So my husband and I agree to separate and do custody with our daughter. Man I was so relief. I never felt so happy in my life. This man gived me some hard time and he has some bad habits that he need to get check individually. I think he prefers the single life. He doesnt like anyone telling him anything & swing topics on you fast. So I ask him, do you really want to divorce me, he said no, but I need to sit and think about it because he saw we light up when he mention separate. I love being around him but we never go out and he always said I kill the moment when Im around his friends. If Im quite he question it, if not he still does. I dont get it. Marriage counselling? He doesnt want to put up the money so he's like, we could just live in the same household, and just be finacial buddies because I know when your finish school, you will prob. end up leaving. OMFG. Men. Thats the stuff that would make you want to. He's out now with his bf at a pajammer party.. :@
2007-12-22 16:39:27 · 13 answers · asked by Sassy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks everyone, for the advise. But I think Im just going to do myself for now. Monday Im going and apply for housing. I start college part-time in jan, and Im back to work in feb. from mat leave. I wish you all a merry christmas and a happy new year
2007-12-22 17:10:49 · update #1
marriage counseling, he has issues that need to be addresed
2007-12-22 16:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by the d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl let it go! He is suffering with the peter pan syndrome! HE refuses to grow up! He right out said he didnt want marriage counselling!
He even suggested you be finacial buddies. If he doesnt want out he should act like it. Make a stand to him! HE wants his cake and eat it to as the old saying goes!
And think about your daughter lets say she was being treated like that? I bet you would go off! Aslo you living under the same roof with him and you have a daughter. What lesson is she getting from him. Its ok to be treated that way. Is this really the person you want your daughter learning life lessons from!
Girl your out RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!! Never LOOK back, you really want to go back into a spot you just got out of you can contact me more if you like to chat I am angelic_dream72 or mlconner@liberty.edu
2007-12-23 00:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're actually on the same boat! I'm experiencing that right now. What I did? Left him!!! He's not really ready for being a family man. In fact, if you still continue that. He will just give you hundreds of excuses... And. You're life will be a miserable!! Give yourself a break! I know you love him but that's not enough. You need to love yourself too!
2007-12-23 00:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by julian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents are divorced because of like the same reason. I remember when my mom and dad were together she seemed very depressed all the time but now she's really happy. I bet its a hard decission but I would do it. Well do what you think is right, and good luck
2007-12-23 00:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys have pajama parties? yikes. i say give it another try. i mean, everybody has their faults right? u guys just need to learn to cooperate better i suppose, and leave open channels of communication *oh god i'm starting to sound like dr. phil* hey! try watching dr. phil actually. he's quite odd i understand, but i hear he is smart when it comes to relationships. i wouldn't try marriage counsellings, makes things awkward and uncomfortable; kinda like in high school if u tell on your best friend, it's weird right? same idea. good luck.
2007-12-23 00:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by ♦♣Black Jack Queen♥♠ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to court and get rid of him. I would be concerned about him having your daughter. If he doesn't have the time now she will not make him better. Let the judge figure it out.
2007-12-23 00:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that. If you are asking this question I think you know the answer, but you don't want to accept it. You know that you should leave. I am in the same situation, but I am not married.
2007-12-23 00:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by jazminqua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel relieved he wants to seperate and it's working for u stick to it. Don't settle for less life is to short. u make your own happiness or unhappiness. Would you be happier with or without him?
2007-12-23 00:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys having a pajama party? I think that would be the deciding factor for me :)
2007-12-23 00:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by Primrose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hunnie? if your happy about you n him splitting up ?den really! go for it! if its what you want.. then do it and get on with your life.. but he will always be in your life because you have a child together.. but you can do it i know you cant... Good luck!!!
2007-12-23 01:00:42 · answer #10 · answered by Tricia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋