

Answer 1

your right she has every right to be pissed at you. your gf likes you a lot and is jealous and worried that she might lose you. but i mean it sounds like your more in love with your friend, you didnt say one thing the you and your gf do? but anyways i think you should limet how much you see your friend...not as much as you do already. respect the one you love more...you decide.

Answer 2

Hun, here is the deal, you have two girlfriends right now, whether or not you use the word girlfriend to describe you friend that is what you are doing.

One is the ex-girlfriend/friend that you know so well but will not let go of.

The other is the rightfully angry new girlfriend that wants to have a total fulfilling relationship with you but cant because you and your friend keep holding onto something that resembles more of a marriage if I have ever seen one...taking off of work to spend the day together???

You are not seeing the big picture here.

Your not giving your girlfriend all of your love, or even a chance to do right by this situation...you are also willingly of course using your friend and she too using each other as fallback people.

Your going to need to grow up and devote your extra time to your girlfriend or perhaps you just dont love her or want a future with her as much as you say you do.

Most of the time when you are in love you want to be with the one you LOVE as if THEY are your best friend and confidante.

This is the person you will be having children with and spending the rest of your life with...so it is amazing to me that you are giving that attention that belongs to your girlfriend to your friend.

This is about more than jealousy, you dont understand how real relationships are supposed to work.

I dont think that you would be cool with some guy monopolizing on your girls time or every time you are together or want to spend time that she talks about him and gives him all of her attention and when she gets to you its crumbs.

If your friend dosent like your girlfriend and vice versa, you need to either stop seeing your friend because after all she HAS a boyfriend to take off of work and hang with and is in denial that she still has feelings for you. OR You need to not have your girlfriend but then who would S c R e W you then?

If your friend is not doing you...then she needs to back the hell away from the man and let you really really LOVE SOMEONE ELSE! OR dump her boyfriend and go get married but stop with the back and forth blurring of the lines. Your not doing anyone any favors by behaving this way and sabotaging yourselves and two other innocent people by not being real about this. Take Care-Rachel.

I think you should break it off if you cant see this situation clearly. Take Care-Rachel.

Answer 3

First off, stop kissing her. I mean, I know and you know that nothing is meant by it, and maybe even your girlfriend does, but it hurts! As a girl, we don't want to see our guy's attention divided between us and another girl. The fact that you're both dating other people makes it kinda obvious that it's time to stop.

As for hanging out with her, nothing wrong with that, although as a girl, that also hurts, but that's something that we need to accept. However, when you're doing everything you say you've been doing, of course your girlfriend is mad!! I would be too. Do you do all this stuff with your girlfriend? Does she feel left out?

Think of it as if your girlfriend was doing all this with an ex of hers and how you would feel, and answer your question from there.

Answer 4

Put yourself in your girlfriends shoes. Would you want her hanging out with someone she used to have feelings for? Probaly not. It has nothing to do with her being insecure. Its the principal. If you and your friend where stricily friends with no emotional ties it would be different. You crossed the line.
Your girlfriend is right in how she feels. If the other girl is your true friend, she will understand. If you really care about your girlfriend you respect her wishes.
It sounds to me like you still like you friend in that way. You shouldnt play games. YOu need to be honest.

Answer 5

I think that you need to decide which you want to be with. In a perfect world gf and bf wouldn't get jealous but it happens. And you need to ask yourself how you would feel if she was doing those things with a good looking guy. Good luck.

Answer 6

Sounds like you do like this girl.. maybe withdraw from your friendship with her a little bit. The fact that you like her so much even though you are 'just friends' is not so healthy for your relationship with your girlfriend. Good luck!

Answer 7

your crazy if you good friends with a girl then why dont you just go out with her! you cant have a girlfriend and a girlfriend get what i sayin maybe try doing things with you girlfriend you and your friend see if your girlfriend and your friend has some things in common so your girlfriend could trust you because she knows the girl

Answer 8

Think about which relationship is more important to you.
Will you miss your girlfriend or your friend that's a girl more?
It's unfortunate, but it seems like you'll have to choose one over the other.

Answer 9

Who's more important to you? Your girlfriend has every right to ask you not to be around a woman who's a threat (you kiss her!) and at this point it's up to you to make a decision. Who means more to you, your bestfriend (who it seems as though you have romantic interests for) or your girlfriend.

Answer 10

If you love and respect your girl, you'll do what you can not to upset her.